I need to clerify that they have been living with him for 2 years. I live 6 blocks away. they chose to live with him as I am with my own mother and her home was not big enough for all of us. I don't know how to let their feelings out. They seem depressed and angry, also at their father. Especially my 14 yr old daughter. There was a time she never wanted top leave his side, now she is angry that he is sick and is tired of caring for him.
2007-01-19 07:07:09 · 4 answers · asked by snicks 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
That's understandable. She shouldn't be caring for him--not solely. Please talk to him or his significant other and get a professional to take care of him. It shouldn't be the job of his children.
As far as their feelings, that, too, is normal. They are already grieving and everyone grieves differently. Just be there for them. Maybe take them out to eat to give them a break from being over there. Or a movie.
2007-01-19 07:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're going to feel that for a while. Most children blame them selves for things that happen between parents or to parents alone. All they really wanted in life is to be protected and secure. Now that their Father is passing they may not know how to feel them selves at all. Your just going to have to talk to the Father and see if he can clarify to the kids on whats really going to happen and how things are going to change without him. And maybe get them some counseling.
Good luck! Make sure and hug and kiss them a lot and let them know that you love them and that you will be there for them.
2007-01-19 15:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by Whos your mama? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's normal for her to feel that way. She's been forced to grow up too fast. It sounds like it's your turn to be a parent now. Do whatever it takes to support them and finish raising them. Or you could make things worse by refusing and letting them go into foster care.
2007-01-19 15:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by jenjen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children are angry that they are losing their father. This is normal behavior with Young kids who love their parents. You need to sit them down and explain to them the realities of his cancer. Then you need to allow them to express themselves with no holding back. Then you, as a parent, needs to make sure you do not snap, yell, ridicule, etc at them for this expression. They need to understand they can come to you with ANY problem and you will understand.
The bottom line is simple...you just have to be honest and open with them and allow them the same to you. Life isn't always fair but we have to make the best of it. They will feel this way for awhile, but you provide encouragement and in time, they will be back and moving one. The memory of their father can keep their dreams and goals alive.
2007-01-19 15:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by S H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋