how do i deal? my mom said she cant do anything right now cause she needs him to help pay for our house and she cant do it by herself i have a job but wont help pay much HELP.
2007-01-19 04:43:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i was in a similar boat about a year ago.
i felt very angry with my dad because it was very disrespectful to my mum
i would say just be there for your mom she needs you
and if she wants you to be civil to your dad, even if you don't feel like it do what she says
just take care of her :)
xxxx
my parents are actually divorcing now and i don't see my dad anymore
my mom tried to keep together for fincial reasons but i think it was too much for her..she is worth much better than my father
2007-01-19 04:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by Pia 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You say that you found out that your Dad, is cheating on your Mom, and how to deal with it? I can just imagine how you must be feeling, that once perfect World is coming down into pieces. But, maybe this is not the first time it had happened, maybe back then you were too young or too busy with your life to notice it, or your Mom tried not to show his unfaithfulness in front of you. Your Mom told you that there is nothing she can do about it since she needs him to keep the roof over your heads, and leaving him is out of the question. I hope she is right, because what if the inevitable happened and your Dad decides the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, and would want to go live with this other woman? Your Mom, should be thinking of the pros, and cons, of this. You also said that you work but cannot contribute, for the payment of the house, this decision you, and your Mom,should discuss, because even though they say it's your Parent's problem it also concerns you as their daughter who first of all feels for your Mother what she must be going through, and being betrayed by your Father is another. I hope everything concerning your parent's and yourself will be solved and I wish you the best. I care.
2007-01-19 05:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is basically your mother's call! As much as you would like to help, I think you'd be better off letting your mom figure out the best way to handle it. She seems to have a pretty level head. I am sure she will be OK.
2007-01-19 04:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u meet ur father privately and say frankly about what was wrong...
maybe he is not cheater, there are some point that he hide from u for the good of family...
dont say a vulgar word to him, afterall he is ur father...there must be a respect element in ur voice...
if u found he is cheat than it is ur responsibility to make the things done rightly...
2007-01-19 04:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do about it, because your dad made a fool out of himself and your mom by cheating on her. Just stay out of it and don't get involved! I understand that you love both of your parents, but they need to work it out themselves. Good luck!
2007-01-19 06:10:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront my dad, he didn't just cheat on your mom he cheated on you too. I hate when people say it's none of your business. It is!!! This woman is stealing your time and love from you and your family. And your dad is selfish and immature. You need tospeak up and tell him how you feel, maybe that will make him grow up. I feel bad for your dad, but me personally I wouldn't let it slide.
2007-01-19 04:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You really, really need to stay out of it. Yes, he's your father, but he was her husband first. And if she doesn't plan to do anything about it, there's nothing you CAN do. It's her decision, not yours. So, bite the bullet and pray that things change for the better soon.
2007-01-19 05:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by HipHopGrandma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well remember that the cheating is between your mother and father that doesn't in any way mean that your fatheer doesn't love you. so try not to be so mad at him.... and all you really can do is be there for your mom in anyway possiable, she's really going through a rough time. good luck and have faith it'll be ok.
2007-01-19 04:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by juicy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the othe answers. Mind your own business and worry about your own life. Pray for them and allow God to work in their lives. It really isn't any of your business if your dad cheats or not- don't let that interfere in your relationship with him. It's something that should have never been told to you. I am sorry.
2007-01-19 04:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by disneygeek30 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are things going on in your parents relationship that you were not aware of and now your are; but this problem is really not yours to claim, it's your Mom's. You shouldn't take part in it, especially if you love both your parents.
If both your parents love and respect you, then that's what counts right now.
2007-01-19 05:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by S C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋