2007-01-19 05:03:33 · 20 answers · asked by LilMama_123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes.
You can not tell someone who you want them to be friends with. If you don't trust him around her, then you have a bigger issue and maybe you should consider leaving, rather then giving him an ultimatum that he will most likely break.
2007-01-19 05:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why are you back with a guy who dumped you for another girl? And then he stays friends with the other girl when the two of you get back together? Did he stay friends with you when he dumped you for her? Think about it. He might be looking out for himself, and his interests alone.
I wouldn't exactly ask him to stop being friends with her, but try to take a more mature path. Ask yourself if he spends time alone with her, or if you are involved any time they see each other. Consider if the ex has a new boyfriend or not. Figure out who is driving the continued friendship. Is it your boyfriend or the ex? Based on your answers, you may find this is not the kind of guy you really want to be dating at all... no matter how hot he may be.
I suspect you have asked the question because there is already something in their friendship that you do not trust. You should be as honest with yourself as you can.
2007-01-19 05:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not wrong for feeling the way you do. however, you can't really control who he is friends with and who he isn't. by trying to control who he is friends with, you may cause him to not be friends with you in the process. of course that would please his ex. i wouldn't give her the pleasure of knowing such a thing. if you do not like her then you have the power not to go around her yourself but you can't really stop anyone else from doing so. just ask your boyfriend if he is serious about the relationship he has with you and if he says yes and seems really sincere about it then everything will probably be ok. if he seems more interested in the other girl and his friendship gets in the way of the relationship you two have then i would suggest that maybe he is trying to get back with her and if that is the case then his mind is already made up and there is nothing you can do to change that. hope this helps and things work out. good luck.
2007-01-19 05:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the answer relates to the nature of the friendship. How often do the two see each other? Are there phone calls and visitations? If so, that is inappropriate in my view. A casual meeting at school is acceptable. Common courtesy in greetings is normal.
2007-01-19 05:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by david42 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that isn't wrong at all. Your boyfriend should never be friends with his ex's unless they are his baby mama's. But in your case, you have every right to be up set. I mean they had a past together, but you are his present and maybe his future, so he needs to let go of that part of his life!!!
2007-01-19 05:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by Stefi13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is your B/f that does not mean he can not have friends. Would you like it if he ask you to quit being friends with one of your friends for him? it's not right. He is your B/f you don't own him he is human not an object. You can tell him you don't like the fact that he talks to her but talking is not going to harm anything.
2007-01-19 05:09:38 · answer #6 · answered by angels192002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont blame u 4 being worried but dont ask him to do that unless u have a reasonable reason like u think that hes cheating on u with her. i learned the hard way my b/f just broke up with me for his ex because i asked him not to talk to her. turst me it sucks to have a broken heart when it could have been prevented.
2007-01-19 05:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forbidding never works! So just tell him that it makes you uncomfortable & let him make the decision so it all on him. If he decides to still be friends with her then he obviously doesnt care about your feelings & I dont know about you but I wouldnt want to be with some one who doesnt care about me or my feelings. Good Luck :)
2007-01-19 05:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by She is Beautiful! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he should have no reason to keep seeing this girl and you shouldn't put up with it. He left you for her to date her, not to be "friends" with her. Also, if she broke up with him, then that's a definite no.
2007-01-19 05:07:21 · answer #9 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see where it would be uncomfortable on you, but you can't really ask your guy to stop being friends with someone for you... tell him that it makes you uncomfortable that they are still friends, and go from there.
2007-01-19 05:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by emtb9 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋