Depression? I don't know if I am suffer from it? I used to be a quite a strong girl...?

Question

Before I could hold my tears even when I wanted to cry, and I wouldn't cry easily either, I could cope with difficulties & adversities easily. And now I've become such a weeper, I can cry easily like if I feel misunderstood or just like basically nothing.... And I find my life kind of hopeless (don't worry I will never go killing myself) however I can't see my life is leading me anywhere.. I don't know if it's partly because of my relationship with my bf, we're in a LDR that we can't see each other often. However I know how much he loves me, and I do know that but I still can't stop myself from being sad and crying.

Can anyone tell me what's wrong with me? Maybe I just need some supports from some strangers...?

Thanks!

Answer 1

Even Friedrich Nietzsche said "even the strongest have their moments of fatigue."

Please understand, depression is NOT a weakness. Even if you were the strongest person on earth, you could still be depressed. I know all about depression, because I have suffered from it all of my life.

Crying is okay. Don't be ashamed of that. I am a 32 year old man, and I cry sometimes. Again, it too is NOT a weakness. It is a catharsis. It is part of the human condition. People who never cry really...disturb me. Do they feel nothing?

Yes, you probably are depressed. Many many people have to endure it, so you are not alone. Long distance relationships really can work out. Keep the faith that things will turn out well. Pray to God that he will help your relationship prosper, and he will listen to your heart.

You have a lot of positive things going for yourself. First of all, you do have a boyfriend. That is a wonderful thing! People who are in marriages (and relationships too, I think) are generally better off than people who are single. You have a friend who will support you through this time. Have you explained your feelings to your boyfriend? Hopefully, if he is a good and reasonable man, he will understand and support you in this time of anguish.

I just got into a wonderful relationship with a girl, and I have been very happy lately. It has been a glorious time in my life. I thank God for her.

You can talk to your female friends about what you are going through, and I am sure that they will support you and help you as best they can. What about talking with your immediately family, too? You might want to get into a support group or see a good therapist, as well. Please try to remain open minded. You may even want to take medications (if the doctor says that it will benefit you) for the depression.

Good luck, and God bless!

Answer 2

Awwwww. Don't be so tough on yourself. Unfortunately you're human and when humans feel sad and frustrated, they cry. You sound a little overwhelmed, lonely and perfectly normal. I love it that you have enough insight into how you feel to say that maybe you just need some encouragement.

You need TLC-make sure while life is tough that you sleep, eat, exercise and take good care of you. Be your own cheering squad. Treat yourself like you would a sister in the same boat.

Are you making progress toward your own personal happiness/goals? Is your life going where you hoped? No?

Okay. Make a plan. You sound like a smart girl. What is most important to you? What makes you happy/alive/excited? Start heading in that direction, one step at a time.

Is your depression situational and perfectly normal? Sometimes we feel like crap as a sort of wake up call.

You do sound lonely and sad, but it sounds understandable from here. You could see a doctor for an anti-depressant, but do know this: cognitive-behavioral support/therapy works for the rest of your life. A great counselor can do more for you in one hour than ten years of anti-depressants. Once you go off them, the depression is back because you haven't changed the source of the problem. Like you said, maybe you just need some support. We all do.

Answer 3

Don't worry too much, you should be fine. You are under some stress and it should pass, but if it continues to be bothersome check with your doctor and explain the situation. Depending on your age also has a factor, if you are over the age of 40 it could be a hormonal balance, some of these symptoms are stress related some are not. If you have had these feelings of sadness for more then 6 months, I sugest to check with your doctor.
Hope this will help.

Answer 4

You may have seasonal depression. It's common, especially this time of year. I sleep all of the time and cry real easy when it gets bad for me. Make an appointment and talk to your doctor. Maybe it's something that a little support and conversation can cure. If it's seasonal depression, an antidepressant couldn't hurt. You probably could just take them temporarily.

Answer 5

hi...how old are you...teenager girls tend to cry at a drop of a hat ...its quite normal....we all went through it....ask your mom.....unless something else is going on in your life that is making you feel sad do not worry to much about not feeling strong...its OK to have days where you are sad.....i still do it and I'm a adult....if you are having probs with your b/f that also is reason to feel so blue...listen here is some good advice ...i do this and it works...give yourself a pity party for a couple of hours feel blue cry listen to sad music then say OK enough is enough then go do something fun call up your friends get together go for a walk or the mall....if you are into sports go for a run or the gym....i hope i helped you ....God bless you.....PS i said a little prayer for you ....

Answer 6

It sounds like situational depression not chemical. Talk to your BF about it and see what you can work out. Maybe a move for one of you is in order.
Also try making a list of goals. I know it sounds corny but if you have a goal to focus on it makes you feel like you have some sort of purpose.
I set a goal to finish college and work in the environmental field and now I do. But then I needed something else so my next goal is to start a bunny rescue. So that is what I am working towards now. I get really depressed without something to focus my energies on.
Good luck.

Answer 7

You obviously are shoiwng sign of depression.
Go to a Doctor and get diagnoised or go online and check out depression and take their online test to see if you have it.

Once you get on Medicine your chemical imbalance will get balanced and then your life will start feeling fresh and new again.
I have Depression and It takes allot out of me. Somedays I am good and some days I am a miserable wreck other days anxiety attack time and then a Beer and I am fine. Oh well it goes on and on. The medicine helped me allot.; I take Lexapro.

Answer 8

you are not married so don't act. you are too young to be sitting around doing nothing. you said you are a strong individual so why don't you get out with friends. you know what you can do or not do. get out with other people, stop acting like you are marred. i will give you the best advice you are going to get and if you don't believe me ask some one that's older then 30. your friend is not sitting around doing nothing, he is getting out with friends, guy friends and girlfriends. you should do the same. if you two belone to gather you will be togather.

Answer 9

everyone else has pretty much said it all just try to go out and do things because when you just sit around all the time and do nothing it seems to make your life or what ever your going threw miserable so keep steady don't give yourself time to mourn

Answer 10

The Thing you need to do is go on a relaxing vacation as say to yourself Screw Everything