When I get married I'm going to ask my cousin to be my maid of honor. However, she is divorced with a little girl and isn't exactly looking to be "settled down" again anytime soon (doesn't want Mr. Right, but rather Mr. Good-Enough-For-Right-Now). Since she is a divorcee and more than likely won't be re-married by the time my wedding comes around, would she be a "maid" or "matron" of honor?
2007-01-19 03:54:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'm not an expert in this field by any means, but I think the difference between a maid and a matron is marriage. The fact that she is no longer married doesn't change that she ever was... once you've been married, you are no longer a maid, even if the husband goes away. I would say she is the Matron by technicality. If it doesn't really matter to you, I would discuss it with her and ask her which term she would prefer. She may not like the term matron because of the divorce, but may feel like more than a "maid" because she has a child.
2007-01-19 04:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by darienx19 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would say Matron. She has been married previously and has a child. I believe that Maid is reserved for those who have never been married.
2007-01-19 12:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My thought is that a woman who has never been married is the Maid of honor, if she is (or has been) I would refer to her as the Matron.
Could be a personal choice, however, like a bride who is not a virgin on her wedding day wearing white.
2007-01-19 11:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Matron.
2007-01-21 03:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since she has been married and may still go by mrs. i believe she is still considered a matron of honor.
2007-01-19 12:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Since your cousin is technically single, she would be the maid of honour. But you can have her be the matron is you so desire. I googled this and it said that there is no hard fast rule to follow.
I would ask her which she would prefer when you ask her to be in your wedding.
Unless you want her to be one or the other. It's your wedding and up to you!
Best of luck to you.
2007-01-19 12:06:43 · answer #6 · answered by michellecdnd 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would vote for maid of honor, but I'm not sure.
To completely rid yourself of any of this confusion and back and forth, perhaps you could designate her has your Honor Attendant.
2007-01-19 12:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal P 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
so as to not show favortism why not just let everybody be honor attendants instead of designating just two for the honor
2007-01-19 14:15:59 · answer #8 · answered by luckyduck2006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unmarried woman (OR a young girl) is a maid.
2007-01-19 11:58:45 · answer #9 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's been married, therefore, she is a "matron".
2007-01-19 16:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋