Okay so my best friend's boyfriend and i are like best friends. Me and him hung out last night at a basketball game with some friends. My best friend didnt want us to hang out because she hasn't hung out with him yet because she is grounded. She found out we hung out and she thinks we made out (which we didn't) and now she won't talk to me. She completly ignores me. Her boyfriend said she's gonna break up with her because he likes someone else. He won't tell me who. I thought it was either me or this girl who kept flirting with him. I know it's bad, but i kinda like him but i def. don't want her to find out! Anyway, how can i get her back? Do you think her boyfriend likes me?
2007-01-19 05:16:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
from what ive read. i have decieded to stay away from him. plus, at the basketball game, i never touched him OR flirted with him. so i did not srab her in the back. NOTHING happened.
2007-01-19 05:30:03 · update #1
Your BF is very insecure which is why her boyfriend probably wants to break up with her.
If she was a real true friend she would not be putting you through this.
I say give her all kinds of space, she'll come around, and if she doesn't then you'll know she wasn't a real friend.
Good Luck
2007-01-19 05:21:20 · answer #1 · answered by Aunt Henny Penny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she has reason to be suspicious of you two hanging out. You like him and from what I can tell he likes you. I guess your real problem is; are you going to put him over her?
How much do you really value her friendship? You sound young. So I'll tell you this. Guys will come and go but good friends are a rarity. What do you think is going to happen with you and this guy if you do get together? Most likely your relationship won't go far. He's with someone now and already looking to get out of it. He'll most likely do the same to you. You have to stop living in the now and look down the road further. Is dating him for a few months worth stabbing your best friend in the back?
As far as getting her back. Tell her you're sorry (and mean it!). Give her some time to cool off. And stay away from her man.
2007-01-19 13:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by Slicer__ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, her boyfirend likes you. If you liked him when you started to hang out at a basketball game, I don't think that was such a good idea. It was oirta like betraying your best friend. I don't know what I would do in you place but here3 are your optionns pretty much.
Option A: tell him 'no' when he asks you out
consiquences of saying yes:
-You have betrayed your friend
-you might loose your friend
-you might be thought of as a boyffriend stealer
Option B: Apologize and and tell her your sorry, tell her the truth, you did like him and you would like to go out with him.
Consiquences:
-She'll hate you
Possiblities:
-She is a great bf and she forgives you even if that means you going out with your ex
Either way, what you did was wrong. Two options. I can't answer for you but I can narrow it down for you. Good luck!
2007-01-19 13:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by ♥•♥Melody♥•♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you friends with the the boyfriend before he and your friend started dating???? If not, I can see where she has a problem with you guys 'hanging out'.
To get her back as your friend, you need to stop hanging out with him and definately do not date him.
Remember this -- boyfriends come and go, your true friends are with you forever.
2007-01-19 13:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to figure out where your loyalties lay. Do you value your friendship with her enough to forgo your own feeling and save your friendship, or are your feelings for him strong enough to where you will forsake the friendship. My opinion, if you break the friendship, he better be worth a lifetime commitment. If not, you will have lost your best friend for nothing.
Peace
2007-01-19 13:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you are not a real freind for crossing the territory. Friends dont do stuff like that. even further, friends keep it real with each other, so y hide it from her? Finally, even if her boyfriend does like you, you shouldnt persue that because you would probably hurt your friends feelings. why would u want to do that?
2007-01-19 13:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by bgsfnstldy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all friendship is better then any guy out there, dont do your girl wrong like that by going out with a boy she is in to. your only thinking of yourself and your not a real friend.girls that do things like that end up getting the boot later on in life because there is a god up there and he sees all the wrongs.. and what goes around comes around..i think you should think about it before you step into somethng that ends up kicking you hard in the future. trust me i know...
2007-01-19 13:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by dat_sweetmami 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isn't there like.. a universal law that states:
You dont date your best freinds' ex unless you ask your friend first?
You're only asking for trouble.
2007-01-19 13:20:16 · answer #8 · answered by champ 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to pick one of these questions.
Either you want your friend... or you want her boyfriend.
One or the other. You can't have both.
2007-01-19 13:19:36 · answer #9 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Man you are a total screw up ! Ever hear of loyalty?
2007-01-19 13:22:19 · answer #10 · answered by Dancingsun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋