Why won't my boyfriend talk to me?

Question

i don't know whats been going on with him. he hasn't replied to my calls or emails for days. I'm guessing he's mad or something because I spilled tea in his laptop. But he shouldn't be because I paid for the repairs. I'm so confused, why does he still save my emails if he won't even pick up the phone? How can I get him to start talking to me again?

Answer 1

His silence is a form of manipulation and an immature way of retaliating and seeking retribution ("I'll make her pay for doing this to me."). Since you paid for the repairs, and I assume he didn't lose anything valuable that was stored in the computer, I'd stop calling and e-mailing him. Don't play the game. Eventually, he'll call or e-mail you to find out why his little ploy isn't working. I'd even be tempted to make one last phone call. Consider calling and leaving one last message saying that you know he's mad at you but you thought he'd at least have the maturity to express himself openly instead of giving you the silent treatment. Tell him you assume by his silence that he no longer wants a relationship with you and, while that makes you very sad, you'll respect his wishes and won't call him anymore. Then don't! If your relationship were to extend to marriage, this guy would use silence as his way of punishing you for anything he perceives as a personal affront. Do you really want that? You sound like a decent human being (you did the right thing, after all, by paying for repairs). You want someone with enough maturity to tell you how he feels, what he's thinking and then gets over it.

Answer 2

Stop trying to talk to him. Be independent. He shouldn't be mad at you for the tea on labtop thing. It was an accident and you paid for the repairs. He's to afraid to tell you to your face he doesn't want to talk to you I bet.

Answer 3

First things first why havnt you confronted him? if some one doesnt pick up or reply to emails go up to them and get there attention. like "hey i've been trying to get a hold of you whats up?" that should have been one of your first re-actions. If any of my girlfriends would talk to me i would go over to their house and be like was "good where ya been?" The best way to deal with any situation is face to face hit me back if it works or your money back

Answer 4

Dear Jennifer,
sometimes we all need a little space. My advice is to take a break, have some tea, and when he's
ready he'll be E-Mailing you in no time at all

Answer 5

you need to go to his house with a little gift and a little card saying ho much you are sorry about what happend and next time you will be more carefull and also tell him, how much you love him go to the park and tell how much that you love him and that you are sorry for what happened. Or maybe he may have someone else who knows but I hope he doesn't good luck to you.

Answer 6

Just ignore him until he talks to you. Give him something worth fighting for. Guys don't like chicks that chase them, and you hounding him isn't helping any.

Answer 7

when u see him, grab him in a harmfull way, nd hugg him, tell him ur sorry for everthing u did, or everthing u gonna do, nd he'll see how u really feel bout dis nd then ask him why he ant talkin to u

Answer 8

Maybe he's not your boyfriend anymore. How do you know he saves your emails?

Answer 9

like most guys he doesn't care about you, per se, but he enjoys the sex and that's the ONLY reason he's staying with you.

until he finds someone better, he will not leave you

Answer 10

you can't.

If he wants to talk to you, he will. You can't force him to do anything. Forget about him until he calls, it'll be better for you.