What am I supposed to do?

Question

I am in college studying to be a early childhood educator. I live with my parents who are crazy. My stepdad has an alcohol problem and likes to argue. My mother does nothing. Neither of them appreciate the fact that I am going to college and are very unsupportive. I have a part time job and I go to school but this is not enough for them. I don't make enough money to afford a place of my own and my studies prevent me from working a full time job. I do not have enough money to live on campus. I can't take out anymore loans. How am I supposed to deal with this hell?

I am not being physically abused. Just verbally insulted.

Answer 1

I find it unfortunate that your parents don't support you at this point in your life. Try rooming with other students off campus.
Remember this situation is coming to a close with your graduation.

Answer 2

you don't say how much longer you are going to be in school. hopefully not much longer.
unless someone has lived the life they won't understand your situation. i have lived the life and i know it isn't pleasant for you. in fact i am sure you can show people bruises on your body and you can tell them of the many more bruises in your heart. but you can not let it drag you down. don't feel sorry for yourself, keep reminding yourself how much you want this, how much you need this, and how proud you will be to accomplish what you have set out to do.
my biggest regret is the fact that i come from an environment like yours and i gave up! i quit school and went to work and gave them the money they wanted, and you know what? it still wasn't enough, no matter what i did or tried it was never enough. i tried for many years to make them happy, proud - nothing worked. some people should never have become parents, mine sure shouldn't have and by the sound of it neither should yours. they never changed and it took me years to figure out it wasn't my problem. it was theirs. don't waste your time worrying about trying to please them. you never will.
having said that, make sure you are doing your best to be a good child. not a doormat. but showing respect to them and their home. house rules are just that. you live in their home and you have to follow their rules providing they aren't asking you to do anything illegal, illicit, or just plain nasty. always make sure you are doing what it takes to be in the right. don't ever let them be able to truthfully say that you were in the wrong about anything. then your conscience is clear, you can look at yourself in the mirror and know you did your best. just stay strong, and put your energies into being the best you can be. stay focused on your studies, your job, your life plan. remember nothing you do will ever please them and that is their problem. not yours. you can do this.
put all your energy into your studies and schooling, get your education and then get the heck out of there. once you are out you don't ever have to see them again. the choice will be yours.
if things get too hairy then you just have to pack your bags and go. your school counsellor may have some ideas, but i think if things get that bad - pack your bags and let your parents see them at the door, tell them you are leaving and they may back off a bit. chances are they won't want to lose the money you give them.

i'm sorry you are in such a bad spot, just take good care and study hard! and if it helps............i am very proud of you...........you have taken the first step in your new life! i wish you health, happiness, love and everything else you deserve.
good luck!
s. b.

Answer 3

Pray for your parents. Don't argue with them or yell at them no matter how wrong they are. No matter how hard is, be kind to them, and if it helps just don't talk to them if you know trouble will follow. Just try your best to keep up what you're doing. YOU'RE DOING FINE. See if you can do work/study, to lessen the troubles of work and school. Apply for scholarships. Take less credits at a time, it's about quality not quantity. Then find something that interests you, think of a career, the types of people you'd like to meet one day... Put your dream in front of you, fulfil it and don't let anything stress you out... You're just having a mid-life crisis, but you sound strong, so keep you're head up.

Answer 4

You should definitely move out.Find some good roommates and get an inexpensive apartment,look for ads saying"roommate wanted" or "room for rent"(the room for rent ones seem to be generally inexpensive),or talk to your shcool couselors about the situation.There may be something they can do to help you find a beter place to live.

Answer 5

Put adds around campus wanting a place to stay, cheap list everything, how much you can pay the fact that you would not be there much etc. you need to get out of that unhealthy enviroment.

Answer 6

get a job, and move out

Answer 7

move out with friends or roomates, or other family