Ok, someone please help me! My sister in law drives me absolutely out of my mind! She always had to be the first and the best, I can handle that, or ignore that I should say, but the other day I found out she went to my boss (they're old friends) and asked her all about me, what I was like at work, if I had any friends (guess she can't believe I do because I'm such a snot to her all the time), if I do my job correctly, etc. WTF! My boss came up to me and asked "what's up with -----? and then told me the things she said. She also is sticking her nose in the middle of a nasty divorce (mutual friends of ours) and taking sides with the husband, all well and good, but she's telling the guy he should demand a paternity test because she knows for a fact that 2 of "his" kids aren't his...I know, that doesn't involve me, but that's the kind of stuff she does. What the heck is wrong with her???
2007-01-19 06:37:31 · 12 answers · asked by irlefw 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your husband should be the one to handle this. This is his sister. He should let her know under no circumstances is she to talk about his wife to anyone behind her back. If he won't do it, then I'd sit down with her and let her know that if she wants to know anything about you she should ask you and not go around interrogating your boss or collegues. Of course, you don't have to answer any questions, but it'll let her know you're aware of what she's up to and that you're not going to ignore it. I'd distance myself from her and not talk with her. When you are at the same family functions try not to even be in the same room with her. She'll get the message that you don't want a relationship with her. As for her sticking her nose into mutual friends business there really isn't anything you should do about it. If they want to listen to her then so be it. Don't stoop down to her level. She's sad and pathetic. Good Luck!
2007-01-19 07:16:40 · answer #1 · answered by Kimmi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, she really crossed the line when she went to your boss and talked about private stuff like that. She's your husband's sister (I assume), so it is up to him to take her aside and tell her that when she talked to your boss about you that was the last straw and she has to clean up her act and stop meddling in other people's personal business. Otherwise, there will have to be some changes made (and just leave it at that). If the rest of the family is experiencing the same affects, maybe a little intervention is necessary to let people know that maybe she didn't know it that her behavior is very hurtful. Best wishes.
2007-01-19 14:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a nosey, instigating, miserable person that has nothing better to do than meddle in everyone else's business. I wouldn't say anything to her about the divorce stuff...that will play itself out and she will bury her own self in that. However, I would confront her about talking to your boss. I would first tell your husband just so he knows where you are coming from. Then I would simply tell her that you don't appreciate her talking to your boss about you and that if she wants to know something about you or ask you something, she knows how to get in touch with you.
Just try to be the adult in this situation eventhough she obviously can't!
It is those kind of women who give us all a bad name!!!!
2007-01-19 14:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by CPA2B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She need to get a life because she is unhappy with hers she has to be in everyone elses business. Makes you wonder if she has a stronger than friendship interest in that guy who is getting divorced. I have a sister in law from hell and I can sypathise with you. Mine got pregnat and convinced my husbands brother it was his so he married her. Even though I told him that nine mnths prior to the birth of the child She had two guys stay the night with her on the smae night and he even saw pictures to back that up. Well he knows and so they are married and I stay out of that. But they have not left me alone for nine years. Claiming I was pregnat when my husband married me and that is why he did. Not true. Telling everyone in the family that I talk about them and said bad things about them. Not true. She called DHS and told tehm we abuse our children. Thank goodness DHS checked the kids and found her to be a liar. Everytime we are getting along with evceryone she makes up a lie so the family will not speak to me. She has used my race and told everyone that becasue I was part gypsy I could steal things from them and they believed it. So my best advice to you is do what I do. Wash your hands of her. That is what I have done and it takes away her power. Just let it all go and ingnore it as best you can except to defend yourself. It's all about the carma. it will come back in her in the end.
2007-01-19 15:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by JENNLUPE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a note telling her in a calm way how what she is doing makes you feel. Only talk about what she is doing that is directly affecting you. Do not go off on what she is doing to others or things that are none of your business. This will allow her to read it and think of it before you talk with her. If you talk to her in person about these things it will just turn into a augment and no one will learn anything. Just keep what you write confined to what she is doing to you and do not make any general negative comments about her. You want this to get better not just to tell her off.
2007-01-19 14:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by Brian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like a problem for dr phil....what a B*TCH! she obviously doesn't have enough to do. Let her keep doing it, she will start looking like a j4ck4ss to all your mutual friends soon.. don't play into her game , act like it doesn't bother you.. when people bring it up to you, say something like " what is wrong with that girl she does this ALL the time" blah blah. your boss must have thought something was up bcuz boss came to you with her comments... people will start catching on to her game.. but just don't start talking, gossiping about her bcuz she will just turn sh*t around on you
2007-01-19 14:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by ♠ JƏSSƏ'S GiRL ♠ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she needs to mind her own business. She has no life so she has to interfere with everyone else's. Maybe she is really jealous of you. Just ignore her and go on with your life when she finds out that she doesn't bug you she will get bored and move on.
GOOD LUCK
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2007-01-19 14:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by teddybear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a busybody. She wants to have something to talk about. Have you ever thought about making up something outrageous for her to talk about so that she looks like a fool when she gets accused of starting rumors? Maybe she's just jealous of you? I guess you could just feel sorry for her?
2007-01-19 18:59:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just saw a question on here.."How much human crap should I put into the cake I am bakeing for my in-laws?" Maybe you should consider sending the sister in law...something homemade?...a cake, cupcakes....cookies...:)
2007-01-19 14:45:24 · answer #9 · answered by Thankyou4givengmeaheadache 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man she sounds like a drag but she sounds like a peach compared to my sister-in-law!! Wanna trade?
2007-01-19 14:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by Colette B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋