i have been with this guy for about a month. he is fixin to go to jail for a while. maybe 2 years. i know i can wait on him. but will he be with me when he gets out? i mean he wants sex to before he goes. i do not want to get pregant. so should i ? i mean i love him and i think he loves me. i mean guys are hard to tell. i have been cheated on alot in my life so yea. i am a little nervous about opening my heart to this guy. so do you think he is using me before he goes to jail or what? plz help m i need answers....
2007-01-19 05:47:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i mean you got to ask yourself are you ready for a baby let alone do it on your own while hes in jail..i dont think hes using you i just think both of ya should wait till he gets out to start a family to really know if he is using you..which i doubt he is because once he gets out he will need you and love you more then ever
2007-01-19 05:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by jenny m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I'm sorry to hear he's going to jail but good people usually don't go to jail. Of course he wants sex before he goes cause the only sex he's going to have while he's in jail is with another guy. Don't let anyone tell you differently, every guy that goes to jail becomes some other guy's boyfriend until they can overcome the big guys. Letting him have sex before he goes is totally up to you and no other but he will be changed when he gets out. I'[m sure he'll look you up the moment he gets out but whether or not he'll stay with you is a whole different thing.
If you think he's worth waiting for than by all means wait, you might be one of the lucky ones. I went into the Marines and when I got out, the girl I was seeing before I went in said I had changed too much and basically boot camp and jail are a lot alike with the one difference of the sex.
If he's worth it wait other wise move on.
2007-01-19 07:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you love a guy after one month I think you are confused and a little desperate I mean that in the nicest way possible. of course he wants to get some before he goes to jail. and he is going to call and write you and say whatever he has to so when he gets out he will have a sure piece of a!s be careful everything he says is just jail house talk. What is he going in for anyways 2 years is a long time I would move on you donut want some dude in in out of jail all the time you only knew him for a month and you are going to wait 2 years you don't even know this guy what if he gets out and you waited all that time for a jerk please move on find a guy who does not have a record
2007-01-19 05:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He is definitely using you. When there is love, sex can wait. Plus, don't say you love him, may be you like him. Why is he going to jail? and once he is out, how long before he goes back in again? then he will want more sex.
You need to be sure he is fully rehabilitated, and he proves it for a reasonable period of time before you even consider having intimacy with him. Is that the kind of father you want for your children? or you are just being selfish thinking about yourself and no body else? How do you know he is not going to be abusive?... I mean for sure. Be wise and cautious, Don't rush for a short moment of pleasure (if any) and ruin the rest of your life.
Take care. God Bless.
2007-01-19 05:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by skydiver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES YES YES YES YES
Going to jail?!? Come on sweetheart, get a REAL man.
Why would you sleep with him? To make him happy? You should never ever do it for that reason.
Look - any man in jail needs to get his life together and you accidently getting pregnant or a disease is NOT WORTH IT!
Leave him. Run away and dont look back! Youll find a nice great man who is NOT in prison soon and then you can ask the question again.
Ahh I cant stress enough - DONT DO IT!
2007-01-19 05:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't sleep with him if he is going to jail. But if you want to make sure you are using some type of protection. Also, there are alot of fish in the sea. In two years you may be in love with someone else! Good Luck~
2007-01-19 05:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by Shorty06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell you are really to young to make this type of life decision. If he is going to jail, he definitely is not the guy for you. Why would you give yourself to someone who doesn't respect themselves let alone you. If he had any respect for himself he would not be going to jail. If you have any self respect you would focus on getting your life together, and focus on becoming a success story instead of someones cell story.
2007-01-19 05:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u are not comfortable with the situation of having sex with him then i wouldnt do it and may be in love with him but hon its only been 1 month a relationship takes time to develop and since he is going away for awhile you need to talk and figure out what u want if u are comfortable giving him what he wants.. if he gets mad thats his problem and u dont need him if he cannot respect ur wishes.
2007-01-19 05:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he will want you when he gets out because he will need you. Who knows after that. And two years of man sex will change him a lot. Yes he is using you. I would want a last piece of @ss too.
2007-01-19 05:51:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should get otu while the getting is good. you only know him for a month. you really dont know him. he could be going to jail for a serious offense. you dont know that. dont wait on him for two years. find someone without a rap sheet. my advice to you is to not get involved at all. walk now.
2007-01-19 05:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by dana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋