How do i get over a crush?

Question

So my crush went out of town for a month a month ago and now he is back. While he was gone i kinda stopped liking him.
Now that he is back I think my feelings are coming back but im not sure. I kinda feel sick about him, like i feel like i kinda dislike him yet i still have feelings for him. It's weird. I think i was trying to MAKE myself hate him and it started to work but now that he is back it's not working anymore. I deleted him from his myspace and i got jealous when i looked at his girls page so im about to delete her. I hate this... It's so unfair.
How do i get over a crush? This has been going on since the beginning of the school year.
Meeting new guys doesnt help and its all i can think about.
Yes he knows how i feel and even flirted with me.. He even insinuated(sp) that he would mess around with me even though he has a girl.

Answer 1

Umm...insinuated that he would "mess around" with you even though he has a gf? If he is talking like that to you while he's with her, he would have NO problems thinking the same way if you two were together. That in itself should be enough to make you want to move on. eww....

Answer 2

First off this is just a crush it does not seem it has escalated into a relationship, affair, or any other fling. He might want to mess around with you but if he is in a committed relationship and loves the girl he is with he will not think of jeopardizing it with you, he could be playing you about messing around with you, just don't get you hopes up. You need to move on and find someone else you can can share you life with, don't try to make this crush more then it is because it is just a crush. You have to be willing to tell yourself it not worth what you thought it was and that you need to find thing you are interested in and do those things hang out with your friends if you have to. On his part he needs to quit flirting with you and focus on his relationship and let it be what it will never become. You can't control what you want something be because it has turned out that way. Just move on and see it as a lesson in life.

Answer 3

First of all I would like to compliment you on how intelligent you sound and how well you wrote that. It sounds to me like you are a very smart girl that knows herself and I think you will be just fine. Yes, you probably did try and talk yourself into hating him...that's what we do! It usually doesn't work and the feelings come back to the surface eventually. And then you throw some jealousy into the mix and it can really get confusing. If you have any doubts about liking him, you don't truly like him. Simple as that. As for getting over someone, time is the only real solution.

Answer 4

I don't think you really like this guy. If you were able to forget about him during his absence, i would say you really don't like him.

These feelings of jealousy and upset at seeing his girl page on myspace is just jealousy, not affection.

Its hard because you have to see him everyday at school, but just make sure you guys don't hang together, and stay away from his friends. It's painful. I remember those days. But your feelings will change eventually.
In the meantime, DO NOT fool around with him!!

Answer 5

believe me i know how you feel but the best thing to do is keep busy. Whenever you find yourself thinking about him just get up and do something, furthermore he doesnt sound like a good guy to have a crush on anyway since he insinuated that he would cheat on his girlfriend with you..so...just give yourself sometime and keep busy.

Answer 6

you shouldnt want to be with someone that would cheat. if he'll do it to his current, he'll do it to you if you guys ever hooked up. id tell the girlfriend that he's a slease. then you can get revenge for him stringing you along- which is exactly what he's doing. guys like it when girls are into them and they know about it, regardless if they reciprocate the feelings. get a new guy and act like he doesnt exist. he obviously likes being worshipped by you so drop him. you'll know he's craving your attention if he tries to get in contact with you. then you guys can hang out and mess around and ignore him again. and tell his girl. he'll be more of a mess than you are now. plus you'll be over this loser!

Answer 7

The best way to get over a crush is to find a new one. I know easier said than done. If i really wanted to get over someone i would just pick a guy that i know i couldnt date but that i could flirt and have fun with. I would focus all my attention on them and avoid the person i was trying to get over. Otehr than that it jsut takes time.

Answer 8

Get over it. Its just a crush. They come and go. There's dozens of guys that are available and don't have a girlfriend that their going to cheat on with you. A guy that will fool around with you while he has a girl, is a dog. Get over it. He obviously wasn't worth crushing over in the first place.

Answer 9

Your a woman you need to think of yourself as the prettiest girl in the world have confidence in your self if he talks to you say your busy talking to some other guy, have confidence you can get any man you want. he'll end up liking you more or you forgetting hes there. Talk to some other interesting guys go on dates. Most importantly respect your self.

Carmen/21/Houston TX.

Answer 10

find other things to do so you dont have too much time to sit around and think of him plus hes not the guy you want to be with if he acts like he would cheat on his girlfriend with you the if he was with you he would cheat on you too make more time s for friends and getting things done that you usually put off the more u occupy your day the less you will think of him eventually whole days will go by without you even thinking of him