i've worked with this guy for a few weeks and got quite friendly. gave him my mobile number and said if he'd like to come out with me and some of the other people from work then he'd be welcome. but he didn't text. that was a week or so ago and he was then on holiday for a week. since he's been back he's asked me what i'm doing at the weekend a couple of times but i haven't asked him out again. can't really understand why he hasn't texted if he's interested. what do you think? bit confused.
2007-01-19 06:48:27 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Any chance he doesn't have a cell phone? Or that he's one of us cave people who's never even tried text messaging?
Still that doesn't explain why he didn't call you. Could be because he knows he will see you at work anyway?! Yes he is interested, at least in hanging out as friends and who knows, maybe that could lead to more. Plan an outing with your friends for the weekend and invite him to come along.
Some of the answers here are crazy. You gave the guy your number only one week ago and then he went on vacation! Chill out man!! You just don't KNOW if he's your eternal soulmate, or just a guy you might hang out with, or he has a girlfriend, boyfriend, whatever. Take a chance and get to know him! Don't listen to all the nutters that say your only supposed to give him a nanoblip of a chance to prove he loves you when he hardly even knows you! Zeesh!
2007-01-19 06:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is asking about your weekend, then he is interested. Just make sure that you know him well and he is not just a flirt with another side relationship that he is hiding. Seems that if he has had the opportunity to get with you at some point and didnt, and then again continues to flirt with the idea, something else might be up. Some guys like to see how far they can go......TESTS THEIR SKILLS. However, he could be very shy and you may have to make the first move. In either case, the interest from him is there.
2007-01-19 06:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by Michael M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as though he probably is interested, but most men (except the wrong types) need a bit of a push in the right direction.
Men aren't very good at texting in my my experience. So why don't you just invite him to get a bite to eat after work to start off with, then it's nothing too heavy to start off with. This way you will get far more of an idea as to what he's about and how "in to you" he is.
2007-01-19 06:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by Charlie J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he could be a afraid of losing u as a friend if he where to overstep the mark, he could of been thinking about u the whole week on holiday and thought about asking u out .and what if u said no !
u ask to go out with u and some others ,
u could ask him if he'd like to go out with u ,easeier said than done .
but i think he would like that.
the text situation some people aren't in to texting it is not that he dosen't want to talk to u.
2007-01-19 07:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by johnc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels intimidated in going out with a group of people he doesn't know (assuming that these people aren't work colleagues). just ask him if he'd like to have lunch or a coffee with you at some time, at least then it's a one-to-one and you can get to know him better without the distraction of your friends.
2007-01-19 06:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by Chay D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to be honest with you maybe hes not all that into texting if you probably just go up to him and ask him hey did you get my text than you will get your answer, but I say instead of inviting him to a little get together with friends why wont you ask him for a lil one on one time like maybe lunch or dinner together or ask him if hes taken...
good luck
2007-01-19 06:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was just busy that weekend. Still he should have sent something like "Not going to make it but we should do something another time". Ask him out again casually, if he doesn't go, or at least have the courtesy to tell you he's not going then it's probably a no.
2007-01-19 06:52:11 · answer #7 · answered by splat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a girl I liked asked me to come out with her and a whole bunch of other people, I'd think that SHE wasn't interested and was just being friendly. Either that, or she didn't trust me and needed the security of a mob in case my hands started roaming around.
How can you spark up any romance between the two of you with your workmates hanging about?
Maybe he's not particularly interested in you, perhaps you just have your hopes up.
2007-01-19 08:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he may think he has blown his chance with u for not texting, there may be a number of reasons for him not doing so, but if you are interested in him then tell him or flirt with him, he may then send signals out to you. But if he doesn't then move on, hope this helps
2007-01-19 06:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by bamco19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop analysing the situation. Just do a bit of GENTLE flirting and seeif he asks you out. If not find someone else.
2007-01-19 06:51:10 · answer #10 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋