my boyfriend and i are together 2years now and he wants us to move in together, personally i don't think he is mature enough and ready for that kind of commitment, but he thinks he is ready. I am not sure if of what decision to take with reguards to that....help!
2007-01-19 05:18:30 · 20 answers · asked by trinichick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't do it. In any relationship any kind of decision needs to be a mutual one. And even if you think he is not ready for it, The one that has second thoughts is you. So don't do it! give it another year and if he brings it up again and you feel ready, go for it. but, both of you need to have the same feelings about making decisions. because sooner or later if you move in together and it doesn't work out, you will blame him because you don't think he was ready in the first place and he will blame you because you had second thoughts about moving in with him..Good Luck!
2007-01-19 05:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by pinkbubbles282004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you think that your boyfriend isn't ready yet, then, you should take some more time to figure that out. Tell him what he needs to work on. Then once you see him changing some of his immature ways, then move in together!
2007-01-19 05:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by Stefi13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already know the answer to this question.
If you do not feel he is ready then you are more than likely right. What's his rush? Two years is nothing, tell him you'll stay opened
minded regarding the possibility but for now you're not ready. How can he argue with that?
2007-01-19 05:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by Aunt Henny Penny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and let him know what you think. If you move in with someone and its wrong it can and probably will result in the end of the relationship. Moving in together is a huge step and if you have any problems now they will grow and be more evident as a result of moving in together.
2007-01-19 05:23:32 · answer #4 · answered by brandeeteer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are unsure then your question is answered. You should not take this step if you feel he is not mature enough to handle it. You could be stuck with bad marks on your credit and joining finances to maintain a home can cause serious problems for any relationships and someone not mature enough to handle it.
2007-01-19 05:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by Reggie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
use your better judgment and go with your thoughts and what youi think is the best to do if he haint mature enough to live together you shouldnt take the chance of making a bad mistake for your self just be very careful
2007-01-19 09:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by harold g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What leads you to believe that he is not mature enough?
In any case, if you have your reasons, don't do it. Why would you do anything that you don't want to do anyway?
Don't make life harder than it already is. Go with the flow and do the best thing.
2007-01-19 05:22:18 · answer #7 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your instincts which are screaming at you to NOT move in with him. Just tell him YOU are not ready and that will keep him from making excuses. No way he can tell you that you are ready.
2007-01-19 10:16:35 · answer #8 · answered by acholtz@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on alot. does he have a good job? do you think that you could put up with him for 24 hrs a day. i lived with my gf for over two years and i was nice but at the same time it was really hard
2007-01-19 05:25:45 · answer #9 · answered by daniel a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't rate answers, so I will let you know that I believe that the answers given by Reggie M and deb m are your best answers, they cover where you stand right now.
2007-01-19 12:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by fullofjoy4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋