question about circumcision?

Question

I am 22 weeks pregnant with a little boy and we are trying to figure out whether to circumsize him or not. My husband is European and no one over there unless you are jewish is. He is fine with allowing are boy to be. But I am thinking I might not why subject him to that pain as a baby if I do not have to.
What I am trying to figure out is how many people out there have not circumsized their boys. I just donlt want me son to be the odd ball if he is the only boy that is not circumsized.

I appreciate everyones answers. It is good to know that every boy in America is not cicumsized. My husband is not, so I am laening towards not doing, especially since my son my wonder why his is diffrent than daddys :)

Answer 1

I would encourage you to think about what your son would want. No person would want a very important choice about their sex organ like circumcision to be made by someone other than them. It's as simple as that. No adult man who contemplates circumcision gets on the phone and waits for his mother and father to decide for him. I know men who were circumcised at birth and just RAGE is a pretty good word to describe the way they feel about someone having made this very personal private decision about their penis for them in the hopes that they would be all right with it. If your son wants to be circumcised later in life he can get circumcised when he's old enough and fully informed. But until then, to strap him to a board and say "Hey we don't know whether you want this AND WE DON'T CARE" is just not a nice thing to do to someone. It's not respectful. Non-consensual genital modification. It sounds to me like a crime.

Answer 2

The male foreskin has been shown to tie-in with their immune system, it also is no harder to keep the penis clean than a circumcised penis. There are many reasons why people have been circumcised, and many why they weren't. I have a son, and my partner at the time insisted that 'his son' get cut. I wish that I hadn't been so out of it that I let it go through. Almost all circumcisions are done without anesthetics. It is painful, (it's a myth that they baby doesn't have full feeling there yet) and it is COSMETIC SURGERY. That is what it boils down to, the foreskin is removed to make it look like an erection all the time. My feelings on the matter is to not do it, if I have another boy I am going to leave him intact, boys have been born that way for all our history, why change a good thing.
Oh, and for when he grows up, an intact man feels more sensation than a cut man. It has also been shown that their partner gets an added bonus of a closer bond, and not having to use artificial lubricants, and it is easier for a condom to stay on an intact penis. And there is the added bonus of the fact the foreskin PROTECTS the penis from things like frostbite. What we now know as circumcision is not the same as it was when the people of Jewish faith started it BTW, at first it was only the very tip of the foreskin that was removed, (this was to be able to tell them apart from the other people of different faith) now they go down behind the gland or 'head' and break the seal there. Exposing the gland in that manner actually takes away about 68% of the sensation, and the gland then grows callused and loses even more sensation. Oh the amount of skin that comes off? the size of a 3 by 5 index card. There have been numerous cases of botched circumcisions, which means your boy is now a girl, or the lesser evil is that slightly too much skin is cut off and the boy will suffer with painful erections later in life.
To make an informed decision about this I recommend that you do some google searches and find out the pros and cons of it. For me, I can't wait until my son gets a little bigger and I can see about non-invasive foreskin regrowth.
So that it looks better to some people is a poor excuse to maim your child.

Answer 3

First off I am a surgical tech in the OR and assist in these procedures on a daily basis so yes I have seen them done and not on some video tape but in real life. People simply have no clue what goes on during this procedure and the idiotic answers that have been posted just prove it. People need to really get actual facts about something some where other than an internet site before they go spouting off at the mouth about something they obviously are just copying off some website they read. It is true that they are usually performed without anesthetic but anesthetic will be used upon the mothers request usually by a topical analgesic. Anyone who know the anatomy of the penis would know that in an infant there are no nerve endings yet formed, which means they do not feel anything but a mere tugging and pulling. I assist in these and stand right over the top of them while it is being done and I very rarely ever see a baby cry out in pain. Way to try and scare people but you are wrong. They cry more when having their shots. Most of them that are crying start before the procedure is even started. Most of them start after being taken out of their nice warm blanket and sprawled out on the circ table. They usually stop once the light is turned on. Bottom line is usually they are crying for reasons other than the procedure. I just wonder where all you people get your facts from that say it is so painful, and it is your own fault if you were concerned about anesthesia because like I said it is available and will be used upon the mother's request so you have yourself to blame for that one. The foreskin protects the penis from frostbite???? Yeah, I guess if you plan on letting your child run around outside in the winter with his penis hanging out.

Answer 4

This is a hot topic...we did have my son circumsized for the health aspect. I think that you will find that its 50/50 that people are doing it. I researched it and went to a Dr that speacializes in pain free circumsion and scalpless vasectomies. It was pain free...my son didn't even cry. The only time he wimpered was when he took his first pee after the procedure.

Answer 5

Check out a video on how they circumcise a baby... you'll change your mind pretty quickly.
Aren't we supposed to teach our children to love themselves, the way they are? What does it say when you permanently deform your child?
Times are changing... circumcision was done a generation or two before us, but it has now been proven to be completely unnessecary!! In my prenatal class we were told that... of the 1400 boys born in our city in 2005, only 14 boys were circumcised!!! And, there is only one doctor who will perform the surgery in our City. I was always led to believe that most guys were circumcised, it wasn't until I was an adult that I found out that only about half of them were.

The other thing I never understood is the attitude that they won't remember the pain.... maybe they won't remember the pain... but they're still in an intense amount of pain. You would be too if someone cut off a piece of your flesh and then covered it up with a diaper, and allowed to to pee and poo all over your wound.... sounds like torture to me.

If your son ever decides he is 'different' (which he is not) he can chose for himself to get cut. That way he can control the pain, and tell you if something dosn't feel right.

Answer 6

It was written in the bible that all men should be circumcised for one reason or another. Look it up. It wasn't started as a tradition or anything like that. It's just a biblical thing.

You know what's best for your family. I'm pregnant with a boy and will have him circumsized. All the men I know have been circumsized.

Answer 7

I consider you wholly! Either cause them to each authorized, or each unlawful. It might be very exciting in seeing how whatever like that had been to head via the court docket approach. I shouldn't have an hassle with grownup men being circumcised at their possess will; we pierce, tattoo, pickle our our bodies at all times- why will have to this be distinctive? As lengthy as my rates for common healthcare do not pay for it, I could not care much less. It's with babies i've a obstacle with. It's his rattling frame! The "appears bigger", "suits the daddy", "less complicated to scrub" "more secure from STDs" is all crap: Looks bigger: Like you mentioned, that is field to opinion. Matches the daddy: OH GREAT! The father used to be overwhelmed with a belt as a baby too! Wanna have your son re-reside THAT affliction too? Easier to scrub: Bugger off. Get off you lazy a$$ and blank your child! And instruct him well hygiene whilst he is ancient adequate. It wasn't difficult for me to seize. Safer: If there may be it sounds as if no undisputed clinical reality available in the market that proves I did not prefer to be homosexual, I refuse to think that there is undisputed clinical evidence that says that reduce guys are extra resilient to STDs. Now directly to faith: My high-quality buddy is jewish and is rather pleased with his reduce penis. In reality it is regularly side of his commencing line whilst he meet's any one new. My buddy has constantly been touchy approximately his faith (despite the fact that he is reform and just about non-working towards) to the factor in which if you do not consider any detailed side of his faith, he will get shielding. I used to mention that it used to be exceptional to do it for devout factors, however then I concept... wait. There are different religions and cultures that require feminine circumcisions- the ones cultures exist right here in Canada and the US, but FGM is unlawful. So what is with the double common? Don't examine the severity; they are each barbaric pointless operations- WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE? The identical buddy's female friend plans on having her youngsters reduce. Why? "It's cleanser. Oh he may not recollect it." This woman is a HUGE hypocrite. Why? She's professional-existence to the maximum measure- to virtually the extent of Palin's professional-existence stance. Ok.. Child's rights, bla bla bla... Now what approximately whilst the baby is born? Where are his rights then? With all due admire to every body who practices a religion of a few sort, I say to hell with devout, conventional, or cultural factors. Outlaw baby circumcision for BOTH genders or make each authorized.

Answer 8

i did it to my son i really left it up to my hubby
but my brother had to have this done at 13 it was a major thing and he took 2-3 weeks to recover he was not dirty or anything i think his skin just wouldn't pull back or sumthing (didn't ask too many Qs it my little brother) but it was very embaressing for him he had to take time off school and lie to his friends and i think he's probably pretty self concious about it it was a pain for my son the first couple days its a bit scary but i think it cute hes liked daddy too
you might want to take into consideration when he sees his dads and his and wonders why they are different you'll have to come up with a reason

Answer 9

We just asked our doctor that same quesrion. We don't think we want to do it, but we didn't want him to be the "oddball" in the locker room. Our doctor told us that it's about 50/50 these days nationally, and in her office (she's a midwife doctor) it's more like 70% who DON'T do it.
People say it's good to do for cleanliness, but our doctor laughed at this too, saying that an uncircumcised penis is still easier to clean than a vagina. if you can learn to clean your ears and your teeth, you can clean a penis! Flossing is WAY more complicated!
We were made this way for a reason, and the foreskin's purpose it to protect the penis's mucous membranes. Choosing to do it doesn't make you a bad parent by any means, but why mess with nature's plan?

Answer 10

We did with our son. Reasons: one we didn't want him to feel bad during gym class years from now, two his dad is the same way and finally there are a number of studies saying that it's more sanitary? <-not sure though...
My background is Spanish, my friends that are spanish that live in the states didn't get their sons circum. It'll only hurt for a little, so I don't think that you should take that into considertation when making your decision. Good Luck ;)