After a break up, I sued my ex for money I loaned him. I also got a restraining order to ensure he would not bother me again. A few weeks ago, he started calling me again, and since I wasn't mad at him anymore, I agreed to hang out with him. We were getting along, and got back together. Since I figured we were trying to work things out, I dropped the lawsuit. (It was never about the money, anyways.) Now, I regret dropping the lawsuit, since I am pretty sure we'll be breaking up soon. Should I refile the paperwork to take him back to court, or should I just let everything go when we break up, and never deal with him again? Or should I stick it out and put forth an effort to salvage our relationship?
2007-01-19 03:56:25 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If can't really say whether or not you should be with him or not. That decision is probably best up to you.
But if you do leave him, make a clean break. Don't go to court. Just break off all contact. You sound like you don't really need the money. Going to court over this would just put him in your life longer than would be necessary. Chalk up the loss as a lesson learned.
2007-01-19 04:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm this is a predicament. If it isnt about the money then I would say forget about the lawsuit and move on. Now about salvaging the relationship. That is a toughy. You need to evaluate why you all ending things initially. Have these things changed. Have you all reconciled. Have you learned to deal with differences. If you answe no I would consider taking some time to yourself to enjoy life solo - at least for a little bit. If those feelings are still there after a while then maybe you could consider giving it another go. But if I were you right now I would just take some time.
2007-01-19 12:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by rachie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it isn't about the money, leave the lawsuit alone
if you try and file again, you're just being bitter and vindictive
whether or not you should try and save the relationship depends on the actual relationship. Some people don't need to be together and some people do.
The fact that you had to get a restraining order tells me that there might be some violence going on here, in which case I would suggest that you end this relationship, move on and NEVER look back.
2007-01-19 12:03:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like your on a roller coaster and he is making you pay for the ticket each time you go around if the money is significant and you need it back then follow through.
Have you considered the idea that once he got back with you it was for that particular reason to begin with . Hey I'll get back with her and she will drop the lawsuit hahahhaha yea I got her!!!!
Guess what you are doing just that so if in the case you do call it off again get over him, get your money, and stand strong.~~~ This will also gain you respect that you will not allow someone to run over you or use you!
Good Luck!
2007-01-19 12:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by vcaring 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely the judge will put two and Two to gether and figure that your only suing out of spite and you will lose your case.
I would advise you to try to put an effort into saving your relationship, but then if it's impossible, break up and don't make the mistake of trying to dealing with him again - twice is en ought - three times is foolish and a waste of time, as he and you are not going to change.
2007-01-19 12:03:40 · answer #5 · answered by Dale 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you drop a lawsuit you can't try and sue for the same thing. If you went through this much trouble in the first place, you should have NEVER got back with him! It sounds like he did it to get you to drop the case any way. Can we say NAIVE?
2007-01-19 12:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost sounds as if he got back together with you to get you to drop the lawsuit. It's up to you and your lawyer if you have a chance of collecting and if it's for a large sum of money/ Do yourself a favor and keep your distance this time around when you guys do break up.
2007-01-19 12:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow ! ! ! If it was never about the money anyways just let the matter go as for the relationship you have to decipher the pros and cons of that. Is that relationship worth saving and what happened this time that it's causing you guys to break up.. If it's the same as last time it may not be worth saving it at all and your better off saving your heart and love for someone that would deserve it.
2007-01-19 12:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by MIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should correct your original mistake and stop seeing him and file the lawsuit again. Don't make that error in judgement again by taking him back or being friends with him. You have to stick to your convictions. Obviously there were reasons beyond money why you two broke up...not just because you were mad at him.
2007-01-19 12:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by atxtallchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off girlfriend it's one thing to not get along with your x but to sue him well that was a little extreme.You did what you had to do.Leave him alone because if you sue him again WELL you better hope you don't get the same judge.You might have to end up paying him(smile)get out of it sometimes it ain't worth the head ace (money)you love and lost now move on.You can gain more money but can't keep getting hurt especially if it's your fault dealing with him..
2007-01-19 12:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by gblue52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋