Please share your experience with me.
My parents divorced when I was six years old and more than 20 years later, both sides of the family still HATE each other and it would be so painful for me to bring them together in the same room. It was a divorce that lasted for 5 years of torture for everyone involved. Custody battles, family members getting arrested for harassment, life threats, supervised visitation rights, etc., the list goes on....
I personally don't want a wedding, we are planning a get away for TWO only, but I am getting guilt tripped about it..
What to do???
And what is WRONG with my family that they actually WANT to be in the same room again, I DON'T CARE what the occcassion is....
And how do we tell them that we want to get married ALONE?
2007-01-19 06:08:22 · 6 answers · asked by Reserved 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Guilt is a useless emotion. You don't have to feel it if you don't choose to. The choice is yours. You don't have to tell your family anything about your wedding plans. They aren't the ones getting married, you are. Do what you feel is in your own best interest. But I guarantee that guilt isn't.
2007-01-19 06:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by lynda_is 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The less you have to spend on a wedding that may turn out horribly, the more you can spend on a honeymoon, or just save for your home in general.
If your wish is to avoid a wedding, elope and tell them afterwards so they can't talk you out of it. It would be too late, and they'd have no say so in the matter. Give them copies of wedding pics or a video to smooth over things - they'll be grateful they can at least see it if they weren't there.
Best of luck!!!
2007-01-19 08:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST TELL THEM... We didnt want anything big, so we had something VERY small. There was no pressure from either sides of the family and we didnt spend over 500 bucks for everything. If YOU BOTH do not want a big wedding... then they shouldnt press you for it. ITS NOT THEIR BIG DAY! Just be as blunt as possible.
2007-01-19 06:12:52 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it. You have nothing to feel guilty about it if you are acting to preserve the peace and happiness of your day.
2007-01-19 06:12:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when I got married I just did it , my mom asked me whos picture that was with me on my web page and I told her my wife.
That is how I told my family. ITs what we wanted. not what they want
Its your wedding what do you want?
2007-01-19 06:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I didn't.
But if you are independent and mature, you and your guy can do as you please.
2007-01-19 09:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋