when i was younger i promised to save myself for my soulmate but now that i am almost 25 i am convinced that all guys are either jerks or commitment phobic. i mean i am already 24 and i am still a virgin!
2007-01-19 05:31:02 · 49 answers · asked by notsoposh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your avatar looks like a dude, i would think twice before you do anything stupid
2007-01-19 05:34:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yep. What if you have sex tonight and then tomorrow you wake and run into your soulmate. You'll feel you've cheated yourself.
Also, don't forget, your first time is a memory you'll definitely take into any new relationships.
I consider it better to wait and STILL have the option of losing it as opposed to having sex and you no longer have that choice. Being a virgin in my opinion is a powerful thing (it's something men seem to really want to get hold of). Imagine how great it is to say to your soulmate, "I had the chance to give myself to someone else, but I saved myself for you because I knew you'd be wonderful before I ever met ya". I wish I'd done that for my husband.
2007-01-19 05:35:35 · answer #2 · answered by mycountryfamily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just like you, but I thought I had found my soulmate, so can you imagine...I was in love and it felt right, but what he later turned out to be...I had nightmares trying to make peace with myself. Honestly where did you get the idea that being 24 and a virgin is a bad thing? From that one person, movie or magazine? Im not preaching to you, nor do I regret what I did but truth is when the time is right you will know, wait for that, you deserve it, you deserve that memory
2007-01-19 05:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would be a mistake.
If all your finding are jerks and commitment phobes, you're looking in the wrong place. There are thousands of guys who are not jerks and not commitment-phobic, but you won't find them if you're looking in the wrong place. They're looking for a long term relationship, not a one night stand.
Start to think about what kind of guy you're going to find in the places you're looking. Are you looking in a single's bar? What kind of guy hangs out there? (Single, of course, but what's he looking for?) Generally, he's looking for a one night stand. On the other hand, what kind of guy are you going to find in (for instance) a church? (Religious, of course, but what's he looking for?) Generally, he's looking for a woman to marry. Hmm.... marriage.... kinda commitment-ish, eh? Guys who have stable jobs are usually also more marriage/commitment minded. Where can you find guys with stable jobs? Well, most guys with stable jobs don't pack a lunch and only have a half an hour or an hour to eat. Where/when does that put them? Fast food joints between 11:00am and 1:00pm. Watch the ring, though.
Now, the absolute best advice I can give a girl in your position for finding a good, commitment minded guy is: "Ask your parents." Most parents don't want to see their little girl end up with a man-****. They'll find you a guy that is commitment minded, has a stable job, has a future, etc. Don't expect him to be the life of the party, but life of the party and commitment minded are usually polar opposites. You can have one or the other, not both.
2007-01-19 05:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a mistake. People today just throw away their viriginity like it means nothing. It does mean something. You'll feel so much better about yourself when you finally find the right guy to share that with.
I know a TON of girls and guys who say they wish they would have stayed a virgin. There's nothing they can do about that now, though. Except regret all the bad decisions they've made.
2007-01-19 05:37:08 · answer #5 · answered by Slicer__ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Virginity is all over rated crap. You are almost 25 and you have earn the right to have a good ****. There is no guarantee that the guy you ultimately end up married will be virgin. Sex is something that we all have a right to and I see no reason for you to delay for virtually no reason. Just have a safe sex that's all I can tell you.
2007-01-19 05:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mistake to do it for the sake of doing it!! Are you giving up on yourself and your morals for sex? Come on now don't go with what is popular go with what you know is right. You will be blessed for it in the end and have no regrets. If you do it you will have regrets and regrets are not worth having. One of my daughter is 22 and still a virgin and she is fine too just like u are. Now my sons thats a different matter.
2007-01-19 05:37:21 · answer #7 · answered by lulachoodcounty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK what makes you think that you have to lose your virginity? And with just some guy. not all guys are jerks. The reason why you haven't found someone is because the right one is waiting for you or you will find him soon. I'm not telling you to wait until marriage.but, at least do it with someone who is going to make it special for you. that your not going to regret having that experience with. Do it with someone you have deep feelings for even if it doesn't work out. when you at least remember it or talk about it you will remember it as something special. Not with regret. Good Luck
2007-01-19 05:40:47 · answer #8 · answered by pinkbubbles282004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not a mistake to be true to yourself.
Unfortunately, you are likely to think someone is your soulmate at this point, just to justify doing the deed.
Saving it is honorable, smart, and healthy, as long as you are not doing it just to comply with crazy religions, overly dominating parents/society, or to punish yourself.
IF you really want to experience it, the first time will probably not be what you hoped for... but the 5th or 10th might be, if the guy truly knows what he is doing. If you want to experience it the right way, send me a private message for more info.
2007-01-19 05:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by Been there 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What will you tell your future husband? That you figured since all guys were jerks, you may as well have screwed one of them?
I think you should learn to make better choices in the men you date. I believe only a small percentage of them are actually jerks or commitment phobic. Most men are pretty nice guys.
You should read the book " Are You the One for Me?: Knowing Who's Right and Avoiding Who's Wrong"
http://www.amazon.com/Are-You-One-Me-Avoiding/dp/0440215757
2007-01-19 05:36:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel you are really ready then of course you can have sex. but because you waited so long at least find someone decent. make sure they have no stds. but because the guy might be lying..you're best bet is to just try to find a guy to date long term. don't feel ashamed about being a virgin still. it's a great thing and someone will appreciate it. if you're worried about being satisfied maybe you could invest in some toys lol. don't ever forget why you waited this long to begin with :]
good luck
2007-01-19 05:35:20 · answer #11 · answered by ♥♥♫ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋