It’s just I’m a guy in my early 20’s and I have feelings towards an older woman in her late 30’s the only thing I’m worried about is how my parents are going to react if I do ask this older woman out on a date and she says yes, because the last thing I would want is a huge row with my parents about it and the woman I have feelings for getting up set. Also could a relationship with that big an age gap work?
2007-01-19 04:52:16 · 18 answers · asked by Trev R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 21 and my partner is 52. i dont think age matters to be honest. i dreaded telling some of my family but after they got to know him and saw how happy we are they understood the attraction now they adore him
2007-01-19 05:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by lizard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 43 and my partner is almost 57, we have been together for nearly 11 years and our relationship is solid, age means nothing thes days....if your happy then don't worry, if your parents care about your feelings then they should support you all the way...drop it to them lightly and tell them your dating a woman who's older, then see their reactions, you are an adult now and are quite capable of making your own mind up...you never know you could be pleasantly surprised by their reaction, i have a son in his early 20's and he dated a woman 10 years older...she made him happy but eventually he wanted someone his own age because she was more into staying home and watching telly, having her older friends round for drinks etc and he felt kinda detatched, it wasn't really his thing, and he wanted to go out and have fun with people his age and he now has a lovely girlfriend who makes hi m happy and they have alot of fun together, but i gave him my support and what ever he did i was behind him all the way..see how your date goes before taking the step into a relationship...it may be different than you think...good luck
2007-01-19 13:28:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion age is just a number,4 the relationship 2 work properly on the other had u need 2 b sure that the feelings u have with her are mutual.wen u ask her out i'd say give it a couple of weeks or months to c if u still feel the same and if she does if so then maybe u could introduce her to ur parents and explain how u feel bout her n how she feels bout u.gud luk
2007-01-19 13:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all the time but what are your feelings is it just lust or are they more deeper what you have to understand is as you both get older maybe she won't be as attractive to you and you will start to look at younger girls and this would cause problems as for your parents your a big boy now and if they see that the relationship is working they should come round in time good luck in what ever you choose
2007-01-19 16:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by A H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you can't help who you fall for and you seem to have been careful about dating or falling for anyone. If it's the way you feel go with it. You don't have to tell them until things are stable with the two of you. Your parents should want you to be happy and should be happy for you. It could work my brother is with a much older woman and they are happy together. Good luck to them an everyone else I say.
2007-01-19 16:13:30 · answer #5 · answered by itgirl23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me if u have feelings for someone know matter the age and you love them then its up to both of you to make it work, and it seems to me like your parents have a huge control over your life and they might not like u dating someone in that age group and it might be hard on you, parents can't choice who u want to date but its is good to listen to there opinions and for u to let them know how u feel about the person, you are twenty years old there will come a time you have to make choice not on what your family thinks but what your want for your future... good luck and i hope all goes well.
2007-01-19 13:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by sugargirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age really shouldnt be a factor. What you both feel in your heart is what counts. Understanding you dont want a row with your parents, you are an adult and they really dont have much say in any of this anymore and they have to accept that. To keep the peace try to break it to them and explain to them that she makes you happy and isnt that what they want for you is to be happy? Its what most parents want for their children. Good luck!
2007-01-19 12:58:09 · answer #7 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I once had a relationship with someone a lot younger than me and we split up because of pressure from everybody else and we both still regret breaking up but its too late to start again I just wish we hadnt listened to everyone else and stayed together.
2007-01-19 13:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by jean m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dude, i think you shourl go and watch the movie PRIME.
it will help you deal with your problems coz the story is the same as yours.
anyway, although age should be considered, it is actually fine to fall for someone older than you or younger even. as long as you think that your feelings are genuine and true, you can beat all the odds.
goodluck and let me know how it goes!
2007-01-19 14:47:17 · answer #9 · answered by peek-a-boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does, especially if the two parties are on opposite sides of the legal line of 18 yrs. On the other hand, as you are both adults, I don't see why it should matter, but that's my opinion.
2007-01-19 12:57:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋