bf doesnt wont chilldren with me when were bit older cause im dyslexic?

Question

me and my bf are both 18 and we were talking on the phone when were older if we are still togther about having chilldren and he got pissed off and shouted out i dont wont chilldren when im older.than he said he wont hes chilldren to go to univerty.i have slight form of dyslexica its not very bad but i still have bad trouble with maths,english,spelling,handwritting,read and bad memory,i forget things very easly.if i have chilldren they will get dyslexica like me.and he got pissed off cause he wonts hes chilldren to go to univerty.it upset me so much.but how do i let him know taht it hurt me and could he change hes mind if were still togther.

Answer 1

your bf sounds like a total plonker
Dyslexia is not hereditary

Answer 2

Of course it hurt you. That was very insensitive of him.
Now, remember that you two are only 18; And what one wants at 18, is very often very different from what one wants at 22, let alone later on.
Besides, women do mature quicker than men. At 18, your boyfriend is very young indeed, whereas, as a girl, we've been programmed with looking after others, care for them etc..., wherewas boys would be playing all day, with not a worry in the world. So, don't take it too much at heart.
You should still just tell him though that he hurt your feelings by his reaction.
What's more, being dyslexic is in no way being stupid, and many dyslexic people go to university, become writer, producer, etc...
You may be the one dumping him in fact. Doesn't sound like he's very clever and he is totally insensitive.
So, from now on, you must make sure that you look after yourself and don't let boyfriend, friends or anyone put you down.
Dyslexic doens't mean stupid; And unfortunately I can't remember their names, but many have achieved great things.
Just type dyslexic celebrities or producers and you'll see.
Good luck babe.xx

Answer 3

How does your BF view your own disability?
Does he feel a bit ashamed?
FIrst, I know people, personally, who are dyslexic and have graduated from college.
It is not disorder that prevents you from going to college.
Yes, it is a disability.
But, it does not mean that you are dumb.
There are many sites on disabilities and how to accommodate for them.
Secondly, just because you have dyslexic does not mean that your children will. I have not done the genetics, but there is a small chance.
try:
www.ability.org
www.rfbd.org
I can't think of other sites off the top of my head.
But, your BF should be proud to have children with you w after he marries you.
There are learning strategies that will help you learn more effectively, if a child does have it.
But, like I said, the genetic possibilities (I believe) are less than .25%.

Answer 4

WOW, that is pretty crazy. She should be so blessed to have a daughter that is acting so responsibly, when she is not being so responsible herself! Her boyfriend works and she does not and she is raising a baby? And it seems you are having to take on more responsibility for the house even though you are not going to be living there forever. I think your mom is worried that if you meet someone you will possibly move out soon to be with the boyfriend and then no one will be there to pay all of her bills! She is scared she may have to go out and get a job, God forbid! I think you should start dating, if you meet the right person. And don't tell mom. Mom seems to be a bit selfish and I think you absolutely deserve some happiness for all of your hard work. Have a great life!

Answer 5

Your boyfriend sounds ignorant.
I know of many people who have Dyslexia and have gone to University and been successful in their exams, they all said it was worth it but obviously very difficult, and of course it is for many people who don't have Dyslexia.

If he got pissed off about having children with you over uni, what does he really think of you?

You can do better. Why be with someone who puts you down like that?


BTW why don't you find out about adult classes that help improve your memory, maths etc?

Answer 6

Dump him, i too have suffered with this, both my children are in high paid jobs and have not got any sign of dyslexic, and there's no reason why yours would have it either, its not catching.I hate it when this happens, people can be so naive . You are so brave and wish you could find a half decent bloke, do yourself a flavour and let this guy go and ask yourself why was he with you, if he wasn't thinking long term,be good to yourself.

Answer 7

There is a chance that your children would have dyslexia, but doesnt mean they will. So it's unfair for him to be so set on his ways. Cause I mean it's not hereditary. Just let him know that it hurt you. If he cares about you he will understand of how it hurt you. But also remember ya'll are only 18 and ya'll still have your lives ahead of you. So good luck Sweety and I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 8

oh what an absoloute a--- hole does he think people with dyslexia dont go to uni!!!! oh how uneducated he must be tell him in no uncertain terms hes an uneducated snob feel free to give him my e mail address a lot of famous people have dyslexia that are very sucsessful sorry love hes done you a favour get rid quick
xx

Answer 9

You are both only 18 so why are you looking so far ahead? Go to adult education classes and learn to use a spell checker on a compuer and you will improve anyway,

Answer 10

he sounds like a real dic get rid of him and find somebody worth your time. Dyslexia is not hereditary.

Answer 11

Kick him to the curb honey! It don't matter what you have! He should love you for you and be willing to have kids with you no matter what! I don't care if he wants them to do anything if he actually loved you he wouldn't have said such hurtful things.
Kimimila Ann