My boyfriend and I have been on again off again for about three months. I broke up with recently because he didn’t respect me. By saying this I mean he would ignore me at lunch and hang out with other girls, and worse he would flirt with them right in front of me. He didn’t know how much he hurt me until I told him. I said that I was sick of being in a relationship with him because I always got hurt and that I was sick of being lost and confused. Then he accused me of needing anger management and that I was clinically depressed!! I said that the reason he was so bad in our relationship at being a good boyfriend was because he has never been in a serious relationship before. H told me that I was right, and that he was afraid of being hurt. I believed him, and we went out for one day, and he started ignoring me again and pretty much treating me like crap. I broke up with him, but now I feel terrible. I want revenge, and somehow If eel that going out with another guy won’t really matter to him, because he didn’t really love me. So what do I do?
2007-01-19 06:33:37 · 15 answers · asked by sexygurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let it go. What comes around goes around. Life is too short to waste any more precious time on this loser.
2007-01-19 06:38:18 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Contrary to what the other girls said, I wouldnt advise you to be hypocritical and deny the hurt that you feel. You need not to put up a happy face as if you weren't really affected, but I would suggest that you just try to forget about him and what happened in your relationship. You know what, you don't have to take revenge because you didn't lose anything, YOU JUST MADE A BIG MISTAKE. It's a fact that you went out with an insensitive jerk... it's like taking revenge on a retard... and that's like going down to his level, do you get what I mean?? Just keep in mind that you are leaving him because you don't wanna be in that situation again and you DESERVE better! This is the best advise that I could give you... "charge it to experience", you made a mistake, now it's time to move on. Just get back on your feet whenever you fall. Let go of the hurt, thinking that you were never at the same level to begin with, that's the only way you can move on.
2007-01-19 06:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you this: Learn to have high standards from the beginning. If he doesn't meet them say "Buh-bye!" There are plenty more fish in the sea, and you'll meet and date many guys in your lifetime. It's not worth it to "settle" for anything less than what you deserve. If this guy isn't treating you the way that you KNOW you should be treated, don't give him the time of day. Revenge isn't going to work with a slime-ball like him. He'll just love seeing that you're not over him, and it'll feed his ego even more. My advice is to move on as soon as possible--trust me, every day gets easier and easier. And if someone says they're afraid of "getting hurt," it's their way of saying that they're really not ready for a relationship with you/someone. When you're truly into someone you're willing to risk the "getting hurt" part because that's part of love. Forget this guy girl, you know you deserve someone who will treat you with respect, someone who would never flirt in front of you (or behind your back), and especially someone who wouldn't put you down by calling you names or saying you've got emotional/mental problems. It's called "projection," look it up online or in your psychology book! :)
2007-01-19 07:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by wasabiwithyoursushi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen revenge is only sweet for so long and if u try and get it u will only be miserable and misery needs company and trust me thats the last thing u want. anyways dont worry about him try and move on, i know ur like what tha hell does she know she doesnt know how much in love i was with him, but actually i do know where ur coming from it has happened to me before and is happening now, i did the same thing u did and took him back because i felt that he did love me and now my relationship is nothing but HELL! the way that i got over it b4 and how im going to get over it now is move on with my life because thats all i can do i cant sit around and wait for a man to get his **** together and realize that im something good, im going to go for the one who knows right off that im a catch and knows and has plans and goals in his life so please take my advice and move on and quit being stuck in the past and may i ask how old are you?
2007-01-19 06:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by gurl_balla14 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let it go and move on, revenge is not going to make you feel any better trust me, you can chance it if you like, but you may only end up feeling worse, especially if it back fires and you dont end up getting the reaction you want from him and he acts like he doesnt care, the best revenge you can get is to show him you can be happy without him.
2007-01-19 06:42:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jackie N 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Act like the relationship didn't effect you at all and act really happy that you are single. I know that is really messed up and untrue, but that is the only way to get revenge without being immature and risk getting in trouble.
2007-01-19 06:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by serena3116 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Realise you are better than him, get over it and move on. Don't dwell and revenge will only make you regret soemthing later. Plus, getting reenge just shows him how much you really cared for him and how much power he had over you.....Do u really want him to know that?
Have some self respect and hold ur head up high. Move ON!
2007-01-19 06:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
since he never seemed to care, y must u care so much to even revenge? u'll seem evil by revenging n that'll spoil ur image..who knows there's a guy who's observing u all these while? imagine d shock he'll get when he sees an angelic figure like u doing things like revenging? not worth it,eh? that jerk will realise one day that he's stupid for letting u down like that..just forget bout him n move on..all d best!
2007-01-19 06:43:52 · answer #8 · answered by AnChloe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a food processor,get some gloves and go pick some poison ivey/oak/sumac,and put it in the processor to extract the juice.Put very little water in it to allow it to flow thru a spray bottle without clogging up,then spray things he would come into contact with,like door knobs,car door knobs,etc.,he will never know what hit him initially and where it came from.
2007-01-19 06:39:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy life with another hottie, being happy and not worrying about him is the sweetest revenge you could ever have!
Do Not Call Him & NEVER answer his calls when he starts to call you again!
He WILL call you again!
2007-01-19 06:42:28 · answer #10 · answered by Bryan's Wife 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋