i dont know what to do?

Question

hi im 14 yr old boy and i got lots of problems i dont go to skool i am in trouble for criminal damage 3 times i mess about and dont listen to anyone but noone knows why i do this i never met my dad and my brothers and sisters dont live with me because the live with dad and 2 work and have family so im the youngest i get bored smash break do what eva i want and if people want me to change i am NOT. NEVER but my mum is angry and upset and said why did i need to even have you i see nothign in you that what she said and i used to be great but when i got older and no dad or brother cois they dont want to live here and i feel left out i see social worker dr and youth afenders and i will NOT change my life its already messed up what do i care i wanted to be a DOCTOR when i grow up but i dont think so now properly drugs all tho i never wanted to become this perosn i have now and i dont want to change. IM CONFUSSED i dont like my mum geting in trouble because ofme and angry any tips anything?

Answer 1

If your not willing to change, your life will only spiral further in the downwards motion...
You need to change, throwing hissy fits is not grown up at all...If you love your mom, you will change....

Answer 2

Maybe I cannot understand all of your problems or situation,
but I think many people blamed YOU for things that were nothing really you could do anything about? Also I understand you'd like to stay where you are right now rather than go back to your family, even you feel you are lonely, right?
Well, for now, stay where you are until you get bored there - you'll get bored sooner than you think! Then you'll feel more comfortable about changes.
Look around you, is there anyone you'd like to be when you grow up? When you ask this question three or four times yourself and if answe is always yes, stick to that person and try to have a good relationship with that person. Maybe you'll change yourself to be like that someone. If you don't have anyone quite that admirable, you need to move on.
Going back to your family is the best move you can do, I mean best ground stone you can step on, almost always all the time. If you are really, really lost, go back to your family and see if they can help you. You need to face your angry mom, so do it when you feel you are brave enough.
Remember, deep in their heart they care about you, they just don't speak same language with you (unfortunately) so they raise their voices - even they don't really want to fight with you! Let the angry and tense moment pass (by listen to them, I know it's difficult, so meet your family when you ready), and tell them where you are, what you want, what you coudn't do and what you could do. Once you do that, then magic will happen in your life! I promise you!! Yet you don't have to do it today - just do so when you are ready.

Answer 3

HI im 14 too and im been through the exact same thing the only i can tell u 2 do is wait it out u really dont have a choice becuz the more u try to find out a way to get over it the more confused u will be feel me? its a never ending cycle.

Answer 4

You will change simply because you are still young and as you grow up you mature and your priorities and outlook changes.

Secondly you say you dont wanna hurt your mum but by acting the way you do you are hurting her and more than you realise.

I would also question if you dont have a condtion like ADHD or similar.

If you carry on and do nothing you are likely to end up in prison and if you dont like the person you have becvome why do you not want to try to change that?

You need help but you have to want to help and want to change

Answer 5

I used to be like you. You need to find love in yourself. Life is not a dream. You can't live iwth your mom forever. You need to start taking some responsibility for yourself. Stop doing drugs, start obeying the law. I was never good in school, but just finish it! Get a job. Start doing things for other people. You can change, it's never too late to change your life around. I promise!

Answer 6

You need to go to school, if you need proof of that, look at how your question looks and sounds. School is the only way to a great career and a good life. Crime is stupid and the criminals are weak and choose the easiest way to make money. Try to challenge yourself to be smart and successful, everyone loves a good challenge. Trust me, education is the smartest thing you can do for yourself.

Answer 7

Well if you're not going to change you will just get worse. you NEED to change, have a positive attitude. Find something you enjoy, a sport? a musical instrument? SOmething that will stop you from misbehaving. Surely these Drs should be helping you?

Answer 8

if you love yr mum and you want her to be happy learn to listen to her, try to consider what she's trying to say. nobody can change you except for yourself. why don't you wanna change? do you like this kind of life? smashing things and getting into trouble what good does it do for you? You never wanted to be the person you've become, there is still room for you to change. You still have a long way to go. You have to decide which way you want to go, for yourself and for your mum sake. as long you still get into trouble, yr mum would be troubled too. think abt it. speak to yr mum abt wat is bothering you.she's the best person to help

Answer 9

You Have a Father in Heaven God don't forget that. He LOVES you. He gave his son for all of us. I didn't know my Dad ether. But I know I am a better person now. Than if I lived with him back then. Turn to GOD and pray that he helps you to change your life and your ways. Ask GOD to help you. Don't forget change is hard don't give up. I will pray for you. I know when things are hard you don't what to hear about GOD but you need to. IT WORKS.

Answer 10

14 is a very young age, plenty of time to change, it will have to start with you and only you, ask a counselor at school to set you up with a physiologist, I can assure you are not the only one to be in this situation, trust the system, it works if you allow change