I was about to get married with the guy i have loved for 8 years.
Everything was planned. From the church where we are about to tie knots down to the gown that i was about to wear. I avoided all the beliefs when it comes to wedding like wearing your gown beforew the wedding day. Before, all i could imagine is how happy we will be since we can be together forever but now, all i am thinking is how am i gonna cope up with the loss of my fiance. He died the night before our wedding because his friend stabbed him in the heart. That guy was a sudden drug-addict. My fiance's death and memory keeps on hunting me. This friend of his was the guy i dumped 4 years before i met my fiance. Is there anything i can do to gain some peace not only for myself but also for the death of my fiance. I don't even know now how to deal with life. Feels like im useless and incomplete without him...
2007-01-19 06:43:08 · 14 answers · asked by peek-a-boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you are in the UK contact CRUSE. they have specially trained bereavement cousellors who will be able to help you get through this.
2007-01-19 06:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by D B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh babe, what an awful thing to happen.
I'm so terribly sorry to hear that and yes, you must hurt so much.
You've been twice deprived of your happiness; the death by murder of your fiance.
It's must be so terribly hard to cope with.
Yet, yet, you have to keep going honey.
I bet your late fiance didn't love you just because you were smart and beautiful; probably full of life and awfully nice too.
Maybe you need to meet people who've been through a similar situation, so that they can understand exactly what you're going through and offer you their shoulder to cry on when you can't take it anymore.
Also honey, you need to be strong, and your fiance would have liked you to be happy and be a happy person.
He'll always be in your heart, as he didn't do anything to hurt you, but you are allowed to love and enjoy life again. He would certainly want that for you.xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
2007-01-19 07:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hhhmmm... seems you are in the very least stretching the truth.. see looking back at your questions:
6 months ago you were 27, in love with a missionary and were a good christian girl, even though you were engaged to be married with a guy you had been with for 8 (going on 9 you add) years who was leaving you because his friend lied about a "secret affair" while being courted for 3 months by a "nice bloke" that you wanted to buzz off, AND you had amnesia
5 months ago you were 20 and had a boyfriend
3 months ago you thought you were pregnant and your boyfriend's mom was slapping you around
2 weeks ago you were turning 18 in June
yesterday you were thinking you were pregnant again...
some how I don't believe any of it... maybe you have watched a few too many soaps... or wish you were on one... delusional either way..
so thanks for the 2 points, and maybe I'll start giving your questions real answers when you join the rest of us back in reality.
2007-01-19 07:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by bensbabe 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My sincerest sympathy for your loss. You are certainly entitled to grieve. I don't know how long ago this happened, but if it is affecting you to the extent that you've lost interest in your life, you could benefit from some grief counseling and, possibly, a short term anti-depressant to help you cope. The counseling will give you strength to cope and find ways to find joy in your life again. Your fiance wouldn't want you to give up on life for him. He knows you love him. You aren't being disloyal because you're alive. He would want you to enjoy your life as much as possible. I hope his "friend" rots in jail.
2007-01-19 07:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
this is a really tricky sensitive one and i really feel for you. you have been through an awful lot in a short space of time and the likelihood is that you might not ever completely get over it but you will learn to cope better with it. i would strongly recommend you see someone and get counselling in order to help you get over this and although sometimes you may not want people around when you are grieving it is best to keep your friends close, they can help you even when you just want to be left alone.
2007-01-19 06:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by harmfultoasterfanclub 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This might sound silly but this is what I had to do. You write a letter to your fiance, telling him how much you miss him and well whatever you wich to say. Then you write back to you, but you have to think of how hw would answer the questions, you help yourself heal, and it will take time but the letters really gave a big push toward the healing process. It wouldn't hurt to try. Just remember to answer your letter the way you think he would. You will be surprised.
2007-01-19 06:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by pippy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to hear about your lost. You need to move forward. Talk to someone that you can trust about how you feel. It takes time but it's okay to laugh and move on one day at a time. In due time you will feel better. When you loose someone you love it takes time to heal. Don't keep your feelings bottled up. If anything start a journal and write how you feel if you are not ready to talk to anyone about this.
2007-01-19 06:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm with you Holly C..... Stop the stories, please!
The last question I saw of yours, you were 18??? And you say you were marrying the guy you loved for 8 years, so you were 10? Hmmmm............
2007-01-19 15:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by NoTurningBackNow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your poor sad delusional girl. Get a life. I've read your other questions, as have others who have responded to you and can see your a compulsive lier. stop wasting peoples time. Your mocking other peoples sympathy.
2007-01-19 09:32:23 · answer #9 · answered by hc27 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Omigod! Poor you. It must feel like your life is over, you just have to try to take one step at a time and grieve for your fiance and remember him. I'm so sorry for your loss sweetie.
2007-01-19 06:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by floss 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋