My son is 9yrs old. He's a sweet kid, loving, funny, caring...but he LIES! All the time. For no reason, for small reasons. I don't know what to do. HELP!
2007-01-19 07:09:40 · 25 answers · asked by yami 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You have to really explain to him the difference between right & wrong. Explain that lying is wrong & that by doing it he is hurting you. Explain what it feels like to be emotionally hurt...which becomes physicall hurt when maifested through tears, headaches, stomach aches. Explain that the only way for you to trust him & help him is to know the truth.
2007-01-19 07:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
does he get it from you? If so that is the problem. Either way you have a couple of options.
1.) Story of the boy who cried wolf. Except make your own realistic version that he can relate to. Yes you may be lying but he won't figure out till he is old enough and can understand why you made up that crazy story.
2.) Discipline and follow through. Don't believe anything he says all day. He will start to cry and ask why. Tell him because he lies all the time
3.) Do nothing after a his lie, pretend like he fooled you. Ask Who wants ice cream! (he will say me) Tell him you will get u guys some later. Later on go to the ice cream shop and get some ice cream for your self, he will say "What about me" Tell him you lied about getting him ice cream. He will start crying. Explain to him how it hurts to be lied too and its not right, remind him how he lied earlier. Do not buy him ice cream. He will remember (This is an advance parenting tip, i don't recommend it for newbies)
2007-01-19 08:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he ever caught you in a lie? IF so this might be the reason for it - I know only 9 but still they are always smarter then you think.
OTHER then that I would recommend reading him "The kid that cried wolf" Although a childrens book sometimes I think this can even teach some adults about lying!
When you finally read it you will see what I mean.
2007-01-19 07:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by alley7@rogers.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that mendacity is worth of spanking yet performed in a comfortable and managed environment. mendacity leads to separation from God and His advantages and also you want to get administration over it now. He needs you to do something even though it ought to be out of affection and love isn't a be conscious yet an action. do not imagine that 4 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous isn't paying interest because he's and believe me...I have a huge blended relations and my husband toOK administration of the area. make confident he's conscious that that is a nasty habit no longer that liars are undesirable human beings, in case you probably did that in basic terms reiterate. that is okay to confess being incorrect and starting up out on the right foot. he will love and appreciate you in case you're taking this matter below administration. mendacity can bring about being a nasty habit which leads to stealing, hurting, dishonest and all different existence threatening issues. Spanking is about saving the soul. call him faraway from others in a private room, tell him what he did(in common words you communicate) or ask him to inform you what he did that became incorrect, tell him in a nuetral tone of voice that you'll spank him (because he became warned privioulsy) have him pull his pants down and spank a million time witha belt adequate to sting real good) crying is major, by technique of ways, and hug him and reassure that you want him and also you in common words want him to be a robust man or woman and bypass on and do not do it back. do not elevate the matter back till you locate out genuinely he has lied back and repeat...it may take some cases although that is going to artwork and also you'll have a loving and honest step son.
2016-10-15 11:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? I knew this kid who always would lie, and it would disgust me. They were never harmful lies, but ones that he would use to try to look superior- like he memorized the entire dictionary, or owned a go-kart track in the backyard of his apartment. These were all big lies, and they weren't pleasing to hear. No one liked him because they never knew what was the truth and what wasn't, plus they felt wierd around him.
Stop your kid before this happens. If talking doesn't work, well- go to the next option- a whack. Honestly, I would just smack him. As sucky as that sounds, just do it. Maybe just with your hand, but spank him- tell him no more lying. Next time he lies, do it again. Teach him that honesty is the way to go.
2007-01-20 08:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by Misswhatever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder why he lies? Is he scared of you? Maybe he just thinks of it as tricking you and is just playing with you. I would just have a long talk with him explaining why he shouldn't tell lies. Remind him of the story about the little boy who cried wolf and if possible give him other examples too.
Explain to him the difference in a trick or joke and a lie.
Next time he lies to you, grab him and act like you are the wolf going to eat him up because no one came to save him.
I would not suggest that you act like a child yourself and lie to him. That is not a good example and he will lose respect for you if you do mean things to him.
2007-01-19 07:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by Not Laughing w/ U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how proud you are of him when he tells the truth and how sad it makes you when he lies. When you do find him telling the truth, give him lots of positive reinforcement. Kids really do want to make their parents happy and proud. After awhile, give him a little surprise gift or outing for good behavior.
In addition, he may think that you'll get mad if he tells you the truth sometimes. Tell him that it's always better to tell the truth, because lying means double trouble for him when you find out the truth, which I'm sure you eventually do.
2007-01-19 09:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by tarynm 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Catch him in as many lies as you can. and everytime you do punish him some how and tell him thats what he gets for lieing. Reward him if he tells the truth. Maybe you should read him the book about the little boy who cried wolf?
Im sure its just a stage... my little cousin (not sure her exact age) maybe 6? she lies about everything too and shes not very good at it. She will steal gum out of my aunts purse and hide it all in an empy vhs case then chew a piece right in front of us. shes sneeky llol but little kids are always easy to catch
2007-01-19 07:17:12 · answer #8 · answered by Mindless 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My children became slave person if they were caught in a lie. That meant that after homework until the time they showered for bed, they did chores. The worst ones I could think of. Cleaning the basement, cleaning out the car, bathrooms. It was a little work to get their list going. The number of days depended on how severe the lie was. It worked they hated it, and lying was no longer an issue.
2007-01-19 07:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by cuinclaz 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd first try giving him consequences for his behavior, because that is certainly what he will have when he grows up. If that doesn't work, and I say this sympathetically, he may be a pathological liar. They make up stories for some reason and live their lives in another state of mind, it seems. Call a child psychologist and find out exactly what's going on. View it as a positive thing and convey that to him to. Don't make it seem like a punishment. I wish you the best of luck!
2007-01-19 07:17:40 · answer #10 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋