This sort of follows up to my last question. I get this overwhelming vibe that my boss does not like me at all, and I don't understand why. We're just about the same age (I'm 28, she's 27), so you'd think we'd be able to get along just fine. She's very rude whenever she asks me to do something; I'm a recent addition to the company, so I'm still trying to understand how everything works. I can understand that she maybe gets a little annoyed that I'm not overly familiar with the terminology and processes involved, but she could be much more pleasant about it. She totally alienates me, and I don't get it. What on Earth did I do to her?
2007-01-19 04:40:43 · 14 answers · asked by Last Call 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Sometimes people give off vibes that they don't mean to give off. On the other hand, there may be something about your work performance that she's not happy with. You can request a meeting with your boss and say something like, "I've been getting the impression that there is something about me that's bothering you. I'd just like to make sure that my work performance is all right. Is there anything you'd like to do differently?" If it turns out that she has no complaints about your job performance, then don't worry about it.
2007-01-19 04:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went back and read your last question. My boss always comes across as being mad, but that is just the way she is. I also had a feeling about my co-workers and I found out the other day that most people are there for several months before being promoted to a training position and I have only been there for 2 months and they found out that my boss is already wanting me to be a trainer. I guess some people got a little bent out of shape about it. Just keep doing your job to the best of your ability and be nice to everyone.
2007-01-19 13:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow I feel like I'm reading what I wrote 6 months ago about my ex-boss. I couldn't take it anymore. I couldn't consentrate cause I was constantly trying to impress her and nothing would. She let other do things that I wasn't allowed to do. I hated her for being so unfair. I was always in a bad mood when I got home and I dreaded going to work. Now I'm out of there and I love my job the people I work with are so nice and understanding and fun and I'm so glad I left. Good luck.
2007-01-19 12:58:36 · answer #3 · answered by Marianita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did not do anything to her. She see you as a person that can come in and learn to do the job better than she can. Or maybe you should keep your relationship with her just as that boss and employee.trying to hard to be the boss's friend is not a good thing. She is probably wondering why the company hired you if have to ask so many questions.
2007-01-19 12:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound like a very good manager. Some people aren't. You could preface any questions with "I'm sorry it's taking me a little time to learn this, but I'm sure I'll get it down soon!"
You can also ask her if there is anything you can do to help her if your work is all caught up. Or ask her advice. People love giving advice. But above all, do your job to the best of your ability.
2007-01-19 12:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by 14b32bbdog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows what you did to her. Perhaps you look like someone who did something bad to her, something as silly as that.
If her behavior is affecting your job performance, you have a few options:
1) Discuss how her actions are having an effect on your performance. Use "I" statements, like, "I feel [this way] when you seem to [action] . . . "
2) If you are uncomfortable with that, discuss this with HR. They are required to keep this confidential.
It may be possible that your supervisor doesn't realize she is coming across this way. That's why if at all possible, I would give her the benefit of the doubt and attempt 1).
Good luck!
2007-01-19 12:50:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on my experience with people in the workplace, my best advice for you is to look for another job asap. People don't change, and sitting with her and talking it out won't change it. You'll get to the point where you dread coming to work every day. Life's too short - move on. The grass is greener on the other side.
2007-01-19 13:55:29 · answer #7 · answered by twinmom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are women, so I guess maybe she is intimidated by you....perhaps, you are more likeable (to other staff) and prettier?
Or, she is just taking it out on you because she cannot do so to others, you being new.
Also, maybe she has more work pressure being the boss that she tends to get easily annoyed when you cannot understand.
Or, perhaps it is PMS?
2007-01-19 13:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by winterlotus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it personally, leave room in your mind for the possibility she's having personal problems of her own; meanwhile, perhaps look for a different boss...
2007-01-19 12:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by fjpoblam 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well first you are a woman around her age so there is somewhat competition already in her eyes. Then just check her.. not agressivly or anything just pull her aside after work lunch or whatever and ask her. If she still is a *****....beat her *** :-) j/k good luck.
2007-01-19 12:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by 2004 draft pick 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋