I'm currently dating this guy. I'm 18 and he's 26. The age factor isn't my concern. My concern is that we are different. He likes to go out to the bars and have a few beers and so forth. He doesn't drink like he used to, in fact he has been cutting back on it. But I'm totally not into drinking, it just isn't my thing. It never has been and it probably never will. I'm not saying I will never drink...I'm just not the type that is going to go out every weekend to get wasted, and he knows this. He also likes to go to Atlantic City every now and then to gamble, again not my thing. I really like him though, because he is a really nice guy and he likes me. Do you think our differences will present any problems?
2007-01-19 04:03:52 · 9 answers · asked by hellogoodbye 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In response to Tacyella: Age doesn't matter, and he's not looking to get a piece of highschool a**, because 1...I'm not in highschool and 2 he's not that kind of guy. And don't tell me he is because you never met him. Also, I never said we didn't have anything in common...we do have things in common. He just likes to drink and I don't thats it....and like I stated before he has been cutting back on it because he's realized there are more important things in life.
2007-01-19 04:19:48 · update #1
I'm not trying to change him.....he's doing that on his own. He wants to stop going out so often....and he has.
2007-01-19 04:44:11 · update #2
well i'm 18 as well and i don't think that would present any major problems. now i'm dating a 22 year old that is the same way. He likes to go out to the bars and get drunk with his friends... i dont know if you've been to a bar or not since your 18 but I have and watch yourself... girls will just throw themselves at guys since their drunk and guys do dumb things without thinking so I check up on my man every now and then when hes out.
I'd have a talk with him about how you feel. Since hes already cutting back on drinking maybe he will cut back a little more and not go out out as much and spend more time with you!! Maybe you two can plan to go to Atlantic City together sometime... which will bring you two closer together. opposites attract for what i've learned... and i think thats one of the things he likes about you.
2007-01-19 04:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no.
no because every couple need room, let say you marry him, wake up with him, eat breafest together, go to work together, lunch together, get off work together, go home for dinner, the conversation at dinner is " how is work today, what you have for lunch"
do you think this is good?
yes because there just something you aren't into and when he goes out with his friend to drink now and then, you might think he is cheating in the long run.
so my suggestion is talk about each other needs. hey, he is cutting back on drinking and gambling. so make it drink night once or twice a month, gamble once every 3 months. That should work
2007-01-19 12:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not be able to change him and yes, your differences will present problems big time. He drinks to excess & he gambles. If that isn't a recipe for disaster I don't know what is. Relationship can be difficult enof without adding unncessary and serious problems to the mixture. Run, run, run. You will regret it if you stay with him. If you marry him, for goodness sakes don't have any children. I would give a marriage with him 2 yrs max.
2007-01-19 12:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like it already is. and honestly you cant go to the bars with him so even if you were willing to suffer one night everyonce in a while you really couldnt for another 2~3 years. so if thats all he does for fun then yeah it may cause some hardship. but if he really likes you he will cut back to spend time with you so it all depends on your actual relationship and how far into it you are. and half of going to the bar is who you go with not just drinking.
2007-01-19 12:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly no diffrences are not a problem i mean most people say opposites attract in this relationship thats basically what it is people do there own things and i think if you and this person were the same i think after a while it would be boring cause you guys wouldnt wanna try new things it would be same thing over and overs again dont let the diffrences come between you and him
2007-01-19 12:09:17 · answer #5 · answered by Vanessa Foo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They could present a problem, yes. but if you have more in common witht his guy and the similarities are bigger than your diffrences then they shouldnt be huge probelms. Dating someone isnt about being completely the same, its about getting to know someone who is diffrent. Whats the point in getting to know someone who is exactly like you? I dont see a huge problem for you. good luck!
2007-01-19 12:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're different BECAUSE OF YOUR AGE!!!!! how can you say that's not a concern!!?!?!?!? he likes to go out, your not even allowed IN the bars he hangs at! he's just wants some high school a s s... how can you even call this a relationship when you have NOTHING in common?
2007-01-19 12:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by Tacyella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-01-19 12:07:37 · answer #8 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! Your differences will present many problems unless you both can compromise.
2007-01-19 12:08:10 · answer #9 · answered by CPA2B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋