Hi,i am married to a wonderful woman (11 yrs) but one thing i keep argueing about, is that when we first met some 17yrs ago she told me about her first and only boyfriend a salor . We were expecting our first child at this time but now and then she would let me know things like how when we walked past his house how the carpet smelt when they were making love on the floor, and also how he used to go straight asleep after sex. Now at the time i thorght to myself why is she saying this to me but i just brushed it off and carried on. she would also say things like how board she was when they went to see his passing out parade again it didnt bother me at first but as time got on these bad thorts of her with him started to get to me and so without actually telling her the reason i would start an argument eventually i told her what was bothering me and she admitts she was young and foolish to say such things without thorght but still now 17yrs on i cant get out of my head her and him having
2007-01-19 04:30:57 · 6 answers · asked by hurting 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
whats your question?
2007-01-19 04:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by j.ollyroger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife was right when she told you she was young, insensitive, and she shouldn't have told you these things. Now you say you are left with the thoughts of her and this other man. You have to let go of it as hard as it is, and appreciate your relationship with your wife. Why bring up old things when they will not do nothing but bring to you more misery. It has been a long time now, she probably forgot about that old boyfriend. She explained she was sorry, let it go, it meant nothing but imaturity on her part.
2007-01-19 04:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have kept those intimate details to herself. I overheard my husband telling some of his buddies how he got it on with some chick inside a convience store she worked at. I think about that all the time. It does hurt. You cant' change the past but it would be nice if I didn't know about things like that. Tell her that you don't want anymore comments made about that subject. Tell her it makes you uncomfortable. She will stop if she knows how you really feel.
2007-01-19 04:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by Treyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it like this: she obviously told you this because she loves you and trusts you completely. What she did with this sailor guy was what, 17yrs ago?!! That was years ago, and she wasnt even with you at the time. Where is this sailor guy now? she probly doesnt know and doesnt care because she is married to YOU!!! the man she loves...so while it may be hard...get over it!
2007-01-19 04:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by Bloo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey friend, you have do something for her so romantic that she wont even think about her old flame. no one completely shakes their first love, its not personal. make her infatuated with you like you were when you first met. take the focus off him and but it back on the two of you. confidence in one of the biggest aphrodisiacs. so dont worry about him
2007-01-19 04:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by corEy marsh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how about you. were you a virgin before you married your wife? If the answer is no then you just have to let it go....
2007-01-19 04:38:10 · answer #6 · answered by supergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋