I have a friend who i been friends with for 1 year and she called me one day and asked me would i have a threesome with her and her boyfriend but she said her boyfriend wanted to know so i said no. She said she was scared i was gonna get mad but i was being a friend by being nice and not cussing her out. A week later her and her boyfriend were together and she called and asked again and i said no again and she asked that her boyriend said what about me and her and i said no i dont do things like that and her boyfriend got mad i feel that he is pressuring her would i be wrong to ask her if she is gay or is it him that want this
2007-01-19 03:36:37 · 20 answers · asked by Danielle A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you would not be wrong. They are asking you personal questions so you can get all up in their business also and ask them personal questions.
2007-01-19 03:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by Roxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just keep on being a friend to her. It sounds like this guy is pressuring her into doing someone that she doesn't really want to do. What an odd situation for her to be in if you think about it? You need to be very firm and tell her that you have no desire to do that and that you know for sure it would ruin your friendship. Maybe also let her know that you are supportive of her and her relationship, but you don't feel a 3-way would be a wise move to make. From what I've seen, guys that want to be with 2 women will be with 2 women, whether it's at the same time or not...if you know what I'm saying.
2007-01-19 11:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by azjen77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it. Does her bf love her? if yes, he would NEVER be pressuring or even ASKING for three-somes.
She might call you scared but thats just an excuse to change your mind. Stick to your ways, you dont want to do it - DONT.
I was asked too, I said NO WAY & hang-up. They understood that I was not a person to mess with & I have limits and boundaries which I stick to and do not cross no matter how intimidating these people were to me.
Tell your friend & her boyfriend to **** themselves with a knife.
Peace.
2007-01-19 11:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by babycake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As friends you two should just be open enough to talk about it. I am guessing this is something more that he wants but she is feeling alot of pressure about it. I think if she wanted it , she would have said something to you sooner about it. Just ask her when you get her alone for a moment. She will probably love being able to talk about it with you.
2007-01-19 11:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you are REALLY friends, then you should be able to ask her with no problem. It seems like this is really troubling you, so call her up or meet up with her when her boyfriend is NOT around, that way she can be straight forward with you and not worry about anything he might say to her
2007-01-19 11:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by Mister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be truthfull with your friend.
She may be scared of him. Well done for sticking to your guns.
It sound to me like he is the instigator and she can do better.
Its obvious he has no love or respect for her. Just hope that sometime soon she will realise this for herself.
Keep strong for your friend. Explain to her why you said no. Build up her self asteem because it may be feeling a little battered right now.
Then the best thing you can do is be patient and hope she see's him for what he really is.
A pathetic looser.
2007-01-19 11:44:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To ask her if she is being pressured by her boyfriend would be a good thing to do. But it is obvious that your lifes are run a bit different I would probably pull away from this "freindship"
2007-01-19 12:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by judy_74074 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a friend and was able to ask you the things she did, then you should be able to ask her if she is being pressured by him. You should be able to be open with her and ask her if she likes girls as well as guys.
I don't think it would be out of place at all.
she has crossed over the line by asking you.... what is the difference here, none... ask her.
2007-01-19 11:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how emphatic about your NO. Maybe you should consider getting a bit mean with your friend in order for her to realize that no means no. Don't give her a chance to debate with you. If you are considering the idea of participating as requested, then just be forward about it.
2007-01-19 11:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds to me that he is pressuring her to do something that she don't want to do and that is why she keep asking you would you do it, and when she tell her b/f your answer he keep making her ask you again and again b/c he figure that eventually you will say yes but it wouldn't hurt to ask her if she is gay but do it in a friendly manner don't just out and out ask her be nice when you ask her then tell her that she don't have to do nothing that she don't want to do and seems like he is bossing her around
2007-01-19 11:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by $MoneyMaker$ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋