Mothers, what would you do if your boyfriend gave your teenage daughter panties as a gift?

Question

I personally would take drastic measures.

I am asking to prove a point to someone who refuses to see his friend for what he is.

Answer 1

I would regard it as very inappropriate and suggestive.

So therefore, I would remove myself and my daughter from that situation.

Not even the most clueless man would make this mistake.

Answer 2

This is very inappropriate behavior. Depending on the level of the relationship between the mother and the boyfriend, I would do one of two things.
1) End the relationship immediately. Be honest, explaining why, and that it is not behavior of someone you want in your, or your daughters life.
2) Explain how you feel about the gift, having a discussion as calm and mature as possible. Listen to what the boyfriend has to say. Then decide if you think the boyfriend deserves a second chance. Try to be as honest with yourself as possible. Try not to let emotions hinder your intuition.

Better to find another boyfriend that would never do this in the first place than to risk something terrible happening to your daughter.

Answer 3

I want to say something as a guy. I know this wasn't directed to guys but I still want to say something. OK I read this and misread if the first time. Was thinking it was the daughter's boyfriend and thought well if the mother knows something isn't right in the situation. Now reread and saw it was the mother's boyfriend. Something about that seems rather sick. I would honestly keep tabs on him. I know most say leave him right away BUT I have other ideas. Ok probably wouldn't if I was in the situation but from a logical point I do. See watch him. Just be distant from him. That was you can call the cops on him as soon as you need to. Something about that makes me think he is after the daughter. Maybe he isn't, but it sure looks suspicious by ages in that thought. Either that or mom should be dating guys HER age instead.

Answer 4

you need to have a serious talk with your daughter and find out if she is doing more than holding hands. then invite her bf over,or if he comes to pick her up invite him in for a chat with your daughter there,if your daughters father is still at home make sure he is there too. you all need to have a talk. that's not an appropriate gift for a teenage boy to give a teen age girl. i mean she let you see the panties so there may not be anything to worry about.as a mom you have the right to question her about this.

Answer 5

My initial reaction would be one of alarm, but I would ask him about it if this was a longstanding relationship. Were they overly sexy? Has he acted inappropriately towards her in the past? Or is it possible that you're all like a family and he noticed that she needed some new ones? I'd also ask her about it. Ask her what she thinks of said boyfriend and does he make her uncomfortable? I really think this is a situation best resolved by communication. After said communication, you might still find out that your fears are justified, but at least you'll KNOW, and won't worry that you acted rashly.

Answer 6

I'm not a mom, but...Are we talking about the Kmart three-pack of tightie whities, or are we talking the tiger-striped number from Victoria's Secret?
One might be a very practical gift that she needed, the other might be completely inappropriate.
Guys are kind of dumb sometimes when it comes to gift-giving; perhaps he just thought it was something she would enjoy and didn't think about how others would take it.
You might want to ask your daughter how she feels about your boyfriend and whether she feels he's been interested in her at all. And be prepared to really hear the answer.

Answer 7

I would first feel fear in my gut. Then I would get angry and cry hard before kicking myself in the *** for not noticing the little signs leading up to the gift of panties. I would watch the both of them to see if she has encouraged him in any way and go from there. At any rate, I would be through with him but I probably would be angry for awhile.

Answer 8

Alarm bells would ring in my head. I would break it off straight away - it is such an inappropriate gift, and more than just a little suggestive.

Answer 9

Uh, dump his *** immediately? Why is this even a question? That is completely inappropriate, even if he gave her a huge pair of granny panties.

Answer 10

What would i do?? I'd freak out. It's completely inappropriate, it's sending the wrong signals to your daughter who is just beginning to understand her body! I'd send him on his way minus his set of balls!!