how do I get him to notice me?

Question

so......if you think you like a guy and you think he at least knows you exist....how do you figure out what to talk to him about. Im kind of shy so I'm not really sure how to start. I know that I should talk to him, so I don't need any answers like that. More in depth answers would be great! If you're not serious in answering the question and just feel the need to degrade me or insult me, please just don't answer the question. Its not worth your time....

Marc.....you're an ***.

Answer 1

Well, I really, really, was not planning to answer any more questions today. But when I saw some of the other answers, which totally did not do your question justice, I felt like I should answer this one.
First off, as a guy with five sisters, and many friends who are girls, I know that just because you don't have a boyfriend or lots of guys checking you out doesn't mean that you are fat or ugly. That is a stupid idea.
What is more likely to be true is that you are a more meaningful person. The vast majority of guys who are chasing girls are just doing it for the short-term, and not looking for a meaningful person (been there, done that, guilty as charged). Most of the guys who are actively out there pursuing girls have in their minds some "criteria", but really no way of figuring out how to apply it. So what happens is that they fall for the girls who are ditzes, flirts, and those who have no clue about respecting their bodies when it comes to clothes.
SIDENOTE - some people might tell you that the way to get him to notice you is to stretch the limits with your clothes. Well, if that is THE ONLY REASON that he notices you, he's one of those guys who is not worth anything! I have had a female classmate who came to class wearing a sports bra to get a guy's attention. Seriously, if it takes that...FORGET HIM!!
But I think that you have the right idea...the best way for him to start being attracted to you is by your mind! This is a much more lasting attraction than one that is just physical.
Key steps:
1. Observe. If you are a normal girl, you probably have already done this. You know what his favorite color of clothing is, who his friends are, maybe even some pretty personal stuff. So you have to observe something that will be USEFUL TO START A CONVERSATION WITH.
2.Interest. You must be able to GENUINELY express in whatever you decide to start out talking to him about. I know that myself and many other guys HATE it when some random girl comes up to us and talks about "Oh, that new heart-transplant research, blah,blah..." when it is obvious that she has no interest in the topic, and is just trying to hit on me.
3.DON'T KNOW TOO MUCH. I can hardly stress this enough...if you seem to know too much about a guy's personal life already (from all your observing), you are going to freak him out and make him think that you are a stalker. I personally know that you aren't a stalker, just because you have been watching a guy and have decided that you like him, but a lot of guys don't understand that that is how girls work.
4.Start small. This is important, not just for his sake, but for yours also. If you get way too emotionally involved in the first conversation, you are setting yourself up for problems. Guys LOVE it when a girl can come up to them, start a friendly conversation about something interesting for 5mins, and then say "Have a nice day! See you around!" A guy is MUCH more likely to want to talk to that girl again as opposed to the one who just carries on for half an hour, and drones on and on about "How nice it was to talk to you." Then, after the conversation, do not dwell on it too long. Otherwise, you will start worrying about something you said that maybe you hurt your chances or something. Most guys are not trained investigators, so they have no idea about the details of a conversation 10 minutes later.
5.Confidence. This goes a lot with what I just said. A guy is more likely to remember the attitude you had during a conversation than what you said. If you just allow yourself to be comfortable, and not worried about the conversation, you will come across the right way.
6.Questions. People like it if you ask genuine questions which show an interest without being nosy. Guys, especially, like to show that they are knowledgeable about a subject. If a girl asks a guy a genuine question actually looking for his opinion, his male ego meter will shoot way, way up =). Also, the way he responds to a question will give you a better idea if he is the type of guy you would want to go out with...you don't want one who is toooooo stuck on his own intelligence (though most guys are to some extent).

If you have those six points down, you really are better off than almost anybody. Five, and you will impress the guy. Four, and you still stand a very good chance.

But I think you are really looking a little more for answers about WHAT to say. I understand this, because I used to be a slightly shy person too. Since I do not know ANY specifics of what sort of person you are or he is - whether you are high-schoolers or 30somethings, or what sort of context you know him in...work, church, school, or something else - I have a hard time coming up with specific words for you to say when you start the conversation.
I will theorize that you are in high school...let's say he is on the school debate team.
You: Hi, "Boy", how are you today
Boy:Uh, I'm great, thanks
You:Is it true that you're on the debate team?
Boy:Uh, yeah
You:What is your favorite thing about that?
(Open-ended question, now he is forced into a conversation, and the rest is up to you...If he is a halfway decent guy, he will treat your genuine question and you with respect)

Well, those are really just ideas...it is important that WHATEVER you do or say, you just need to be NATURAL.

I hope that this helped a little. If he is the right guy for you, may you be successful! =) Hey, you asked for an in-depth answer =)

Answer 2

Anna, don't take this in the wrong way, but you probably are FAT & UGLY and that is why guys never notice you. The question you have to ask your self is WHY WOULD ANY GUY WOULD WANT TO BE SEEN WITH A FAT UGLY COW. You really should take the time to improve your self image and then guys would notice you. BUT FOR NOW IT SUCKS TO BE YOU.

Answer 3

i no your talking about me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!