would you stay with this man and have his kids?

Question

my husband is always focused on his money and his job mainly himself. its always him him him. meanwhile he will give me a lot of his money thinking it will shut me up and it doesnt. he says he wants a family but he wont make the yard look nice or even maintain our pool. it gets green all the time. he puts little effort in to me in the bedroom and he puts little effort into our home . he puts all his effort into his money making. he over does it. when he has spare time and he has a lot of it he just wants to have fun fun fun. but yet he says he wants a family. if he isnt putting his effort into our home or me sexually but he will with money would you have a family with this man would you stay faithful to this guy

Answer 1

Maybe you need to sit down with him and reassess your life. Tell him your feelings of frustration. Maybe you are just living a lifestyle that doesn't suit him or you. Tell him it isn't about money. Counseling might help this. Maybe he feels you aren't putting any effort into things that are important to him. You clearly need to communicate.

Regardless, you should not be cheating on him. If you can't make it work even with counseling, then get out. What's the point of being married if you are sleeping with other people? Seems like at that point you would both be better off apart.

Answer 2

Are you being too hard on him ? is he working all the hours because he wants a nice home for you both to live in?Do you work why cant you both sort out the pool etc ,you say he likes to have fun,fun,fun,does that mean with you or does he leave you at home,i think you should talk to him and explain how you feel ,maybe you are both stuck in a rut ,go have fun together ,talk , and if you dont think you are getting anywhere then maybe its time to call it a day ,best wishes x

Answer 3

You need to tell your husband exactly how you are feeling. Tell him that you need to spend some quality time together, just the two of you. Suggest a weekend away somewhere not necessarily too far away to start off with.

Then plan a nice holiday somewhere later on. Meanwhile, if children are on the agenda you need to discuss this. I used to say to my husband "When we have children we will have to..." etc.

Ok, I admit most men aren't perfect, but I do try to involve my husband in as much as possible, and if I'm not happy about something he has done (and vice versa) we iron it out so to speak.

You really need to start talking more. Things that are unsaid just brew into trouble. Take the bull by the horns...

Answer 4

Do not have children as things will only get worse and you will become more and more resentful.. Make the break now and give yourself time and space before you start thinking about dating anyone else. Don't just be unfaithful unless his money means more to you than the chance of happiness or you are too scared of being alone (no that does not give you permission.)