Who can walk me down the aisle?

Question

Is is appropriate to ask a friend to walk me down the aisle, since my dad doesn't want to do it?

My dad doesn't want to do it because he doesn't approve. He doesn't think I need to be 'given away' because I already live the man I'm marrying. And I don't have a brother.

Answer 1

Anyone can do it, but you should choose someone who supports your marriage if your Dad doesn't.

Answer 2

it's your wedding so anyone can walk you down the aisle. I'd just make sure it's someone you feel close to or someone that's a relative. But why doesn't you dad want to do it? I'd try and get him to do it unless there's some kind of physical reason he can't walk you down the aisle. It is his "duty" to "give you away". Or you could try asking your mom. I've heard of that being done and that would be okay too. best wishes!

Answer 3

If your Father doesn't want to walk you down the aisle for what ever his reason you should ask your mother if she could do it(remember in this day anything goes) if she chooses not then ask your brother(s) to do it, if you don't have a brother(s) ask a favorite uncle/aunt or you might ask a favorit uncle/aunt from both sides(mom's/dad's) to walk you down the aisle. That way you have no hard feelings in the family.

Answer 4

I am in that same situation with a wedding in May. My father doesn't want to do it, as he doesn't like all the attention, and also for the same reasons as yours. (plus we have a child involved as well.)

I've decided to walk alone and show my independence. It just doesn't feel right to me to have someone else take his place if he is there, (no matter how stubborn he is) including all the questions, strange looks, etc that will circulate because I 'replaced' him. I just don't want to put up with that on my wedding day, but then again, I'm from the land of dysfunction. ;)

Unless it is a lifelong friend that has been with your family, I'd suggest choosing a close relative instead - possibly your Godfather or Grandfather. Those in the family who weren't considered for this honor may take offense to not being asked over a 'stranger' (in there eyes at least). You know how pety people can be when it comes to weddings.

Your dad could also possibly be offended by whom you choose to take his place. Ask his feelings (if it matters to him or you, considering the circumstances) on his replacement.

Ultimately, it's your day and your decision. If you don't think, (or care) if anyone minds, I say go for the friend and do what you want to do. Your day only comes around once in a lifetime, make it exactly how YOU want.

Congrats and best of luck!!!!

Answer 5

it's appropriate to ask anyone close to you to walk you down the aisle. a brother, nephew, uncle, grandfather, godfather, friend, or even your mom. if you don't feel comfortable asking any of these people to do this with you, then just walk down the aisle without the escort. alot of brides are in the same boat, and there's nothing wrong with walking yourrself down the aisle. circumstances change in life and sometimes those old traditions just don't work. best of luck!

Answer 6

If you're already living with the guy, then you need not be "given away" you're already independant! The positions of a wedding are supposed to be given thoughtful consideration. They're not just slots to be filled! Walk yourself down the aisle, that's the best thing to do.

Answer 7

If you dad isn't going to do it, then I would suggest asking a family memeber like and grandfather, uncle, cousin. Heck, you mother could walk you down the aisle if she wanted to.. I actually had both my mom & dad walk me down the aisle. My dad had been sick for a long time (he had non-hodgekins lymphoma) and so I had both him and my mom walk me down the aisle. More to help him out, but it made it special since she got to share... After all she also raised me...

Answer 8

You can ask anybody to do it. Some one who means a lot to you. My mom walked me down the aisle on my first wedding. She and my dad were divorced when I was young and she raised me. I thought she deserved the honor. Unfortunately my first marriage ended in divorce and I was just remarried. My oldest son gave me away this time. When the preacher asked who gives this woman... my son said "My brothers and I". Not a dry eye in the house.

Answer 9

You can have anyone you want walk you down the aisle. I had both of my parents do it for my wedding. But I've heard of brothers, uncles, grandfathers, friends, all kinds of people. These days, there are no rights or wrongs in weddings because they're so diverse.

Answer 10

You can have anyone you want walk you down the aisle. My father was dead, and I didn't want a brother or someone else to do it, and I didn't want to walk alone. So my man and I walked in together, and it was nice.
By the way, your father is right. I totally agree with him. Gee, are you wearing white?

Answer 11

I'm sorry your father wont walk you down the aisle, I know this means a lot, if you don't have a brother, then why not your friend. I hope your father ends up doing it. Good Luck.