She always makes me feel dirty and less than human with all the stuff she makes me do that makes me feel uncomfortable. SOOO uncomfortable. The other night, she wanted me to do dishes. NOW, this weekend, she wants me to do a couple loads of laundry. This REALLY makes me feel uncomfortable, and she knows it. Why is she forcing me into these things? Am I only a man servant to her? All I want to do is talk and cuddle, and she's throwing dirty socks at me. Please help.
2007-01-19 06:34:22 · 33 answers · asked by Doug Church 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I certainly notice that when it is a MAN saying that what a WOMAN does to them makes them feel uncomfortable, everyone reacts pro the woman.
BUT, if a woman was complaining about something that made HER uncomfortable, EVERYONE would con the man.
Why is that? Is there also a double standard towards men? There CERTAINLY is one towards woman concerning MANY things.
NOW, of course I don't mean to say that doing dishes is akin to anal sex, BUT, do you see my point?
2007-01-19 06:44:47 · update #1
By the way....I'm homeless. Homeless people don't clean up, nor have girlfriends. Well, we do. But normally it's just homeless hookers. But, yeah.
This was more of a "Social Science" experiment.
2007-01-19 06:46:35 · update #2
Maybe she actually wants you to bend her over the washer and give it to her. And the dishes she probably wants you to put soapy suds all over her breast then wash them until you make passionate love to her.
2007-01-19 06:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How many dishes are we talking about? And did you eat off of any of them? If so, she's not being unreasonable....Laundry: Whose dirty socks is she throwing at you? You're being a little vague, and I think I know why. If the two of you live together, you need to do half the housework.
If washing dishes and doing laundry scare you, then hire a maid. Although personally, if you're that "uncomfortable" with taking care of yourself, you definitely aren't capable of being in a relationship. Why not just move into a four-star hotel? You get fed, the room gets clean, bed gets made, and you can even get your shoes shined, all without getting off the couch.
You have a lot of growing up and growing out to do, my friend. I wish you well.
2007-01-19 06:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by anshlaeyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men feel like they have to do everything if they do a few chores. Sorry but washing dishes and doing laundry and cleaning house is not JUST for the ladies anymore. If your not comfortable doing it then tell her. But why would you be uncomfortable washing dishes. Are you afraid of what the dishes will think about what youre wearing?
2007-01-19 06:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I agree. Double standards are TERRIBLE! If she makes you feel dirty and uncomfortable, then what she is doing is WRONG! The next time she asks you to do a load of laundry or maybe do some quick ironing, tell her that you'll gladly do it... AFTER she lets you bend her over and put it in her a s s. Same thing, right? ;-)
2007-01-22 06:54:19 · answer #4 · answered by yumyum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the one hand you should not let her make you do things you don't like. On the other hand you should help out with the dishes and laundry. As long as you make sure the housework is split 50/50 then neither of you can complain.
2007-01-19 06:39:07 · answer #5 · answered by without.question 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell, I have to deal with a guy that pisses in a 48 loader Purex bottle that he leaves under his nightstand right beside the bed when he's too lazy to go to the bathroom. He filled it up a couple of days ago and made me go pour it out. I think the s hit had started filling it up about 6 months ago! And I thought I was nasty.
2007-01-19 11:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought that maybe she just needs help around the house??? What is it with men, they think we are here to serve!!! So if doing laundry and washing some dishes is uncomfortable who the heck is supposed to do it???
2007-01-19 06:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by Priscilla R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is many times an fairly tricky project, especially because of the fact i know you in all probability do not decide to assert the incorrect element and lose her. while you're shy then I propose the path of asking her to play 20 questions or some interest along with her, and have between the questions be "Is there something extra between us than friendship?" and notice what she says. as quickly as you have shown that there is, and he or she unquestionably likes you lower back, then i might propose waiting some days, then asking her out whilst on a ideal "date."
2016-10-07 10:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously U live in a Macho mentality. Its okay. We need all the help we can get. She's trying to tech U how to survive on your own. Cheer up. Its not that bad. I'm doing the same to my boy and it has been a battle but he's doing okay. Everisnce he learned that If he didn't start eating healthy he could die, he started to learn how to cook healthy. Good luck!
2007-01-19 06:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by Junia Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So its ok for her to do the dishes and laundry, but you cant help? If you really cared about her, you should just do it to make her happy.
2007-01-19 06:38:02 · answer #10 · answered by Roxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is soooooo funny! Are you serious??? Dude -- time to grow up!! If you expect her to do all the housework, you should expect not to get any action from her! In many relationships the chores are divided and if you LOVE her you should have no problem helping her out from time to time.
2007-01-19 06:37:58 · answer #11 · answered by jennw33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋