I am inviting my ex's grandparents to my wedding...do I have to invite his parents too?

Question

After my ex-boyfriend and I broke up, I stayed in close contact with his (paternal) grandparents. They were always good to me throughout the relationship. We still email each other about once a week.

The ex's father was always nice to me, but his stepmother had nothing but bad things to say about anyone and everyone. And any opportunity she had to put down the grandparents, she took it. They still send me a Christmas card each year, but that's our only contact.

I will be getting married next summer, and want to invite the grandparents to the ceremony. My own parents have said I have to invite my ex's parents as well...it would be incredibly rude not to invite both couples.

Any opinions?

Answer 1

No. If you do just invite his dad.

Answer 2

My opinon is don't worry about the "right" thing to do. Because then the list will never end. If you invite his parents, does that mean you have to invite the ex, and so on. The only reason I would invite them would be if the grandparents aren't very outgoing people and won't know anyone else at the wedding. It may be nice to have someone for them to talk to. Then again, the stepmother may want nothing to do with your wedding and they may not come. If you can afford to squeeze 2 more people. why not, the more the marrier. But if you can't , don't sweat it.

Answer 3

Invite your ex's grandparents, but don't be upset if they're uncomfortable in accepting the invitation or don't come. If the ex's stepmom is that mean, don't invite them (they are a couple) just send an announcement and no invitation. It will be a stressful day as it is, don't make it worse on yourself than necessary!
Congratulations and good luck!

Answer 4

There is absolutely nothing wrong with inviting the grandparents to your wedding. There is no law that says you have to invite the parents also. I am sure the ex'es parents are not even thinking about your wedding much less be concerned with attending.
Congrats on your upcoming Marriage.

Answer 5

I think once an ex always an ex. Don't invite any of your exes family to the wedding. That will only open up a can of worms. You have your own family to worry about!

Answer 6

It's your wedding day,you don't HAVE to invite anyone you don't want there. To the contrary,you should invite the people you want there the most. It sounds like the ex's grandparents fit in the latter.

Answer 7

You should only invite people that you want to see at the ceremony. If you don't want someone to be there, don't invite them. Why worry about if it's rude or not, it's not like the Step-mom gives 2 S**ts about you anyway.

Answer 8

What about the guy your going to marrie? Are you going to invite his ex grandparents. This is really in poor taste. Forget about the past & move on.

Answer 9

That is really touchy. Do you know what the Stepmother’s problem with you is? Did you cause it?

I would think out of respect for your former family, and invite would not be necessary.

But that is up to you and your future husband. How comfortable is he with having your ex-family there.

Answer 10

nope, it is your wedding and you are inviting your friends. Your parent has the right to family and their friends. So considering the relationship, you are more closer to your ex grandparent than your mom are, so invite people you like

Answer 11

I think you shouldn't invite any of them It would be rude to invite them only because what does your fiance say about it? If you only have contact with them towards card and emails i dont recomend contacting them for your wedding. It would be a risky chance to take. LIke I said, what does your fiance say about it?