What is better - having 1, 2, or 3 kids?

Question

Because with an only child you are able to somewhat spoil them and let them live their life

While with 2 children, they can each have a companion but you also have to deal with fairness, fights, etc...

And with 3 children, you will have a middle child, fights, fairness, more kids to buy for and pay for college...but you'll be a bigger family instilled with more family value and a more interesting time.

Answer 1

It has been my experience that singletons end up spoiled and thinking that they are entitled to whatever they want, whenever they want. They grow up not being able to deal as well with others when they are younger.....even if they do go to daycare.
As for 2 kids, I yes you have do deal with the whole fairness issues, but it is not a huge deal.
We have three kids ages 7, 4, and 3. The two youngest are 25 days shy of a year apart. They were born in the same year and are considered Irish Twins.
We have a "middle child" and fights, and the "fairness" issue, but nothing that is too hard to deal with. As for the college funding, that is what grants, scholarships, and student loans are for.
We have set boundaries and expectations for behavior and each one of them know what behavior is expected and what will not be tolerated.
We have a lot of built in fun having a "larger" family. There is always playmates for play and even for cuddles when they need it. They look to each other for comfort. When they need help (with something that does not need parental help) they can go to one another. They also are learning conflict resolution. They are learning how to better deal with being hurt and talking about it instead of hurting that person back.
It is harder to get that "one on one" time, but I have found that they do not need that so much as they just need your time. They have more fun when we can all just hang out together.
Also, after you have three kids, what is having one or two more. The work increases, but not as noticable as when you have only one or two kids and you add another.
My husband are thinking about having another baby in the next couple of years. We are also considering adopting a baby from either China or South Korea.
The cost of raising kids is nothing compared to the love and joy you get from them. There is nothing better than being tackled by your kids giving you hugs and kisses. Nothing is better than the cuddles that you get when you least expect it. Nothing is better than hearing your children say Mommy/Daddy I love you.
I think that having 3 kids (if not more) is the best way to go!

Answer 2

There is so much more that goes along with having kids...not just how many. Like what gender they are and how far apart they are spaced. Right now I have 3 kids. And for me it was always do I want 4, 5, or 6 kids. Now I'm thinking 3 is a lot! But they are all girls, wanting a boy is making me think of having a 4th...we'll see. I think 1 is too little and too lonely. Two is a good number, but not if you want a boy and a girl and end up with 2 boys or 2 girls. With three it starts to get pretty hard, especially in public when you are all alone and only have 2 hands. Now I'm wondering will 2 of mine end up ganging up on the 3rd one. Personally I like even numbers...a playmate for each! And if they have to share rooms it's not fair to have 2 sharing and one not. I don't know. I guess I say 2 or 4.

Answer 3

We have 3, and it can be a riot, and I sometimes tell them I'm going to sell one of them to the gypsies. They are 1,2, and 7. I think the hard part was having 2 so close togehter. If they are spaced out better it is much easier. I'm happy with 3 and the middle kid dosent know he's a middle kid yet.

How many should a person have? It depends on your tolerance for kid stuff. They all make messes have fits, and get sick. Can you handle 3 sick at once, or three little meltdowns. It takes a lot of patience, I think a lot of familys would do better with the lower stress of one child. Multi-tasking isn't easy.

With one kid you can donate all you time to them, this is great for them, and easy for you but it is easy (and enjoyable) to spoil a singleton.

Answer 4

Well i think 3 because i have 3 kids. Well im having my 4 baby soon. With my 3 sons, they dont fight, but they dont always get along. It's hard to have 3 kids. I was hoping for 2. I had my first baby, and then i had twins. You have to buy them stuff, but we dont spoil them to death. They have to earn it. My sons are 13,12 and 12. We have a little while until college, but we will have the money.

Answer 5

It is never good to spoil a child, alone or not. I hated being an only child, and yes they spoiled me. It's been a real struggle to not be that way as an adult! Family value has nothing to do with how many members there are. You need family values even if you have no children!

Answer 6

I have 4 ranging from age 13 down to 2. Although they keep me very busy I would not change it for the world!
The choice is yours...nobody should tell you how many children you should have. Everybodys situation is different. My advice is to take it one at a time...feel it out as you go (unless your blessed with triplets..lol).
Good luck!

Answer 7

well two is good and i have four kids, i came from a big family,so im not sure if i would of liked being a only child,i have two boys and two girls.I didnt go t college and i turned out just fine and so did my brother's.You do whats best for u and what u want.

Answer 8

I speak from my own experience. I came from a large family..7 kids. I had only one child. My son is not overly spoiled.He is a decent young man.Despite his dad and divorcing when he was 9.I would have liked to have another child especially a little girl but fate didn't have it that way.It really doesn't matter whether you have 1,2, or 3 children.What matters most is that they all know how loved they are.My parents let me know that I was special and loved just as much as my siblings.My son knows this too!

Answer 9

If I had to choose......2! because this way only 2 kids means only 2 to keep track of and have time for. Any more than two is very hard to keep up with in terms of transportation, etraciricular activites and such. Plus since there are only two, they can look out for eachother more and be more protecive of eachother. Its like what they about smaller class sizes: more individual attention and involvement.

Answer 10

1 child would feel lonely and like you said with 3 children the middle one would feel left out. Two is the best.