My sons future?

Question

My son starts high school this year, and Im worried about him getting involved with gangs, drugs etc, so I bought a small 10 foot boat and motor, and I know he loves fishing and camping so I will take him into the great outdoors on weekends (or whenever he wants to) and hopefully this will help keep him away from negative elements, what do you think??????

Answer 1

♥ ♥ that is a good idea...be encouraging to him, and talk to him about gangs and drugs, if you know someone who can share their experience with him encourage them to talk to him openly and plainly...those are some hard years coming up.. good luck♥ ♥

Answer 2

Running away is not the solution. Your son must face what is ahead of him and hopefully he will stay on the right track. I had the same fears with my son and I can now tell you that I believe that I have raised him just fine, he made the right choices and is definitely on the right track. He is 17 years old and is in his last year of high school, does not do drugs, does not drink Alcohol and is a top student ( no he is not a nerd ). The thing to do is to be open with your son and let him know what is acceptable and what is not. Keep a good eye on him and let the rest take its toll. Good Luck.

Answer 3

I don't think this will do the trick. This sounds like something you wanted. This would be as if my husband bought me season tickets to the Bears. I don't really care about football but he does. It would really be a present for him. Spending weekends fishing will help you have time together and to get closer - if he doesn't feel forced into to doing it. However, everyday activities will help more. If he is too busy to get involved with drugs and gangs, he won't. Find him after school classes in things he likes to do. Guitar, sports, art, etc. Encourage him to participate in school sponsored extracurricular activities. He'll need them on his record for getting into college anyway. Plus, the debate team doesn't usually have a lot of gang members on it.

Answer 4

I am a high school teacher. I teach in a classroom for students who have behavioral challenges. Many of them are in gangs, most of them do drugs and some of them are parents themselves. Although they all have very different personalities and levels of intelligence there is one thing they all have in common, thier parents are not involved in thier lives. For example, when it is parent/teacher night, I call the parents/guardians of my students and personally invite them to come and discuss thier child's progress... in 7 years the largest number of parents I have seen on conference night is 2....

I guess the point that I am trying to make is that if you want your child to stay away from all the negatives... keep yourself involved in his life! The boat is a fabulous idea... Go to parent night, get to know what classes he likes and why, if you have concerns call the teacher that he seems to like the best, if he is involved in sports go to the games, make sure you know who his friends are and who thier parents are... Be home at night and available! Let him know that if there is something that he needs to talk about no matter what it is you are willing to listen.... Talk to him about drugs, drinking, smoking, sex, gangs.... The only way to keep him away form the negative is to show an interest and stay involved... All the things you have already done to be a good and responsible parent.

Good luck!

Answer 5

To be honest, I don't think it will help that much. Because he will probably try to go on the boat and going camping with his friends without you and could do what he wants. But if he is a good kid you shouldn't have to worry. Just keep being involed like you are now , and I'm sure he'll be fine.

Answer 6

Good idea to let him know that you like to spend time with him and do things both of you enjoy doing. However, there will be weekends when he will want to go out with friends, go to school sports events, dances, on dates, etc...so I wouldn't count on fishing and camping every weekend. You seem like a caring parent...so trust that you did your best in raising him and he will make the right decisions...and enjoy the weekends he does want to go camping and fishing! When he grows older, he will appreciate the times spent with you

Answer 7

i think talking to him about what is right and wrong will help a lot also love him more than anything and let him really feel the love and he will have no need to look for it somewhere else because that is usually why kids get involved with gangs they don't feel the love at home.

Answer 8

I think it's up to you. But, let me tell you, the worse thing for a boy that age is tv becousethey see gangs and like the way they look, they see that drugs are "cool" like gangs. But, who am I to answer you this question? It's up to you.

Answer 9

he will get to the point where he wants to go out on the boat with his friends. that will turn into a party so be carefull about that. keep him as involved in extra curricular activities as can be because that has been a proven deterrent to juvenile delinquency.

Answer 10

as a Mom of 3 boys (who never were in trouble - thank God) they were involved in sports, I got in their business of friends etc to know who what and where they were doing; open conversations about everything; it is all in the contact, conversation and openness that you have with them; ask questions, know what is going on etc ; get involved. ; my sons , one works for a company as compliance director, other one , a police officer now and the youngest, journalist major - Good luck - it isn't easy, I know

Answer 11

That is a very good idea. Being involved with your children keeps them busy and and you will maintain a close relationship and develope a strong bond.