I'm getting married !! Please advise......?

Question

My fiance and I already live together and really dont need any gifts. People usually give you things for your home and we dont need any of that but we would like to receive the cash instead to help us go on a honeymoon or get something we really want / need. I was thinking o get a money chest for our reception but I dont know... How should I word it in our invitations ??

Answer 1

Its not fare to put forward your need or choice for money.
Instead you may try to convince any stores near by to buy back the gifts you receive may ve in a cheaper rate.

Answer 2

It is kind of rude to put a request for money on the invitation. You can have a Wishing Well or a card chest as many folks will give you money of their own accord. Also, at the reception, you could have a "dollar dance" where the guests pay a dollar for a few special moments dancing with the bride or groom. Although some people think this is tacky too, most people accept and even like the idea.

As for the items that you really want or need, register at a store that has them available. Just about all stores, including sporting goods and home/hardware stores, offer gift registries. If items are large or expensive, some people might purchase it as a group gift. Registry information is usually included in shower invitations or as a paper insert in the RSVP portion of the invitation. Check with your printer as to where they would put this information as some invites may not be able to accommodate this information in the body of the text.

Answer 3

NO, don't ask for money. Just let it be known by hinting around that you pretty much have everything you already need. You can also check with your travel agent. Most travel agents can set something up so that people can go on-line and pay for part of your honeymoon. Don't get a cash box for the reception. Just get something nice to put cards in. Most of the time, people that give you money will put it into a card. If you haven't registered anywhere yet, only register for the things you really need. I think we registered for 15 items. So, it was inevitable that people were going to give us money. If your agent cannot set something up, then just wait until you get back from the honeymoon and see how much money people have given you. I know we got enough to pay for the honeymoon, and had quite a bit left over.

Answer 4

Nowadays most couples have a bridal registry. When someone calls to find out where you have registered just let them know that in lieu of gifts you and your fiance would prefer a monetary gift. Most people give cash gifts, but you may let you mom spread the word through the family should someone ask.

Unfortunately there really is no way of wording it on the invitation, the only time you do that is when you ask guests to donate to your favorite charity in your name instead of present gifts.

There is a website that can help you create a honeymoon site that allows guests to donate money directly into an account for your honeymoon. If not set up a money chest to recieve gift cards in.

Answer 5

How UTTERLY RUDE the thought of begging for money. A wedding invitation should be sent and is certainly recieved as an invitation to CELEBRATE with the bride and groom, and that they are asking you to join them in the celebration. A wedding invitation should NEVER be sent with the expectation of receiving a gift.

So to request MONEY instead of a gift is equivalent to DICTATING to the invitee. If I were to receive such a loaded invitation, I WOULD NOT ATTEND.

Now, since you have been shacking up for a while, I expect they will already know you have stuff already, and will either provide a gift or money. Some might call and ask, in which case, it might be okay to offer a suggestion that they can either donate to your favorite charity or your honeymoon fund, if they choose to, IF AND ONLY IF you STRONGLY SUGGEST that their presence at you celebration is more important than any gift.

Best of luck to you and your fiance.

Answer 6

I want money too and I posted a similar question and everyone though I was rude. So what I decided to do is not to register anywhere and spread the word to my immediate family and friends that if anyone asked what we needed to kindly explain that what we need the most right now is money. You might still get a few gifts but it won't be bad. If you really want to put something on the invitation, you can write something like,

"In lieu of a gift, monetary donations are appreciated" or requested or something like that.

Don't worry about people calling you selfish or greedy. You do what is best for you, that's what I'm doing. No matter what you do, you can't make everyone happy.

Answer 7

I wouldn't put it in the invitations. Just let the guests know that you are not registered and gifts are not required. When you are at the reception, the DJ will usually do something called a "Money Dance."

During a Money Dance, guests get to dance with the bride and groom, and they give the maid/matron of honor or the best man/woman the money. They hold onto it, and give it to the bride and groom later. That is a great way of getting money without actually asking for it.

Answer 8

copy, paste, here we go with this question again! lol!

Its tacky tacky tacky to do that, First of all, the wedding invitation is to invite people to the event, to watch you join your lives together, not to solicit gifts. Please don't tarnish your invites with plees for gifts. This is what showers are for!

You also shouldn't expect wedding gifts, as it sounds like you are doing....if a guest happens to get you something, then you should be grateful no matter what it is, becuase they took the time to pick it out and think of you. No one HAS to get you anything tho, and putting this in the invitation will make it look as if thats what you are expecting. You can't dictate what people do with their hard earned money and time, and to do what you are asking about that would be doing just that. Also, I personally would decline to give a couple anything if they told me what to give them, registering and suggesting things that will best suit them is one thing, giving me no options whatsoever would frankly piss me off. Not every guest will feel this way, but lots most likely will, so keep this in mind!

We are having a money tree at the reception, but its not expected for anyone to give us only that, and it WILL NOT be mentioned in anyway, invitation or word of mouth, we are just gonna clip a few 5's and 10's on it so people will get the idea and maybe, hopefully add a few more bills!

My best advice is don't register-period, people will be more apt to give you money in that case. Have family members more or less spread the word about your wishes, but you do not directly ask for money, very tasteless to do so!

Answer 9

Congrads! I just got married myself and had similar questions. What you stated here is a common mistake brides dont know about... it is considered very rude to imply on or with your invitations to your guests that you want them to bring gifts (money, house items, etc.) to your wedding. Yes, you probably will get lots of gifts (mostly money) at your wedding but it is at the guest's disgression. It is common to put out a chest for guests to drop off cards w/ money at your wedding, but you are not to tell them where it is, as that is rude too. If you put anything on or with your wedding invitation implying what kind of gifts you want you will have a very bad reaction from guests. Instead, request your maid of honor or whomever you feel will be giving YOU are bridal shower that you will not be registered anywhere and would like gift certificates or money towards home. Todays brides actually do a registry at a bank or at their travel agency so guests have somewhere to "donate" to your future or honeymoon. If that is the case get cards from the bank /travel agency/etc. to be inserted into your Shower invitations (you will have to give these cards to the person who is handling your shower). Good luck and congrads again!

Answer 10

Hello everyone, We would like to say since me and my fiance has already everything as far as things for our home. We Know you all would like to give something. And be live me we both appreciate your kind thoughts..We decide to put a money chest in the reception, where those of you would like to give us something. You could drop money into the chest and there we would be able to get that what we want or need. We know its something different, but too we are unique as well, smile.
We look forward in seeing each and everyone of you.

Again Thank you,

Answer 11

If you need money to help you with your honeymoon, makes you wonder why you're spending so much on your wedding doesn't it? Wouldn't it be nice to save money on the per-plate food you're buying them?

I think the only way to do this "properly" would be to put in a card saying "we're registered at" a honeymoon registry place. This doesn't tell them not to buy you presents, but it's more along the lines of a registry for a store.