How can you try to work on something that you already gave up on?

Question

Last year I gave up on love,cause guys can't seem to know what's going on no matter what you say to them. He don't see the problem. Then when it too late, they finally see the problem and want to make it work. I know in my heart that me and my boyfriend can make this work. It's going to hard when I aready gave up on him and I don't how I'm going to do this.

Answer 1

Well honey you said it yourself. You gave up. So if you gave up, what's the point of trying to make it work. If things are way to complicated from the get go, then I wouldn't even try. Just part ways.

Answer 2

The rule is once they figure it out, they will have to make provisions to make it work on their own (does not involve you). If they haven't proven that it will work, it probably won't and if it's at the last moment, there's nothing you can do for them anyways. And if it's to the last moment, they have very little time to get organized enough to make it happen. It won't happen because all of the momentum is towards finding the problem. The solution requires even more time. There's a difference in simply not realizing that you've not done something and something that wasn't there to begin with. If they realize they haven't done something and become aware of it, the recovery time is short. If it's all uncharted territory, don't expect them to get back with you any time soon.

Answer 3

You just don't give up on love. No person is worth you eliminating yourself from this experience called love. Just because it didn't work out between you and your boyfriend doesn't mean that love is any less real. Now, if your heart isn't in it then it won't work. Be honest with yourself and him and tell him that in your heart that the relationship if over. Like a old song goes: too much, too little, too late...

Answer 4

Yes, but the bad thing you are not succesful, when you are half way trying to work it out when you all ready set up in your mind that is not going to work, or just you gave up.
Do only one thing but don't do both, I'm telling for experience, never is worth.
If you try to work it out try to foccuss and concetrate that will work, what ever at the same time if doesn't work be flexiable too , if doesn't then its ok !

Answer 5

Tell him how you feel. If he's moved on the apply the lesson youve learned to your next relationship. And dont give up so easily. Try to make it work and figure out whats wrong while the relationship is still going.

Answer 6

honestly, I would say that you should just follow your heart. you will eventually either get it right, or things will fall apart. either way, things happen for a reason, and if its meant to be it will always find a way. just keep him close (not to close) and try your hardest to make it work. dont give up on it yet. otherwise, you might be the crazy cat lady with the 30 or 40 cats in a run down apartment... just saying... dont give up quite yet....

Answer 7

look frist to go one think with ur head not ur heart and
1- every thing happen for resone
2- never give up and always fight
3-put the life under your feed rise u up and put it on ur head bury u deep down
4-never trust and never make doubt too much

Answer 8

Understanding that you have a problem is the first step to correcting it. If your both willing to work it out,it's certainly possible.Go to him and explain your feelings.From there it will be up to him to decide what is to be done. Good Luck!

Answer 9

You said it yourself in your question. When its too late they see the problem. Either its too late to fix or it isnt. You cant have it both ways.

Answer 10

You should look for a more mature man.