I am tired of being snobbed out by men who won't even give me a chance because I didin't go to college. These men are usually financially secure and about 10-18 years older than me (i'm 40). I would think that it would equal out: I date a man with a better education than me and he dates a woman much younger than him. Most of these men's exwives had college educations or are professional women so I wonder why they are divorced? What is a could way to get one of these guys to give me a chance and not mark me off when we have so many other things in common, and besides most of them already have a house and stuff so why would I have to make so much money?
2007-01-19 06:48:29 · 39 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a high school graduate and also graduated from a technical school although I never found work related to that.
2007-01-19 06:56:18 · update #1
I would like to add that just because I didn't go to college, I can talk correctly and do keep ahead of current events and have traveled internationally. I am surprised very often that these men that I meet are not away of the crime problems in their own city and have no idea what is going on.
2007-01-19 07:01:23 · update #2
people get too independant like that, and thats a contributing factor to divorce sometimes. Im not saying that its WRONG for 2 professionals to marry, but not THAT long ago none (or very few) of the women had college degrees and look how much lower the divorce rate was back then. Theres nothing wrong with you not having a degree, so stand your ground. Youll find someone!!
2007-01-19 06:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by Christines256 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I think it has more to do with what you have in common rather than money. I didn't date guys without a college degree because I just didn't relate to them and their lives. I worked hard, acrued debt, and then struggled my first few years for a career that I am passionate about. How can I relate to someone that basically goes for the best paying low skilled job they can find? You didn't say what you do but I'm guessing it isn't something that you planned to do. I tried dating tradespeople but they are also living in a different world. It is all about unions, and people say things like, "this isn't my job." Where I work, we all pitch in. I make coffee, meet with CFOs, fax things, sell million $ programs, ect. I don't have a secretary or gopher to do things for me. I don't have a union telling me what I can and can't do. How can I relate to a union plumber? Some of them make a lot more money than I do. So it isn't about money. I dated a blue collar union guy that made double what I made but felt threatened by my career when I received a promotion. So, it works both ways.
If you want to meet someone that has a good career and life, maybe you need to start on the path to getting your own career and good life first. Learning is an amazing thing. You might be surprised at the doors it will open up for you. It is never too late. I have a cousin that didn't have a college degree. She recently put herself through medical school at age 40. Now, she is close to 50 but finally has a career and life that she is happy with. Go for it!
2007-01-19 07:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by chicagowoman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DOn't worry. Most time they just want to be with someone who has a degree just for appearances. can U imigine bill gates sating a hillbilly. Well, I'm exagerating but people like to date others who are at the same status. I was dating a man with out a degree and (i have one). He was a great person but things about him ticked me off here and there. He was not very responsible and couldn't keep a job. He was making minimum and I felt like I had to pay all the time, which I didn't but felt like. He found stupid stuff to be super funny and if we were watching something educational he made stupid comments about it. I think u need to find you man through a dating site because if you're always after the ones with degrees or teh ones that have houses and money, it makes U look like a golddigger. This men think money and might think, If anything goes down, she's goign to want some money. Cheer up! don't feel bad about Ur status. Try attending a class at the college level and you'll see its not the biggest thing in life and its not super hard you just gotta want na.
2007-01-19 06:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by Junia Z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they look down on you because you are not as educated as them, then they probably aren't worth your time anyways. Educated doesn't always mean smart. There are some very highly educated people who have no common sense what so ever. If these men don't know that they should judge you based on your character and integrity instead of how many years you went to school then they obviously don't have any common sense. Don't let these men make you feel bad about yourself, they are missing out not you. Be proud and confident with who you are and you will find a great guy that will love you for you.
2007-01-19 06:58:34 · answer #4 · answered by Lin_Z 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because men these days actually like women who can stand on their own financially, it's a weight off their backs if the marriage heads south. And sure, maybe you make plenty of dough doing whatever it is that you do, but the consensus has always been (and always will be, I'm afraid) that educated women make more money...they don't necessarily make better wives or people, for that matter, but you've gotta see the situation as one dimensionally as a man does...it's a stretch, I know. And have you been blowing off men your age who don't have an education? Maybe you shouldn't have such high standards, make it easier to find someone to love you for you and not what you can give them.
2007-01-19 06:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You have replied to yourself when asked the question... Just bcoz they are SNOB !!!
To have a college degree is not any guaranty for anything. I have a degree, and i know lot of pple with one too, that are the worst educated pple all over the world. I dont know your level of education, but if you said that had lot of things in common with that guys, your education cant be bad at all.
But also.......you make me think that you are only looking for financial security, and not for a good and stable relationship.Why cant you date a worker or a man without degree?What is bad in that?To be the wife of one lawyer or an architect, wont make you better person.
Love dont come with a certificate......if it is really love what you are searching for.
Good luck
2007-01-19 06:59:53 · answer #6 · answered by حلاَمبرا hallambra 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not bad at all. It is all egoism and status.
Personally, I wouldn't bother with such men, honestly.
I am a decade older than you and still single but with a degree.
I am happier like this without having to even ''try'' to be in their league, so to say. Why should I be?
I'd rather be dependent on my own meagre salary than to be married to such egoistic men!!
Yeah, I wonder why they got divorced too....
[Edit: You mentioned most of them already have a house and stuff so why would you have to make so much money? <<<< that sounds so much like you are after those stuff. Perhaps you should lower your standard a little and look at other men your level of education? ]
2007-01-19 06:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by winterlotus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly, they are worried that you will be wanting to use them for their money/house.
Funny, but it goes both ways, I am 50, widowed, have a house, and am always approached by guys who want to move in right away - on three separate first dates, it was brought up. Can you believe that? I don't date anymore, because I can see what they are looking for.
Maybe the guys you are dating are getting "gun shy" as well, and you are being snubbed because they have had this same type of experience?
So, is it possible to steer conversation away from educational qualifications until you two fall madly in love, and just wow them with your personality, style, and ability to listen to their ramblings?
2007-01-19 06:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by Vivian D 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Educated professionals are not interested in getting into a LTR with an uneducated woman. Guys that have a degree and work in the business world want someone that they can talk to and make plans for a future. They generally only get into a casual NSA situation with women that don't have a good job and can't hold up their end of a conversation.
2007-01-19 06:55:52 · answer #9 · answered by lunasage 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If the guy "snobbed you out", you should thank him. He is not the one for you. I know so many people with only a HS education that are smarter than MBA's. Keep looking for a great man that will treat you like a queen for who you are and not how well educated you are. You can always go back to college if you want.
2007-01-19 06:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by Colette B 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋