one of my girlfriends friends was told that i do drugs but i dont and now she doesnt really like me what do i do becuase i want her friends to trust me.
2007-01-19 03:52:11 · 11 answers · asked by Kyle l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
who care what your gf friend thinks. once your girlfriend trusts you and you're really not using then i dont think you should have anything to worry about. But if you really want her trust, then talk to her about it, coz thats all you can really do.
2007-01-19 03:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by Bloo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a REALLY DIFFICULT problem that goes a LOT FARTHER than just wanting to be 'friends' with this girl and her friends. I think you need to 'attack' it in two different ways ... first by going to an ADULT you can trust and telling them that your 'reputation' has been 'damaged' because of the 'false statement about drug use' that was made about you. Talk about everything that you could possibly do to 'fix' your reputation, but DO NOT try to do this without ADULT help. THEN you need to ask your 'lost friend' to meet you in a 'neutral place' and ask HER to help you with the same problem. Tell her that you've missed her and your friendship, and ASK what you should do to get her to trust you again.
NONE of this may do any good, but you will start to feel a lot better about yourself if you deal with this in an adult, reasonable way. If you can't 'repair' things, then you must simply 'get on with your life' knowing that the 'damage' done to you was NOT THE TRUTH, and try to live your life in a way that will, over time, show people that you are 'sober' and 'trustworthy.' It's a lot better to have 'no friends' for a little while, than to do something that seems to 'fix' things or to 'give in to them' (by taking drugs, since you've already been damned, for instance) but actually could do YOU a lot more harm. Good luck.
2007-01-19 12:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me understand: Your girlfriend indicates that she "doesn't like you" because of something another "friend" claimed about you? If there is no truth to the charge, then just chalk it up to a misunderstanding and go on with your life. There are always those who stand ready to slander another for various selfish reasons. If your girlfriend has no more trust in you than to believe others over you, it is unlikely she is the one for you anyway.
2007-01-19 12:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up for yourself. If you really don't do drugs, then confront that person who started the rumor and clear your name. Is your girlfriend okay with this rumor? Does she still trust you? If you say "yes" to both of these questions, then you shouldn't care what some chatty little rumor setting girls have to say.
The only person you need to worry about trusting you is your girlfriend.
Good Luck.
2007-01-19 11:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by megabites42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is probably not a lot you can do other than wait. You don't do drugs and you know that. In time the truth will come out. Just be patient.
2007-01-19 11:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by richard555 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them the truth. thats about all you can do. if they dont believe you than you cant do a whole lot to sway their minds. Maybe you all could hang out more together so that they can see the type of person you are and taht your are not a druggie.
2007-01-19 11:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by rachie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all talk with her and tell the truth...second: if she doesn't trust you...step back...she will eventually find out the truth if she really likes you.
Be patient!
2007-01-19 12:02:59 · answer #7 · answered by invisible1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth. Explain it and say you'd like to not have any conflict with her cause you like her and don't want to effect the realtionship with your girlfriend and you cause you care for her.
Also tell her that it's her choice to make all you can do is tell her the truth and hope she accepts it and you all can still be friends.
2007-01-19 11:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Rabbit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a drug test and give her the results? i don't know. if she doesn't believe you then why do you want to be with someone that won't trust you anyway?
2007-01-19 11:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by azjen77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. She was never your friend to begin with if she believed someone over you. She didn't even ask you about it.
2007-01-19 11:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋