Recenlty my 15 year old son started to date a very nice young lady. They only dated a short time. Because her grades started to slip her mom grounded her, which included no more dating.
My son has always been able to talk to me about most anything. I know he is hurting, but he won't talk about it.
How do I help him work through this heartache without seeming to pushy or nosey?
Please only contructive and helpful advice.
2007-01-19 06:12:18 · 5 answers · asked by Barb 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My son went through the same thing when he was 16. It is very hard for a mom to see her child suffer the pains of a broken heart. Your son probably is hesitant to talk to you about something so private to him. Is his dad involved? Maybe his dad can have a talk with him. Usually son's open up more to their mom's about this because they are afraid their dad will think they are whimpy to be sad over a girl. It took some time for my son to eventually open up to me about his hearbreak. Best thing to do is ask him if anything is the matter. Tell him you are available if he wants to talk about it. Then just let him alone. Once he does talk to you about it, just listen, do not judge him or be critical of his feelings. just valifdate how he feels, show him you understand, and reasure him that he will feel better one day.Try to make sure though that he does not isolate himself too much, and that he is staying healthy by eating regular meals. I can understand your concern, but most young men get through this just fine. Good luck to you both!
2007-01-19 06:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's nice to see that you are so caring and really want what best for your son, as he is hurting you hurt to for this is what a parent's worst gut feelings that their child is grieving. I suggest fill his empty heart by lending a shoulder to cry on, take him places far from the hurt, let him know your heart is with him. Just be their for him. It's hard to just stand by but he will get over this with time and a parents warm, caring heart. Be a good listener but don't dwell or call the lady down. ;-) Was in your shoes a time or two with my own children. Good luck, you are a good loving parent.
2016-05-23 22:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my children are old enough to date I'm going to tell them this.Sometimes you're going to break hearts and sometimes you're going to have your heart broken.The thing to remember is your young and feelings change.Just don't ever compromise yourself and try to be the person you think they want you to be.Don't give into peer pressure,you're stronger than that.I know because I had to learn everything the hard way.I'm giving you the advise no one gave me.So learn from my mistakes and take what you can from what I told you.
2007-01-19 06:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know you are there for him if he wants to talk, and I'm sure he already understands that.
Give it time. He's young. It'll heal.
2007-01-19 06:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd say just open the gateway of communication. tell him you're there if he wants to talk about it but if he'd rather keep it to himself that you accept that. that way he knows if he decides to talk or not you'll accept it.
2007-01-19 06:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by Back*To*Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋