I'm not talking normal pissed off, I'm talking pissed off about a catastrophic, life-changing event that is totally out of my control. There is nothing I can do to change the situation that is making me so furious (believe me, I've looked at it from every angle), and I don't even know what to do with myself. I go from total rage to hysterical crying, to feeling so empty that I can barely breathe, all within minutes. I know I am whining/complaining, etc., and it's not like me at all. I just have no idea how to get over this and move in with my life, which I now have to totally reassemble. Any clues on how to immediately deal with the rage? Anger management is not an option, nor is counseling. I've tried exercise with no luck. What do you do when you feel this hopeless, worthless, empty, and furious????
2007-01-19 03:47:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I've been there...It sounds like this life changing ordeal happened recently, hence the rage. It won't last forever...the next phase you will be in will probably deep sadness and depression, then back to being angry...
I don't know what to tell you to do to rid yourself of your feelings. All I have learned is just because you have every right to be angry doesn't me you HAVE to be.
And one thing I can promise you...If you choose, this life changing circumstance can be the best thing that EVER happens to you...you said it yourself, that you have to "totally reassemble" your life. There is great magic and power there...If you have to reassemble it, then you can make it into absolutely ANYTHING you want it to be...throw out the junk as you sift through the rubble; keep what is important. In the mean time, try to reexamine all the good/positive things about your life--what you have to be thankful for...one of these days, this problem will be something you are grateful for.
Chin up...and don't break the law!
2007-01-19 03:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by єЖтяα ¢яιѕρψ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's some free advice, from someone who knows what your talking about. You might as well calm down before you hurt yourself or someone else, it will only compound the problem. There is nothing in this world that you are facing, that no one else hasn't, at one time or another. Unless, they live on a different planet. Please, do not start drinking alcohol or taking drugs. Misery learns how to swim it's way to the top. So forget that. What you need to do is dump it on a counselor, group, or a private practitioner. Right now, you feel there is no solution. But, when there seems like permanent damage has been done, there are only a few solution options. Some are, Acceptance, Prayers, One day at a time, and Time which heals all. I'm sorry I am using some vague cliche's but, you aren't giving up any details here.
If this helps, I went through ALL of this at one time. Divorce, Cancer, my best friend totaled my car with me in it, which caused a perm. disability, and a couple of other things I wish not to mention. They also were traumatic. You have to buck-up, and face what ever it is, but you don't have to do it alone, no matter what it is.
Why not counseling? There are free ways to approach this! No matter how horrific it seems to you. Please believe me, when I tell you there's not anything you could say that would surprise me, or someone else that may have seen or done worse.
If it's out of your control, you need advice from someone who knows how to help you get yourself in control.
2007-01-19 04:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may want to try something like meditation. Try and get in a calm room or location - no people - no pets - no distractions. Then sit quietly and focus on your breathing - try and think of someplace that you find relaxing - you know like a river or the beach someplace you find peaceful. Now focus on your breathing. and don't think about what is troubling you. Try and do this a few minutes at a time (it takes a lot of practice to calm down.
The idea is to clear your mind and get it to relax so you can think clearer. I know I have been so mad - sad- angry and just aggggggg that nothing can consul me and the only way I cold find peace was to slow down and relax and do nothing. Oh sure exercise helps too but things makes the brain slow down and come to terms with a shitty situation.
Good luck!
2007-01-19 04:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by jezzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you SURE you cannot change whatever the situation is?
If you can't...you can ONLY change yourself, this is the one thing in life that we have control over...ourselves.
We have more power than we realize....because changing ourselves often affects those around us, makes the situation more bearable.
If you could go back...perhaps you would've made a different choice, heading off such a negative outcome. Learn from this, gain strength and move on.
This level of anger will subside....you'll finally get sick or completely wear yourself down. Make sure you ARE NOT blaming others for this situation, it'll take you a helluva a lot longer to get past the anger if you blame another.
Carefully look at the situation...take responsibility for your part...you probably had a lot more power over it than you realize. It's easier to forgive yourself than it is to forgive others.
You're frustrated right now....time and reflection are the only way to get through this. Luckily, our traumas in life are temporary....after the initial shock soaks in...we build our lives around whatever situation is. I'm mainly referring to chronic diagnosis' and situations that we cannot change.
MOST of what life throws are way can be contained if we face it head on...no denial, no blame...once we get past the normal shock of whatever it is.
I wish you the VERY best of luck, I mean that...
2007-01-19 05:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by weebleswobble 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RAGE is a vice that is easy to indulge in, when you feel yourself building up pressure, you must release it before you blow. Try focusing on your breathing first, and THINK,THINK, THINK.
Ask yourself why anger management is not an option, when your having difficulty managing your anger.
I suggest you seek some sort of professional help with your behavioral health issues.
2007-01-19 13:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and do something you totally enjoy, spoil yourself a little bit.
You're feeling out of control so take back a little control by doing exactly what you want, when you want even if it is only for a weekend!
Realize staying angry, is simply a waste of your time and energy. So get mad and then get over it
2007-01-19 03:59:07 · answer #6 · answered by puckbunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i get pissed its like in a flash no one is in the room which there is
i spaze right the f**k out.im very mean with words and i always make the person leave crying, i get violent and i just sream my head off, its like a 4 year old not getting her way i guess you can say.
my vision gets blurry and distorted and i see white, then i just start crying and my adreneline justs gets out of wack then when im done my body drops like some sweet gravity of mistrust in myself
i really cant control it i just cant, its like BAMM a brain anurisum, i just snap even on the littlest and stupid things eg: when my fiance eats the last of the lunch meat and doesnt tell me
seriously i go offside
say it with me offside, offside, offside hehe
im just a tickin time bomb and when i explode .................its like being in hell and everyone around me fleet away.
i may be tiny and scrawny but i can pack quite the punch and insults like a master
2007-01-19 04:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
By realizing that all of your ranting, raving, huffing and puffing resolves nothing. It only makes you appear more foolish.
When things are out of our control, you accept it because there is no other option. Dwelling on it is pointless.
2007-01-19 03:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by S H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope this helps you. Recently, I thought I was dying. The first thing that came to my mind was to beg God to help me. I cried out to God, begging him to help me live. I wanted to live desperately. I got relief from God and He is still helping me today. Everyday, I spend an hour of so reading his word and praying to Him for saving my soul and guiding me the way He wants me to go. I found a great preacher online and I have learned so much from him. He is great and tells it like it is. I see one of his messages almost every day. I pray with him online.
Please consider this for yourself. You should prepare yourself so when your time comes, you will go to heaven and be with God. We all can be saved by the Grace of God. Just ask Him and He will do it for YOU, too. He will help you make your life here the best it can be.
Pray for you to look at your life from the angle of God's point of view. His is the best that there is.
God Bless You. Reach out to God. He is watching over you, ready to help you. Just pray to Him or just ask Him Right Now.
God help me get control of my feelings. Lord, help me to get control of my life, Help Me to know what to do with myself. Show me the way. Thank you God for helping me right now.
Amen
2007-01-19 04:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by Barbra 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Accept your helplessness and as they say in Alcoholics Anonymous,..." Let Go and Let God "
2007-01-19 04:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋