I am concerned about a friends health and safety?

Question

I have a female friend, she has service or repairmen at her house from time to time and uses this as an opportuity to show herself. She will answer the door and usually is wearing her night gown, after work begins she will go to a room she knows they will end up in and uses toys to mas###bate. she says they seem to enjoy the show and she loves doing it every chance she has. I wonder if they really enjoy it or simply tolerate it. I also wonder how safe doing this is. Is this a common thing for repairmen or rare. Is she nuts or do many women do this. Thanks

Answer 1

Okay, I will not resort to name calling.
Yes, your friend seems to enjoy voyerism(letting people watch her). I have known a few women, unfortunately, who would do this exact thing.
It is a turn on to them.
They entice someone who they don't know, but they already suspect that they are turning the other person on also.
It is unlikely that she will stop this behavior. She already gets quite a bit of satisfaction out of it.
But, she can do a few things to protect herself.
1. If she is bold enough to do it, then she should be bold enough to talk about doing it. Don't let repair men stumble upon it, invite them. I know of one repair man who would not go to a house if he knew that a woman was inappropriate. It was like sexual harassment.
2. having strangers in your bedroom is just plain dangerous. If you know that a repair an is coming one day, have a code system set up with a friend that she call at a certain time and if she does not answer the phone, then you will know that something is wrong. And, your friend could call you and get the repairman's name and id number and place of business: just for safety's sake.
3. Maybe she should close a door and just install a window, if she wants ment o see her, but not touch. Therefore, they can walk by a room and at anytime watch, but she can lock the door and be safe.
This would only work, if she did not want something to happen.
If she does:
Well, prayer works.

Answer 2

She's totally nuts and is setting herself up for a "situation". To be honest, if this is really how she behaves, I wouldn't feel bad for her when she gets raped (when, not if).

This is not a common thing. My husband does sales and in several years he has only once been greeted by a woman in a towel (actually the daughter of the house who wasn't aware he was coming and was expecting someone else!). He didn't mind seeing the girl (woman, she was about 20 he said) in the towel but I know he would be really uncomfortable if the situation were any "crazier".

She is also putting these men in a bad spot. Many men are married and don't want to be seeing that in person... computer or tv porn is one thing, real life porn is totally different. Many women might find out and come beat her ***. There are so many problems with this beyond the fact that she is a skanky sl*t.

Answer 3

I would be concerned for your friend too. It sounds like she has some psychological problems. I mean, it isn't usually normal to even want a stranger to see you undressed, let alone doing something sexual. I suspect that many of the repairmen are shocked, appalled, and repulsed by this behavior, but they probably tolerate it because they were hired to do a job. If I were you, I'd encourage your friend to see a mental health professional right away. It sounds like she has some serious issues.

Answer 4

What she is doing is very dangerous, and terribly impolite.

These men may be married or simply not interested, and she is forcing her sexuality upon them and putting them in an awkward position of risking their job if they say anything. It's very rude to assume that they will enjoy it, and to not consider anyone's feelings but her own.

It's also incredibly dangerous. Any one of these men could take her actions as an invitation, and try to rape her. If her goal is to have sex with them, then that is fine, but they may take her forwardness as permission to do all kinds of unusual or aggressive sexual acts, which she may not want. Once encouraged, some men do not take no for an answer, and she could endanger her health and even her life. You need to warn her, and help her see how rude and dangerous her actions are.

I have never known any women who do this... perhaps a little light flirting with a cute plumber or something, but no actual porno fantasies.

Answer 5

That inappropriate behavior and no, it's not common. She's putting herself in a situation to get assaulted and hurt or worse. This is really no different than a man in a car asking a woman for directions and she looks down to see that he's mas###bating. Maybe she was victimized as a child. Sounds like she has issues she needs to deal with. Sex addicts are more than nymphos, they use sex inappropriately.

Answer 6

She is really taking a risk. Although maybe she is taking more of one then you realize. Maybe she is already having sex and just won't admit she goes that far. If not she is risking that one will end up raping her. On top of that if she IS then she is risking that they have STDs. She is being kinda stupid to do it. I am not saying anything against exhibitionists. Hey if you like to show that is fine, BUT there are safer ways.

Answer 7

(please dont be offended but if this is a --REAL QUESTION)..id say shes got an urge to expose herself much like the way flashers get off on showing themselves to others and this can be extremely dangerous! Ive recently seen a story on our local news about a cable man convicted of raping two young women whom he was making service calls to...he was let off on the first one but the case was reopened when they found him guilty of the second offense....not cool man not cool....she should see a psych!

Answer 8

You can try to reason with her, but someone that crazy is probably not going to listen. I'd say she's cruising for a Darwin Award.

Answer 9

Its not normal. She needs help and fast. One of these days, she will have the wrong repair man in her house and he will hurt her. Before this happens, please talk to her and try to make it clear that she will get raped or even killed if the wrong, sexually frustrated man comes into her house. I wish you and her the best of luck. And I will pray that she stays safe and doesn't get hurt.

Answer 10

She's nuts!