How to discipline a 12 year old ADHD child?

Question

Very sweet but very impulsive and loves to talk in school. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Yes, adhd is crap. It is something school systems started for your average active child. Many studies have been done and kids who have taken medicine are now having a lot of problems. What use to be a class clown or a talkitive person is now labled adhd to make teachers lives easier. Tell the school to deal, and love your child for who they are. If the teacher starts singling the child out then take it all the way to the school bord, for harrasment! I am a deveopmental psyc major!

Answer 2

Remind them they need to be quiet in class. Maybe if he isn't listening then he needs to be in a different class. My school had a class for those with learning disabilities such as Adhd. I work in a youth group and have to deal with an adhd student and I just tell him calmly that he needs to sit down where everyone else is sitting. You also may want to try talking with the child's parents and see if he is on anything for his behavior. I suggest Super Nuthera Vitamins for children with Behavioral issues before drugs...

Answer 3

I think that as long as your child recieves good grades you shouldn't worry too much about the talking, especially if your child is a girl. My 12 and 8 year old daughters are known as the class "butterflies" because when they finish their work, they flutter around the class yapping. Neither of them have been labeled adhd.

Answer 4

I think it's his personality. Yes children need to learn discipline, but they need room to be just kids too. I would take his favorite toy, game, or whatever away for awhile until he can learn that if he's not quiet in school, then he loses his privledges at home. He will learn self control this way. Give him room to be a kids too though. School is for listening. Home, chuck e cheese, the park, grandma's house is for being a kid. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 5

My Son has A.D.D. and hes 8yrs old? On top of this he has a mild form of Terrets so YEP!!!!, i have my hands full. Telling your child to shut up does not help, talking a lot is part of it, its not an illness, that's the first step to understanding your child, once you see understand this the rest is easy. Giving your child something to occupy their mind works wonders, my Son is top in his class at maths. Their minds don't switch off and they always excel in a certain subject above the norm. Encourage him/her with rewards also helps, punishing them makes matters worse as he/she can become frustrated. Talk to the school, they should be more understanding. Hope my info has helped a little, here if you need to chat anytime. Good luck x.

Answer 6

I have a 12 yr old who i put on medication, but right now hes not. The med's where makin him sick and not eat, i just decided not to try every drug on him and he doesnt want to take them as far as his body he knows what agree's with him and doesn't.My son is a very hyper active child and at school he likes to talk a lot to and gets in trouble as well.Things are hard for him to.but he is a loving and sweet child also.As far as discipline him thats just who he is,i think and talk to him,at that age they no what they are supposed to act like and not, but then its hard for them to do.i dont no much about your son but it seems he is a great kid.

Answer 7

I have the same problems with one of my kids who is adhd. This is not a bogus disease or problem. He is old enough now to use it to his advantage. In class the teachers should have more control. At home take away things that are important. TV is important to my kid so it goes and he needs to earn it back. Hope this helps. It is challenging sometimes but breath and do NOT give in!! I can not say this enough you only encourage behavior you want repeated.

Answer 8

hehe, we have a similar child who is 10 &11/12 (he doesn't let me forget the 12ths) He is very impulsive and had no idea when to keep his mouth shut.

we have set rules for certain situations.
-ie: if i am talking my wife and he wants to talk to one of us, he must 1. wait until we are done talking to each other before speaking
OR 2. wait until one of us pauses for a breath and say 'Excuse me, can I interrupt?"
OR 3. if it is an emergency (ie: his brother has his hands in the toilet bowl) he should not wait, and simply state the emergency in a normal voice (ie: not yell it)

we also have used a calendar (start w/a weekly one and after he can do 6 of 7 days successfully, move to a monthly calendar)
if he is appropriate in social situations, he gets a sticker on the calendar. if he is not, he gets a bug ugly red X.
most of the time now it is full of stickers (25 out of 30 or better).
when we started is was full of Xs (5 out of 7 for the first few weeks in a row)

as with any behavioral program the goal is to teach the child/person to do the behavior without consistently being reminded.

be sure to provide some sort of earnable & reasonable reward at first (ie: if you can get 4 of 5 we will do X together -play a game, go to the park, etc) it is best if you can minimize material/monetary rewards and maximize engaging/relationship/social rewards.

for this to succeed you must remain calm and not lose your temper. it is much easier said than done, from my experiences.

with anything like this, the behavior will most likely get worse before there are improvements (even w/a child who wants to change it is not easy) about 3-5 weeks into the program, there should be a marked improvement in behavior. BUT about 2-3 months in there is ususally a marked decrease in positive behavior, it is almost like kids are hard wired to retest the program to see if the parents are serious. weather the storm and you will come out fine on the other side.

for our son, it also helps him to have a 'fiddle' object in his pocket or attached to him somehow (we have used rubber bands -he would keep a few in his pocket and when he needed something 'extra' -wanted to speak when the rule said he needed to listen- he will pull one out and twist/tie/wad/roll it. he chooses what his 'fiddle' objects are. there have been rubber bouncy balls, rubber bands, pens, mini-puzzles (slide puzzles, rubik's cubes, etc), small folded pieces of paper (but they wore out too quickly for him), laces on the hood of his coat, a wristwatch, in short, almost anything that he could manipulate that would not be noisy/distracting to others.

good luck and love that child!
:-)

Answer 9

This sounds like a text book case of ADHD, but get her assessed proffessionaly as there may be other issues with sensory integration etc.

Answer 10

When I was in school, nobody ever heard of ADHD. I think it's a term for parents/doctors to use for a child whose parents refuse to spank. He just needs to be taken out behind the wood shed and given a good whippin'. Good gosh, my dad used to make us go outside and pick out our own switches from the willow tree! A little discipline is good for kids!! Try it! You'll see!