My boyfriend an I have been dating for about 7 months but I still have feeling for my x. I love my boyfriend but I am also very much in love with my x. Am I not being honest to my boyfriend by not telling him how I feel about my past guy.My x an I broke up almost two years ago but I never got over him. What do I do?? My boyfriend now is about to ask my dad if he can marry me so it is getting serious. Do I tell him about how I feel about the "X"??
2007-01-19 07:27:27 · 30 answers · asked by Lissa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to let you guys know I am 22 and he is 23.My boyfriend and I have currently went to look at rings and he is planning on asking me this year sometime. My x has currently broken up with his girlfriend and is not dating anyone. I seen him the other day but from a distance I don't have his number any more so I can not call him.
2007-01-19 08:15:15 · update #1
Since you love your current boyfriend and you have been broken up for 2 years from your X then really the problem is in the fact that you have not done the work within you to get over your X. You can continue having a happy relationship with your current boyfriend and do some work to have closure on your past relationship by doing some journal writing about why you need to move on and get into reality about the fact that your X has moved on.
There is no reason for you to reserve room in your heart for someone who is not longer in your life. You could free up all those emotions to enjoy your current relationship. There is a book called "He's Just Not That Into You" and it talks about not waisting time on guys that don't totally dig you! Why do it! There is someone out there who will cherish you and only want to be with you, quit waisting your energy on a lost cause, and focus on the future! Good Luck M
2007-01-19 08:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mishika 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's your ex for a reason. You need to decide if you really want to try to get back with your ex because if what you feel for your ex is real you will jeopardize your current relationship. Are you still in love with him? or do you think you may still be in love with him? If you really loved him yo will probably always have feelings for him. It's a matter of how strong are those feelings. It could be he was your first (boyfriend or sex partner) and that's why the lingering feelings. If you think you may want to get back with your ex, you owe it to your current to let him know. If you feel that you can deal with those feelings but you know that there is no possible way of the two of you getting back together don't even tell him, but do try to GET OVER HIM if you want this relationship to work.
I don't know how old you are but it doesn't sound like marriage should even be considered at this point.
2007-01-19 07:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, first of all you need to be very honest too him right now not later be gentle cause apparently he's going too end up very hurt if you are not over your ex by now the should not marry this guy he needs too know the truth it would be a disaster if you keep pretending & not being honest too him . First of all, all relationships are based on Trust , Honesty & love & so far you have misplaced at least 2 of those on your boyfriend now sooo you need too talk too him right now . As I beleive you treat other people how you want other people too treat you !! In my opinon you are not ready for marriage & knowing someone for 7 months you surely do not know his person.
Good Luck & Best Wishes
2007-01-19 07:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by sweettexasangel12001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you think you just haven't gotten over your life with him or the man himself? If you are still in love with him you should not even be with another person right now;it's just not fair to them. You have to either come to terms with your feelings for the other man and try to reconcile with him or really work hard on letting him go so that you can love this new guy with all your heart. Definitely do NOT marry this guy if you know you still have feelings for someone else because it will come up later in the relationship when the time is not right. If you really just don't know what to do, yeah, tell him. What's the worst thing that could happen--he dumps you--then you don't need him to begin with if he can't take your honesty. Let it all out if you feel it's too much for you to deal with on your own. Don't let it stress you out.
2007-01-19 07:34:58 · answer #4 · answered by razzdeca101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. There's a saying that anything more than a two page letter (when writing to a partner) is a sign of being psychotic. I'm sure your boyfriend has heard this or something similar and what you're proposing to do is WAY more than a two page letter. If you WANT to see him run for the hills, go ahead. If not, think of something else!
2016-05-23 22:13:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no fucken sh*t.... Unless you want to get married and then divorced. Yeah your lieing to him, yeah you need to tell him, you shouldn't even get married till AT LEAStE 25,and you n your X are broken up for a reason so get over him.... He's old news n if its already been two years since you seen him the look the other way f*uck that guy. He's probably a lieing cheating bastard like the majority of them
2007-01-19 07:36:05 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if you want to lose him...keep in mind that you and your ex have been apart 2 years and never got back together (so it's time for you to move on)...also remember WHY he became your ex in the first place. However...unless you can totally love and commit to your current boyfriend, then don't marry him. It would not be fair for him if you're still stuck in the past
2007-01-19 07:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be fair if you told your boyfriend. How would you feel if you got married and then your husband told you he still had strong feelings for a past girlfriend? Keep in mind, an ex is an ex for a reason.
2007-01-19 07:32:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before anything goes on with the marrying thing you need to come out straightfoward about the X situation. You need to let him know that no matter what you love him and will be with him, and let him know that he is your X for a reason, if he wasnt you'd be trying to get together with him. You need to be honest before a huge stage like marriage. Hope it all works out ok.
good luck!
2007-01-19 07:31:23 · answer #9 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should think about what you like/disslike in both guys. And then if you still can't make up your mind maybe you should tell ur bf that you still love him but you need a little brake. Maybe then you will be able to think more clearly or see your X and decide.
Good Luck.
and remember to think about yourself too! Not just about everyone else's feelings!
2007-01-19 07:34:48 · answer #10 · answered by i lol alot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋