my bf and i go to the same university.he lives in an apartment that he rents and i live in this really nice dorm-you know the ones with each person's room,a living area/room,a kitchenette and a vanity and bathroom and a small fridge.but i share everything else except my room with my room mate. my bed is not the best bed to sleep in and up until now my bf did not have have a problem spending the night in my room in my dorm. last night he decided to spend the night over which was rare since he stopped doing it in a long time-spending the night over- and today he complains about how the bed is too hard and not big enough-well, it is for one person! then he says that this is the reason/s why he spends the night at my place so rarely.felt so hurt because he could not actually say those words until now and to get back at him i told him that i hate his bed and his place which is so untrue:i did that because he complained so much.is it right what i did and is it right what he also did to me ?
2007-01-19 04:19:42 · 14 answers · asked by icycrissy27blue 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am not mad because he insulted my bed but rather because he chooses not to spend the night at my place and i spend the night at his place a lot. as for me buying a new bed there is not enough room and the bed came with the room-furniture. plus i have a year left or so until i graduate from the university i attend. what made me mad is that he choses not to spend the night at my place a lot of times yet i spend the night at his place. plus it was how he said it that made me mad.
2007-01-19 04:28:00 · update #1
hey he was just being honest...would u rather he lie and build up resentment....what u did was wrong...u lied to him about your feelings about his bed....apologise with some nice head...and a thoughtful dinner...and then some really hot make-up u know what.......BE STRAIGHT from now on...
2007-01-19 04:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by Tikcus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly does not sound like mature university student behaviour. Perhaps there are other underlying issues that need to be addressed as well. A good conversation might be in order for you two. Both will need to keep an open mind and be open and honest. Perhaps he is just beginning to feel comfortable enough to mention how he dislikes your bed, or maybe he just woke up in a poor mood. Regardless you both need to take the time to talk with each other maturely and like university students and not kindergarten kids. Best of luck.
2007-01-19 12:30:16 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he really did anything to you. He was complaining about your bed, not you, so I doubt he was trying to offend you. You probably overreacted, but it doesn't sound like it was a personal attack against you. I would tell him you were just being irritable and said it without thinking and let it go. It seems like his place would be more private, so I'd want to spend more time there anyway.
2007-01-19 12:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him, and tell him you didn't mean what you said about his bed...you could also go the extra mile and get a better bed for yourself. Don't take what he said personally...especially if you have no control over the bed (school-owned?). Prob solved.
2007-01-19 12:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he doesn't like your bed... It sounds awfully small. Why don't you spend the night at his place more often or get a bigger bed?
2007-01-19 12:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by SchrodingersTigress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it just sounds like a regular arguement...Its alright if he doesnt like your bed...you dont like it either...Dont worry about this small spat...there are worser things to argue about like cheating, STD, and not having a bed at all....GOOD LUCK
2007-01-19 12:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not right for what you did you are acting like a elementary child. Your lunch is gross, noyour lunch is grosser. BOOO HOO he doesn't like your bed are you going to let that get in the way of your relationship?!?!?
2007-01-19 12:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by samee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he didn't touch his heart to say what he sad to you. Why should you, I mean you both ae only human you know; you both have feelings. He is no more special than you or he is more delicate than you, but you are. Good now you are both even. Unless he says sorry first. That's my opinion.
2007-01-19 12:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by mexlavanderlover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think he is wrong because it should not hurt u because it is just a bed, and i think what u did is wrong u should of just told him to stop complaining.
2007-01-19 12:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by pretty girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, he is SOOOO mean!! I mean, like, he insulted your bed! You should so break up with him.
Wait, I mean...
You are mad because he doesnt like your bed?
2007-01-19 12:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Goodkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋