I've been seeing a guy for a couple months now who got divorced about a year ago (he got married way too young), and has had a failed relationship after that. He's said he doesn't want a relationship now, but he loves being with me and hanging out with me. He's spent time with my parents, we've gone out with eachothers friends, and we do things couples do on a regular basis (at least 4 times a week). I've been going through some things and he's been there for me 100% and has made sure to tell me multiple times he's not going anywhere. Everything he does is "boyfriend" like and I'm starting to feel like feelings are getting involved. I need some outside opinions here pleaseee :)
2007-01-19 04:30:26 · 11 answers · asked by PreciousLaur 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well all you can do precious :) is be patient. After all he has been straight up with you and has told you how he feels and thats great. So if your not a couple u need to get clear with him on a few things...I'm sure you have or will, right? You dont want to loose him if you aren't clear on ur friendship. This is a hard one because your sleeping together and he says he's not going anywhere yet your not a couple? I haven't heard of this before but if your ok with it then thats all that matters, my question to him and you would be does that give you the green light to date others since your not a couple? Get clear w/him on ur thoughts.
2007-01-19 04:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by laura k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue the friendship and please do not confuse this with sex or he will be tempted to use you and this will only end up hurting you. If it is friendship he wants then friendship is all you give to him. You go out with other friends and enjoy the times you do spend with him. Do not schedule your events around his time to see you. You go ahead and make your own plans, so if he sometimes calls to go out you can tell him that you made other plans but let him know that maybe another time would be nice. Do not be too available to him, if you do then he has no modivation to take things further. Best of luck!
2007-01-19 04:37:06 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's not ready then you can't force him. Just let things happen naturally. Especially if you are enjoying your time with him. Unless you feel your heart is being pulled in too much and you don't think he will ever want to be more. Maybe you should mention that to him. Be open and honest, but not pressuring.
Good luck!!
2007-01-19 04:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends hooked up with friends bf?
2016-05-24 07:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he says that he doesnt want a relationship, just ask him straight up, be like, I think I love you, what do u think? AND MAKE SURE THERE ARENT ANY OTHER WOMEN HE IS SCREWING BEHIND UR BACK, BECAUSE U ARE NOT TECHNICALLY HIS AND VICA VERSA, SO U GUYS MIGHT JUST BE CASUAL SEX PARTNERS. Dont get urself into that situation. Find out first! And good luck Sweety!
2007-01-19 04:35:04 · answer #5 · answered by Donny B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sure sounds like it to me. I think you should just keep been his friend and keep hanging out with him and see where it takes you. Just don't push him hes already been in two bad relationships. But it does sounds like it won't be long before you know your answer, he may be falling for you to. good luck
2007-01-19 04:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has feelings for you. Why don't you just let it develop? Take it slow and see where it goes. He probably just needs to be cautious for a while.
2007-01-19 04:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by brown_iyed_grrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes a boyfriend already just doesnt want the title...not as important to men (titles), but that is what he is....
2007-01-19 04:33:49 · answer #8 · answered by Tunasandwich 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it and let him know where you stand. everything should flow from there.
2007-01-19 04:33:58 · answer #9 · answered by colera667 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not the only one he's seeing. can you say backburner?
2007-01-19 04:33:29 · answer #10 · answered by Tacyella 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋