My father passed away several years ago adn my brother is walking me down the aisle but, is it ok to dance with him? or should i dance with my mother? does it matter?? My wedding is next July incase your curious
2007-01-19 05:41:48 · 38 answers · asked by July08_Bride 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Since your brother has taken your father's place by walking you down the aisle, it would be totally appropriate to have him take your father's place in the father/daughter dance as well. In many customs, it is the tradition that the son take over all responsibilities for the deceased father, so this situation seems to be the best for you in all aspects.
If you'd like to honor others from your family as well, you can still have your brother walk you down the asile, and choose any other family you are close to for the dance. If you still have a grandfather (especially your Dad's Dad), or special cousin, etc, you could be honoring your brother and that other person as well.
This situation has arisen with my niece and she chose to have her Godfather take her father's place. Since he is considered her 'spiritual guide', it seemed appropriate that he take her father's place in such a religious occasion.
No matter who you choose to do the father/daughter dance with, you can stlll request a special dance to share with your Mother. Not common in years past, it is now becoming a favorable addition to many wedding receptions as a way to show the bond between Mother and child. The one's I've seen do it to more of a fast beat swing/rock/or jitterbug.
Also, on a sidenote, you can choose to light a candle during the ceremony to remember your father, or leave a rose or other flower on an empty chair, saving his 'place' at the ceremony. This is a situation we face at our upcoming wedding in May, and we've decided to do both to honor him.
Best of luck and congrats!!
2007-01-19 06:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no requirement to have a "father-daughter" dance. Break with tradition and forego the father-daughter/mother-son dances. If you want to dance with your brother, that's certainly all right, however. For that matter, give your mother the honor of walking you down the aisle. She raised you, after all. I don't think I'd dance with her, though. It might look rather odd.
2007-01-19 07:54:02 · answer #2 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a wonderful idea to dance with your brother! My mother had her brother (my uncle, of course) walk her down the aisle since she never really knew her father. I'm sure your brother would be honored to be able to dance with his sister on her wedding day!
2007-01-19 05:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin father died when she was seven. Her brother walk her down the the aisle and dance with him. Her husband Dance with both mother in special songs
I hope this help
Enjoy your wedding
2007-01-19 08:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if you and your brother are close, then yeah dance with him. I mean, he must be an important guy in your life if he has the honor of walking you down the aisle!
I have three brothers and if anything ever happened to my dad, I would dance with my brothers because they are some important guys in my life!
2007-01-19 05:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is something that is going on in my wedding as well my little brother is walking me down the aisle, and we are also going to dance the first dance together, but i would also think that if you wanted to with your mother that would be sweet as well..
2007-01-19 06:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by Tabitha C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! I think it's a great idea! Anyone that you are inviting to your wedding will surely understand that it's a moment to celebrate his life and not his death. If having a moment where everyone is loud, exciting, and jolly is the best representation of his life than I would certainly do that. I am very sorry for your loss and I'm sure your dad would have loved this idea!
2016-05-23 21:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're brother is walking you down the aisle then I think it's ok for you to dance with him in your bride's dance. It would probably be his honour and privelige to act on your father's behalf and as your brother.
You might dance with your mum later to a song that both of you choose, maybe along with your bridesmaids and maid /matron of honour.
2007-01-19 05:46:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is okay to dance with your brother, your mother or both.
Personally, I would dance with Mom.
I'm sorry you have to go through this without your father, I'm sure he will be there watching over you.
Congratulations
2007-01-19 05:50:31 · answer #9 · answered by Coleen429 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with dancing with your brother especially since he is the one walking you down the isle. i would save a dance for the new father in law also.
hope this helps & congratulations & all the best to you
2007-01-19 06:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋