I went to a wedding shower, took a gift to the future bride and later I went to her wedding with another gift. She sent me a thank you card for the shower present but never anything about the wedding present. On her list she asked for the wedding present to be mailed to her but I carried the present to the wedding. Now I am not sure if she ever got my present. I don't know her well but know her mother . How do I apprach them and question wether they recieved my wedding gift without being tactfull ?
2007-01-19 04:35:02 · 12 answers · asked by livewire 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You did not mention when the wedding occurred; often it takes a new bride and groom a few weeks or even months to get situation into their new home and their new belongings, if that is the case, and can take a while getting around to the thank you notes.
My advice is to either wait a bit longer, or call up the mother of the bride or groom, whomever you are closest to, and tell them that since you carried the gift in you wanted to make sure they had received it and it wasn't damaged, etc.
2007-01-19 07:11:42 · answer #1 · answered by Morgan H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long ago was the wedding? A lot of couples wait for a wallet size picture from their photographer to include with their thank-yous. That could take 6 months or more. It seems very rude, but it's done a lot. I wouldn't do anything about it. She probably got the present. She probably didn't have time or energy to send however many thank yous. Not something to approach her about, that would be answering rude with rude. Maybe in casual conversation when and if you are together socially you can mention the gift...
2007-01-19 12:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by pineconeamanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somebody at the reception venue should have been in charge of any gifts that were brought directly to the wedding. Additionally if a gift was inadvertantly left by the intended receiver, somebody should have notified the couple.
If you know her mother, I don't see any reason why you can't ask her about the gift. You can be truthful and just say that because you brought it to the wedding you just wanted to make sure the bride received it or you can be a bit more vague in your intent and ask if she's enjoying the gift or if it coordinated with her home decor.
2007-01-19 12:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you mean you want to *be* tactful. LOL :) Well, I think it would be okay to ask her mother to make sure she got it and your reason can be because you realized later you were supposed to mail the present and you took it to the wedding instead and so you just want to be sure. I don't think that would imply anything about not getting a thank you card. And this person could just be tired of writing thank you notes and decided one was enough for you, which is a little harsh. LOL They should have mentioned both gifts in their thank you note. But i think if you mention that to the girl's mother, you'll be fine and then she'll find out for you.
2007-01-19 12:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jade D. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long ago was the wedding? They have about three months, nowadays anyway, to write the thank yous. Ask some other people if they received their thank yous. If they did, then ask her mother if the daughter ever got the present.
2007-01-19 14:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you give a present, you don't expect anything in return, not even a thank you card, it would be like expecting to be paid back. You canbe sure they received it and enjoyed it, and that should sufice. You give something and forget it. What they do with the gift is totaly up to them.
A gift is not to get appreciation, but to give love and expect absolutely nothing in return. God Bless.
2007-01-19 12:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by skydiver 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ask her or her mom. Just state that you hope she enjoyed the gift and that if she got more of the same item to feel free to excahnge it.... I am sure you will get a response.
2007-01-19 12:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by lepluver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're close to her Mom, just ask. "I was wondering if xx was able to use" or "if it fits in with their home", etc. Tell her you brought it instead of mailing, for whatever reason, and want to be sure it got to her daughter.
2007-01-19 13:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by J m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most newlyweds want monetary gifts. Maybe she was not happy with the gift you gave.
2007-01-19 13:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by Peaches 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her or her mother if the gift was suitable as you were not sure if they already had one.
2007-01-19 12:38:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋