i met this guy 6 yrs ago and we got along good at first he had 3 kids to previous girl which i had no problem with well i found out i was pregent so i had no other chose but to keep it then i got pregnet again with twins kept them last year me and all the kids went on vac. togather to my home town in pa so here i am with 6 kids driveing from florida to pa for a nice vac and while we were there he desides to step out well it was over i had enough now he wont stop calling emailing me being stupid and is denieing our children i try to be nice but it is very hard i moved ion with my life and he dont like it what should i do
2007-01-19 04:05:23 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i live in pa now and he lives in florida i do try to be nice but he makes me feel like **** and i am the crazy one i dont take him for support for the kids i try to be nice about this and still he wont go away
2007-01-19 04:15:05 · update #1
his name is not on the bc he said he was to busy to sign it so i feel i am being more then fair to him giveing him the free ride in life
2007-01-19 04:17:10 · update #2
Hmmm, sounds like you have a problem (obviously).
A lot of people don't get the idea that you want to call it quits, and it's always a difficult and delicate matter to deal with. If you've already talked about it with him and he's persists, then you could have his number blocked or whatever. If he's one of those stalker sickos you should probably have a restraining order put against him ... but he might be able to bypass that since you are the mother of his children.
But don't respond to emails, or calls.
No offense or anything, but maybe you should use protection next time until you are pretty sure that you are with the right partner, because one "oops" baby is one thing, but 3? That's a bit much, and you really cant take away his rights as the father unless he gives them up, so that makes this much harder.
2007-01-19 04:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by justinandbarbi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order and file for child support. If he violates the restraining order, report him immediately. If you've made the final decision to drop him, don't give him any more chances. Be firm.
He can deny that the kids are his all he wants, but it won't make any difference. If he has been there since the kids were born, treating them like his own, he's still liable for support. Besides, his name is probably on the birth certificate. Try denying that.
2007-01-19 12:08:51 · answer #2 · answered by Harley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Social Services & they will see to it (if they're doing their job) that he pays child support. They will order paternity tests if necessary. Altho if he has acknowledged the children in writing its not necessary. You need a court order for support. Even if he doesn't have any money its a good idea. Who knows, they might be eligible for Social Security benefits because of him some day.
Contact the police since he won't leave you alone. However, they probably won't do anything if he isn't threatening you.
What else should you do? Get some damn birth control pills so that our tax dollars can be put to better use. Your kids aren't exactly starting out their lives on a positive note & it probably won't get any better for them.
2007-01-19 12:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a Restraining Order against him. See a lawyer, report him to the police. He's bad news!
2007-01-19 12:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a restraining order! sounds like a stalker
2007-01-19 12:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Restraning Order or you could move to another state.
2007-01-19 12:10:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds lik ea psycho in the making...better get a court order....good luck...
2007-01-19 12:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by Tikcus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call a lawyer and put a stop to his harrassment
2007-01-19 12:07:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you better get family counseling
2007-01-19 12:08:38 · answer #9 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RESTARINING ORDER hahaha
2007-01-19 12:08:43 · answer #10 · answered by LeonZe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋