i just got off the phone with my girlfriend and SUDDENLY she's not sure if she's happy with me, yesterday we were talking about having kids and getting a house, the day before that she was sitting with me all night on the couch head on shoulder all that, now today she's going to her dad's house but her phone is turned off after she told me all this about she doesn't know what she wants, she's done this before and a couple of days later she tells me she's just screwed up and she wants me and she's sorry all that bs. i love her so much but these mixed signals are driving me crazy, she's already admitted to cheating before but says it'll never happen again, it hurts, i've already bought her a ring, but i don't know which person is going to be there when i ask her the one who loves me to death or the one who's not sure what she wants. one day i'm everything she could ask for the next ishe doesn't know if she'll be happy. what the f@##!
2007-01-19 04:06:00 · 28 answers · asked by me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jumbo, you obviously did not read my last answer to you when you first posted this question. She is messing with your head, playing games with you, she is probably young and imature. You have to be a man and stand your ground and show her that you will not allow her to behave this way. If I were you, I would tell her that "YOU (not her) need some time to decide if whether this relationship with her is what you really want"... Tell her this, she knows her power in the relationship and you are at fault for showing it to her. ..she is testing your manhood, to see what a whimp you can be, how much you will take, time to stand up and behave like a man. Sorry to be so cruel, but even us girls have to stand up and not tolerate bad behaviour, .come on, if not, then she will always be wishy washy and know she can treat you with total disrepect! I know, I have been there! Please please listen to me.
2007-01-19 04:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not 100% sure she'll say yes or that it'll be a good thing, you shouldn't ask. If she's not sure if she wants to be with you, I'd avoid popping the question for a very long time. And you need to tell her how your feeling. Explain to her that you are totally confused lately with how much she goes back and forth with your relationship. Ask if there's anything you can do to make her more comfortable so that way it isn't sounding like she's just f*ed up. Girls hate that. Just try talking to her. But leave the thoughts about her cheating out. You can try to be the best boyfriend in the world and if she is cheating she'll do one of two things, either feel so guilty she'll confess or she'll stop and try to be as good of a partner as you.
2007-01-19 12:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by gi_jane_kicks_ass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! Sounds so weird to hear a person of the opposite sex going through what i have been going through for 3 yrs. I would say from personal experiences move on and because obviously you guys are not on the same page, and sounds like maybe you deserve better, dont giver her the ring unless you are sure you will stay with her!!! I am going to take my own advice and move on soon i am so young and obviously there are men out there that would appreciate me and want the things i want in life!!! Its hard but be strong you will see later in life that you will make the right decision.
2007-01-19 12:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by Priscilla R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she young?
Here's what I think, she has cold feet. You don't know for sure what the future will hold and I think that she just wants security and know that she's doing the right thing. Also, all of this stuff gets drudged up every month when pms rolls around.
As far as cheating, it's possible but i'm not feeling that's what's going on. She might have something like depression or be bi-polar. That could account for her behavior too.
2007-01-19 12:19:03 · answer #4 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she sounds a Little mixed up before you plan a future together I think you should ask her to get some counseling. I think she is not sure what she wants. And if you don't let her get the help someday she will regret her life and leave you later and making the pain even greater then her cheating on you now.
Get her to get help, support her thru it you will be a much better man for it and your relationship will be allot better also.
2007-01-19 12:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you're having some trust issue. Think you need to address this with your girlfriend. You guys need to communicate better before you taking the big plunge.Marriage is not all peaches and cream.It is hard work,and if you are have these problems now, think about when you are married with 3 kids later and no job.Just a food for thought.good luck
2007-01-19 12:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by sissyurban 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok how long have you guys been dating ? I'm sorry that this is the position that your in I know it hurts I've been there. I would hold off on the proposal thing until you have proff that she's cheating on you then i'm sure you know where to take it from there. I don't give second chances because once a cheater alwasys a cheater but you have to decide for yourself.
2007-01-19 12:16:25 · answer #7 · answered by MIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope it works out for you. My ex did that to me. Almost exact same situation except she went away for school about 11 months into our relationship. We were together for 17 or so and then I we broke up and she slept with someone else.
We decided to give it another shot 2 months later and were together for about 4-5 months and then she said that she was having feelings for someone else and didn't think it was right for us to be together while she felt this way. I then found out she had been with this guy and cheated on me while we were still dating (the last few weeks).
So while I hope she isn't cheating on you, it is possible I am sorry to say.
2007-01-19 12:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by CJ B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a girl who'll appreciate you. She may be a ring collector, how many times has she been engaged? Does she get bored once she's got the man and move on to another?
Sorry girls, but far too many of you do this and us guys are getting pretty pe'd off with it. And you wonder why we're bas'ards.
2007-01-19 12:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well find out if she really loves you or not. Youa lready got the ring so propose to her if she says something like well I have to think about it, or I don't know yet if I want a commitment. Well she's cheating again becasue which girl in this world doesn't want a commitment.
2007-01-19 12:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋